Expert: Valerie - 8/22/2006

Question
Valerie,
  Out of all the self proclaimed experts on this subject on this site, I am wondering how any of you could really justify calling yourselves experts and whether you all may just be trying to heal your own wounds, save one...Dr. Belove.      Now, that name does sound a bit hokey...but, the rest of you, as evidenced by your responses,  give only 3 sentence answers to some very complicated, long winded questions and do not claim to have any degrees in this field.   He does seem to delve very deeply into peoples problems and make a great attempt to answer them in the long form.                                              The very nature of the internet allows people to be very deceptive if they so choose. (not saying that any of you misrepresented yourselves)    But, there are a lot of hurting, vulnerable people out there who may be ready to take any advise in a time of crisis.   And, I am wondering how a site that calls themselves "allexperts" can have a conscience in providing - these so called experts.
  That leads me to wonder if Dr. Belove could even just be a very concerded student in this field and not a licensed practioner as he so claims.   There does not seem to be any screening process in what they (this site)  - call experts!
  Are you just responding to impulsive, hurting people and hoping to make yourselves feel superior in this process?
Jeanie  

Answer
Jeanie,

First let me say, you apparently have never read my responses to the people who write to me.  I spend many hours answering questions regarding dating in Mid-Life. I have never written 3 sentences!  In fact, I have several women who continually write to me for advice.

Secondly who are you to judge me!  I have researched and talked to hundreds of women who have relationship problems.

I write to women who are looking for advice.  And that is all I am offering!  Have you ever been through a heart breaking relationship situation and needed someone to talk to?  An outsider who will listen unbias?

It seems through my so called, "Expertise" I have been able to help many woman in need!

I don't know how old you are, but if you have any idea of life, you will know by your own experience that a DEGREE does not make you an expert.  A DEGREE shows that you can go through schooling, learn what the books tell you and repeat back that information through an exam to get a piece of paper, called a degree.

"LIFE" experiences give you a DEGREE IN LIFE!  I have a degree in life and I am sharing that information with the woman I offer advice to.

Jeanie, I can offer you some advice - get a life of your own and stop worrying about other people who trust someone else's advice.

Valerie