Dating at Midlife/Question?


MO wrote at 2015-01-18 17:25:39
There are many facts that were either minimized or overlooked entirely.  Immediately after it happened, I was working with a guy who said he knew, and trained with Goldman and this co-worker was the first person I ever heard say Goldman was a black belt in Karate.  My co-worker also said there is no way a black belt could be taken down by a lone assailant, let alone a 50 something year old, who was attacking not one, but two people.  Goldman was in his mid 20's.  All the news media stations described Goldman and Nicole as "friends".  Even Wikipedia describes their meeting the day of the murders in terms that leads the reader to believe they had just met that day.  I never thought OJ did it.  Specifically, I never thought he could have done it.  The fact that Goldman fought hard and long was another fact that wasn't widely published and with the exception of a single finger cut, the Juice was pristine.  A close, unbiased view of the facts would make a good non - fiction movie.....

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Philip Belove, Ed.D.


Hi. I`m Philip Belove (that is my name, really). I`m 71 and I`ve been a psychologist all my midlife, the past 35 years. My specialty has been counseling and coaching other midlife adults.  I think we all figure things out as we go along, but even more so at midlife. Being between 40-ish and 60-ish and single is like being a stranger in a strange land. I`ve learned which questions help people find their own way. I created this category, I publish a blog at and I write articles for various web sites. My commitment is to help people 1) understand and improve how they deal with others, 2) understand the forces that rule the relationships they are in, and 3) make the decisions which will shape, or create, or end those relationships  so they achieve the goal of midlife development  to finally live with personal satisfaction. I`ve been divorced twice myself. I`m in a satisfying relationship with a fine person. I`m very interested in learning about your challenges and in offering what I can.


Professionally: Licensed Psychologist. Marriage and Family Therapist. Coach.Author. University Lecturer. Personally: I'm 71. I've probably made all the big mistakes, er, learned the big lessons.I've forgiven myself and made many apologies and I've made it into a good, stable, sweet relationship. I now have a perspective on midlife.

Please check out my book, Rabbis in Love, at Also my blog at The Rabbi book was done as part of a research project. My collaborator, Marilyn Bronstein, and I wanted to interview couples with very successful marriage and also we wanted to talk to people who cared as much about their spirituality as love. Maybe being able to love and be spiritual were one and same, we thought. So we found a rabbi couple and the interview was so astounding that we interviewed nine more rabbi couples. One dropped. They'd revealed too much. It's a fascinating book and, Jewish or not, religious or not, these couples do a lot of things right and there is a lot to learn from them.

Masters in Counseling Psychology, Alfred Adler Institute Doctorate in Consulting Psychology, focus on family therapy, University of Massachusetts at Amherst

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