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Dating at Midlife/Questions Answered by Expert Jeanne
| Subject | Date Asked |
| successful women and great love | 1/23/2012 |
| Q: im told by successful women i should be the provider of everything even though they have as much ... A: Yes, it does exist. Any reasonable woman would realize that both income and performing household ... | |
| move on? | 9/4/2011 |
| Q: I've gone on a few dates with a nice gentleman. We were supposed to go on a date on Friday. Friday ... A: Lourdes - It may or may not be a polite brushoff. In my experiences in dating, you really never ... | |
| Disappears and then rambles about marriage? | 4/26/2011 |
| Q: I went on a date with a very pleasant gentleman who was extremely shy but sweet and honest. Kind and ... A: Sally - Well, I'm not a psychologist, so I'm just giving you my impressions. It does seem ... | |
| Socio-economic class difference? | 4/24/2011 |
| Q: I've met a very kind, polite, generous, sweet, intelligent, handsome man who works as in investment ... A: It all depends on his attitude toward your social class and about how comfortable or uncomfortable ... | |
| re | 4/6/2011 |
| Q: I'm a doctor and I recently met a man online who was a lawyer. He was very handsome and smart and ... A: Nicolette - First, all sorts of people are on online dating sites - beautiful, ugly, short, ... | |
| Is he too self centered? | 3/27/2011 |
| Q: I have been divorced for 8 years and have dated quite a few men trying to find the right guy. I ... A: Annie - I can really relate to what you are saying. For 4 years I was involved with a man who ... | |
| Over forty and can't understand boyfriends | 3/14/2011 |
| Q: I've been dating this man for about 6 months. I really care about him. We are both in our early ... A: Bella - I think a lot would depend on how old his kids are and how they are taking the divorce. ... | |
| new love | 2/20/2011 |
| Q: i'm 50 yrs old & only divorced a few months. i would like to date only serious christians. i ... A: Marilyn - I have two suggestions. One is a free online dating service - plentyoffish.com. You ... | |
| Tired of ending up the fool | 5/11/2010 |
| Q: I'm interested in your take on my situation. I'm 44 and divorced about three years for a husband ... A: Renee - First of all I sincerely apologize for taking so long to reply to you. I really ... | |
| loving sex | 4/9/2010 |
| Q: why is it that women can live without this and men cant? A: What are you basing this on? Both men and women have a deep need for true intimacy, that is, ... | |
| dating question | 4/9/2010 |
| Q: "Hi, I'm hoping you can help me. I'm 44. I was divorced almost 4 years ago after a 20-year ... A: Rebecca - In my opinion it's a very good idea to be picky. As you know, living alone is not so ... | |
| broken trust | 4/5/2010 |
| Q: I wrote to you about a man whom I really like but he was in the midst of a break-up. We are good ... A: Gloria - You can't use logic to figure out why someone doesn't want to date you, but obviously ... | |
| cheating | 3/25/2010 |
| Q: I have been with the same man for 19 years (living together)we are not married (his choice, been ... A: You didn't give many details, so it's hard to say. However, if he cheated on you for 5 or 6 years, ... | |
| Wondering if it is worth hanging in a little longer | 12/21/2009 |
| Q: Jeanne, I'm 43 and have been in an exclusive relationship (both divorced, don't live together) with ... A: Renee - Sorry for not replying sooner. I was out of town for the holidays. You say you ... | |
| question | 6/5/2009 |
| Q: what do you think of marriage outside your race, religion, culture etc? A: I don't see any problem at all from a moral perspective, if that's what you mean. However, on a ... | |
| confused at 51 | 5/13/2009 |
| Q: I've been sober more than 1 year and have stayed out of relationships. Now I have a friend also ... A: I guess I misinterpreted your intentions, I think because you said you care deeply for this man. But ... | |
| confused at 51 | 5/12/2009 |
| Q: I've been sober more than 1 year and have stayed out of relationships. Now I have a friend also ... A: Jane - I don't want to be negative, but in my 8 years of dating after my divorce, I really ... | |
| Online dating | 5/8/2009 |
| Q: You say you met your husband online. I think that is great.I am 52 years old and have been divorced ... A: Donna - Sorry for my delay in responding. First of all, I certainly can sympathize with you. ... | |
| Future in-laws? | 1/17/2009 |
| Q: I really need your help to sort this issues. I've been going out with my bf for a year now(we live ... A: Daria - I understand your situation. Your family is very important to you. I think this is the ... | |
| finding someone who accepts my son | 11/12/2008 |
| Q: I am 42, single mom, attractive with 2 kids still at home (12 and 10). My youngest (son) is ... A: Lisa - I have some understanding of your situation because my son works with autistic children. ... | |
| Moving Forward and Letting Go | 11/6/2008 |
| Q: I hope I am in the right category...I am not really sure where to start. I have been in this ... A: Tawnya - You sound like a very strong, wise woman. You have been through a lot and I give you ... | |
| How do I star to date after a divorce and I have a 15 year old ? | 11/4/2008 |
| Q: So how do I start dating when I have a 15 year old? What and how does this work since I don't know ... A: Daisy - I don't know how old you are or anything else about you. I also don't know exactly why ... | |
| dating | 10/16/2008 |
| Q: I am dating an old friend from high school. I have been divorced for 15 years, but he has been only ... A: Lori - Well, I don't have anything to do with my ex-husband either. But that's because he's an ... | |
| Midlife Dating - Going on 2 Years and No Marriage in Sight | 9/25/2008 |
| Q: I met a wonderful man, the real love of my life. He says he feels the same way about me. We both ... A: Stacy - Well, from everything you have said, it sounds to me like this man does really love you. ... | |
| Midlife Dating - Going on 2 Years and No Marriage in Sight | 9/24/2008 |
| Q: I met a wonderful man, the real love of my life. He says he feels the same way about me. We both ... A: Well, I can certainly absolutely relate to everything you’re saying because I have been in the same ... | |
| I want to move on, but is it considered wrong? | 9/4/2008 |
| Q: I have been going through a divorce for 3 years. And finally, it is done. I have three children and ... A: Becca - Even though you've just gotten the divorce, your marriage has been over for 3 years. If ... | |
| Relationship | 8/26/2008 |
| Q: I have only met men who have been chronically ill online. So much so that one died after 5 months ... A: I am sure that your problem is not that you have a part-time job and no Master's degree. There ... | |
| what a single 42 yo mother wants | 8/11/2008 |
| Q: I'm 48 and father of a 6yo boy. I have 50/50 custody. 4 months back I met a woman (divorced 7 years ... A: James - I don't want to be negative, but my advice, for what it's worth, is not to waste any ... | |
| dating | 5/25/2008 |
| Q: Why is it that when a man puts his arms around a woman, it is the BEST feeling in the world? This ... A: Jaci - I can't answer your first question. You need to ask someone who is trained in ... | |
| Marring a man with grown children living at home | 1/11/2008 |
| Q: My boy friend and I have been talking about getting marry. He has a son 19 ,20 and 18 a daughter 12 ... A: Jacqueline - No, I think you are absolutely right in dumping him for this. Your son is a minor ... | |
| finding a life partner | 1/4/2008 |
| Q: circumstances and events mean that i have been single and not been active in dating scene for many ... A: Pat - Sorry for not getting back to you sooner. Match.com and yahoo personals have the widest ... | |
| finding a life partner | 1/2/2008 |
| Q: circumstances and events mean that i have been single and not been active in dating scene for many ... A: Pat - Well, first of all, if you have never gone to a counselor, I would highly recommend it. ... | |
| stood up | 10/7/2007 |
| Q: I met a very nice gentleman I was interested in and he asked for my number and gave me his. He was ... A: I'm sorry, but I really can't read his mind. Maybe he thought you were blowing him off since you ... | |
| friendship | 10/4/2007 |
| Q: I am in love with a women who is a friend( for 2 years ), but she has a bf she is going to ... A: There is no point in telling her you're in love with her seeing as how she's getting married. You ... | |
| call back | 9/29/2007 |
| Q: Let's say a guy gives you his phone number and you give him his, and he says he'll call you. Let's ... A: Natasha - There's no set answer to this. With my boyfriend, he answered my personal ad. I didn't ... | |
| friend or more | 9/29/2007 |
| Q: I went to the grocery store and ended up meeting this amazing guy in the sugar/pancake aisle. Tall, ... A: Well, there's no way that you can tell instantly whether he is interested in you romantically. Just ... | |
| dating | 8/30/2007 |
| Q: Im a 40 yr. young lady. I was in a relationship from 2003 until June of this year. This man was ... A: You actually answered your own question. I think you know that the right answer is definitely to ... | |
| dating at 50 | 8/26/2007 |
| Q: I'm a reasonably attractive, highly intelligent woman w/ a good sense of humor and sense of fun, ... A: Louise - First of all, congratulations on getting out of a bad relationship. You deserve better. ... | |
| why does he even bother | 7/17/2007 |
| Q: I was in love with a man whom I suppose didn't love me back, although I thought he did. He was very ... A: It sounds to me like he is just feeding his ego. Seems like he is all about himself and is probably ... | |
| i'm so sad | 7/4/2007 |
| Q: I was very much in love with a man who cheated on me the years we were together and left me for the ... A: Nicole - What I think happened is that this guy is a bum who will never commit to one woman. For ... | |
| Fidelity | 6/14/2007 |
| Q: I am in a serious relationship of almost a year. We have one major problem that continues to come ... A: Tracy - My apologies for not replying sooner. From everything you said, it sounds as if you ... | |
| should I make the first move? | 4/6/2007 |
| Q: there's this man at work I'm attracted to,he looks at me when he thinks i wont notice,he smiles at ... A: Karen - Well, here's my take on it. If he isn't shy with others, then I don't know why he would ... | |
| breakup | 3/4/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I go to school together. His grades have not been good this semester. Recently said ... A: April - I am really only available to answer questions for people in midlife and you don't say ... | |
Dating at Midlife
Answers by Expert:
Jeanne
Top Expert on this page
Expertise
I can answer questions from other mid-lifers about finding a committed partner, especially online.
Experience
I am 62, divorced for over 12 years. I have tried many online dating sites, made a lot of mistakes, and dated many men. I am not currently in a relationship. I am not a psychologist, but I think the insights that I have gained from my experience could be helpful to other midlife singles. Obviously I have not been entirely successful since I am still single, but at least I can warn you about some of the pitfalls of midlife dating!
Education/Credentials
PhD, but it has nothing to do with midlife dating!
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