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Dating at Midlife/Questions Answered by Expert Azure
| Subject | Date Asked |
| relationship after divorce | 4/29/2011 |
| Q: I have been with my man 4 for years. He has been divorced 3 years. Last year I tried to live at his ... A: so after 4 years, is there a plan to just live together full time?...the fact that you can't go ... | |
| Disappears and then rambles about marriage? | 4/26/2011 |
| Q: I went on a date with a very pleasant gentleman who was extremely shy but sweet and honest. Kind and ... A: i'm not sure you really want to sign up for all his issues...you haven't even dated and he's goin on ... | |
| never thought this would happen | 11/8/2010 |
| Q: I met a guy at my work in this tiny office building. We only work there 1-2 days a week, for 4 hour ... A: if you're inclined to do it, you can't worry about what others think, as sooner or later, it won't ... | |
| widow/dating | 7/22/2010 |
| Q: It's a bit complicated,but I will try to ask as easy as possible. How do I get over the anger/hurt ... A: first, read "the four agreements" by ruiz..one of them is "don't take anything personally"..next, ... | |
| very confused and alone | 7/12/2010 |
| Q: I found out recently that I am pregnant. I am now 8 weeks. I have a boyfriend I have been with for 2 ... A: though you may want it to be differently, his feelings are as they are--he obviously didn't want to ... | |
| Should I stay or should she go? | 7/12/2010 |
| Q: I am a 43 year old woman recently engaged to a 39 year old man (John). We have both been previously ... A: i say you split; the whole thing sounds pretty unhealthy, and who REALLY knows what he's doin with ... | |
| dating question | 4/9/2010 |
| Q: I'm hoping you can help me. I was divorced almost 4 years ago after a 20-year marriage(I initiated ... A: i doubt there's anything "wrong"..it's just a matter of trial and error; i think if/when someone ... | |
| players who settle | 3/17/2010 |
| Q: There are many very handsome men who are longtime confirmed bachelors, such as George Clooney, etc. ... A: you're assuming alot about women you don't know; 50% has to do with the fact that the guys are ... | |
| wake up call | 3/8/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for two and a half years. We've lived together for nearly two ... A: INFORM him that these impulsive changes of heart are insensitive, inconsiderate, and no longer ... | |
| When to ask him why he is still on dating site | 2/25/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating a man who lives about 3 hours from me for a month. We are both in our mid ... A: after just 3 dates, i wouldn't be inquiring about it--you've already chosen to sleep with him, not ... | |
| NO-STRINGS SEX & AGE DIFFERENCE | 8/21/2009 |
| Q: Azure. I am a 48 year old divorced woman and have not had a sexual relationship in almost six years, ... A: "appropriate" depends on who's judging--unless you care alot about what others may think (assuming u ... | |
| Relationship question | 7/19/2009 |
| Q: I am 50 and have been in a relationship with a man, 56, for 1 1/2 years. We are together almost all ... A: depends what your "requirements" are for continuing; if you need/want/require more, you need to ... | |
| Separted and Dating in a Crappy Economy | 7/5/2009 |
| Q: Ok. I have been dating a man (55yrs old) for almost 2 years who has been separated from his wife. ... A: it's not about external guidelines or right/wrong..it's about figuring out what you REQUIRE in order ... | |
| Getting over Ex | 6/28/2009 |
| Q: We knew each other about 6 years before we got together we worked for the same company and became ... A: everyone in this, except for the daughter, has some important adjustments to make; first, him; he ... | |
| 3-year relationship | 6/2/2009 |
| Q: Azure - You recently answered my question about getting my boyfriend to propose. Unfortunately, ... A: i'm assuming it's HIS place, otherwise there'd be no reason YOU'D have to leave; okay, the deal is ... | |
| marriage | 5/27/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend Michael and I are 60 and both divorced. We have been together for 3 years. I moved in ... A: not sure how the 2d "ceremony" would work once already married, but i'll assume you have that piece ... | |
| boyfriend's memorabilia from ex | 5/22/2009 |
| Q: I moved in with my boyfriend, Jim, after knowing each other for 2 and a half years and going through ... A: you just answered your question in the last paragraph--if you brought this up, it would be YOU on ... | |
| My girl thinks I am a coward | 3/9/2009 |
| Q: I have lived with my girlfriend for more than two years now. I recently returned from Iraq and while ... A: unless she somehow got the erroneous impression that you were somehow SIDING with him, she is ... | |
| wake up call | 2/18/2009 |
| Q: Is it possible that after a year and a half of knowing each other-you've become best friends, You ... A: he's essentially giving you alot of jive; "thinks" about dating??...he's already doing that, just ... | |
| can this be corrected? | 12/9/2008 |
| Q: I'm 49 & have known this guy( same age) about 8 months.We're both divorced. We live in a small town. ... A: two different issues--first, stop blaming yourself and stop feeling guilty--it's no great flaw to on ... | |
| mid-life dating/condoms/std | 10/17/2008 |
| Q: I am 44 (divorced) and started dating a 51 (never married) man about 3 months ago. About 1 month ... A: you're missing a considerate boyfriend; no one cares what other women, his peers, and therapist ... | |
| dating a widower | 4/29/2008 |
| Q: i met a wonderful man through the personals. he is everything i have ever wanted. he told me he had ... A: not sure what your question is, so i'll just make some general comments; the daughter, the kid, the ... | |
| major boyfriend crisis | 3/7/2008 |
| Q: For the past ten months, I have been going through the most difficult ordeal of my life. Ten months ... A: to wait a YEAR would be tough---10 years plus would be insanity; love is not a good criteria for ... | |
| Complete lack of self-confidence | 1/1/2008 |
| Q: I'm a woman, 44, with a daughter, 13. I'm just getting divorced after 14 years (and being separated ... A: i'd love to just say "be confident" and your problems would be solved, but i realize it may not be ... | |
| boyfriend in prison | 12/10/2007 |
| Q: i am 24 yrs old and in love with my boyfriend. we was planning on getting married but he got locked ... A: i wouldn't wait 5 years for ANYONE, let alone a guy in prison...it's not your fault he's in prison; ... | |
| After the break-up | 12/3/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I broke up two weeks ago, after seeing each other for a bit over two months. I made ... A: time to look at this with a different perspective; after only 2 months, thinking in terms of ... | |
| Friendship | 10/31/2007 |
| Q: I'm a female with a middle aged guy fried. When I first met him, he had trouble with his marriage ... A: we're all responsible for our own feelings... she, or he, can't MAKE you feel anything; right or ... | |
| divorce and dating | 8/16/2007 |
| Q: You seem like you are knowledgeable and objective. I am in a complicated situation. My boyfriends ... A: "wrong" implies a moral judgment, where opinions can differ; i personally don't consider the age ... | |
| Fidelity | 6/14/2007 |
| Q: I am in a serious relationship of almost a year. We have one major problem that continues to come ... A: if anything, he should apologize to YOU for putting you on this needless guilt trip due to his ... | |
| Is he blowing me off? | 4/28/2007 |
| Q: I am 43, so is this man. We were neighbors last year in the same apt building, but he had a steady ... A: don't expect alot--you offered no strings, casual sex, he accepted; to get too hung up analyzing his ... | |
| does he want me back? | 3/22/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend of 4 months was very loving, kind, gentle, and respectful, and very passionate. We were ... A: actually the REAL question is, why is your self-esteem so low and neediness so high, that you're ... | |
| relationship | 1/21/2007 |
| Q: I've been speaking to this guy bye phone for about three months now and still have not met him face ... A: no need to wait at all; it's more of a fantasy if smooth talk and promises of coming attractions are ... | |
| What could he be really feeling? | 1/1/2007 |
| Q: So I've been reading some previous answers about why men go for the younger gals...well in my case ... A: don't kid yourself--you've given him a convenient, non-exclusive, no obligation, no commitment free ... | |
| this drives me crazy... | 12/31/2006 |
| Q: I'm 50, slim, above average looks, intelligent, and a great sense of humor. I met an attractive and ... A: i agree--if they're TRULY interested, they'll ask you out; as to the lack of follow-thru, could be ... | |
| dating game not working | 6/30/2006 |
| Q: my name is Johnny. I emailed you a few times earlier this year (4-06-06) when I had met a lady and ... A: unfortunately, being disabled eliminates 98percent of the female population who wouldn't be ... | |
| met someone, need advice | 4/6/2006 |
| Q: my name is Johnny. I am 45, single, never married, no kids. I met a really neat gal back in feb. of ... A: your neediness has created overly high expectations, and may be causing her to step back; to her, ... | |
| There's a man i'm interested... | 9/13/2005 |
| Q: There's a man i'm interested in. actualy a lot of women are intested in him. But I'm tons cooler ... A: i don't recommend girls doing more than just being themselves--no chasing!...depletes your ... | |
| Hi, I'm interested in a... | 7/15/2005 |
| Q: I'm interested in a man, but he just got out of a 2 year relationship. I go to school where he works ... A: how bout just being yourself?..you shouldn't have to artificially manipulate his attentions; plus, i ... | |
| What was your degree supposed... | 6/13/2005 |
| Q: What was your degree supposed to be in? And why'd you drop out (if you didn't finish)? ... A: it would have been an MSW; i didn't like the school, didn't like living in nyc, didn't like the ... | |
| HARD TO TRUST AGAIN | 1/24/2005 |
| Q: I AM A 51 YEAR OLD MALE, NO CHILDERN AND NEVER BEEN MARRIED. I HAVE BEEN DRUG FREE FOR FIVE YEARS ... A: what are you scared of? if you had brain cancer, you'd have a legitimate fear.....factor in the ... | |
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can answer all inquiries relating to dating/relationships REGARDLESS of age or other factors, making the appropriate adjustments in thought/advice for each unique situation..tech editor, "dating for dummies", dr joy browne..BA psychology, graduate study, fordham univ school of social work..
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