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Experience A dating coach, specializing in "second time around" dating for men and women re-entering the dating scene after divorce. Also an online dating profile writer for e-cyrano.com for two years working with men and women across the country and around the world with excellent results. "The profile Leslie wrote for me was wonderful, and I really enjoyed speaking with her on the phone. I'm looking forward now to lots more fun in the future with all the dates I get!" -- Robyn, Sydney, Australia.
I'm 27 years old and I have 2 roommates, one is 22 and the other 24. Back in February they both screamed at me for forgetting to clean the apartment for 4 weeks. It was my turn to do it that month and I completely forgot every weekend because I had a lot of exams and they didn't have any exams. So they got really angry, screaming at me and saying a lot of rude things.
But after that I have always helped them clean, so it is ok. We haven't had any problems after that.
However, whenever I walk by their rooms I always hear both of them whispering about me and my name being said, they are gossiping about whatever they don't like about me, and when I walk by they stop talking and look embarrassed. They are both smirking and laughing about me quietly.
So it is June now and I am moving out of the apt this August and will be moving back in with my parents. So I have 11 more weeks to live with them.
I thought I would just ignore it for the next 11 weeks and just concentrate on school.
Or should I mention something to them? It's getting reeeeeeally annoying. I know 3 months will be here soon enough...but still...eleven weeks is a long time when you're constantly being talked about.
thanks
Answer Laurie,
Eleven weeks under those circumstances sound like an eternity to me, at least the end is in sight. Look for an opportunity to mention your feelings to one of your roommates when the other is not around. I think it would be much more productive to speak to one alone rather than the two together.
Keep it light and non-confrontational, but let her know you are feeling uncomfortable, you'd like to work things out, and what can you guys do to make the next few months better for everyone. Try to avoid going into detail and blaming one another: There's no point. Your goal is to work out a plan, so everyone feels at home.
