| Subject | Date Asked | Expert |
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| Dating | 5/20/2008 | Leslie Meredith |
Q: I have been on Eharmony since early Dec and have not had much luck until recently. I have ...
A: Bob, Looks like you said too much and too soon. There is no need to reveal personal information ...
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| Unhealthy relationships | 5/16/2008 | Philip Belove, Ed.D. |
Q: Everyone is saying our relationship is very unhealthy because we have been together for 3 years and ...
A: If you'd asked my mother (1917-2006) how things were going and they were going well she would say ...
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| living together | 5/11/2008 | Philip Belove, Ed.D. |
Q: Philip - This is a continuing saga that I have written to you about a couple times. Once again ...
A: Maybe you are right about the separation anxiety,...not a bad theory...then send him a message, ...
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| What to do? | 5/11/2008 | Philip Belove, Ed.D. |
Q: I've been dating this gentleman for quite some time now. He seems really nice, sweet, kind, funny, ...
A: I re-read my answer. I suggest leaving soon. Do people like that ever change? Not always. Often ...
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| What to do? | 5/11/2008 | Philip Belove, Ed.D. |
Q: I've been dating this gentleman for quite some time now. He seems really nice, sweet, kind, funny, ...
A: We can only guess here but guess we will. He sounds both old fashioned and also low functioning. ...
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| advice | 5/5/2008 | Philip Belove, Ed.D. |
Q: I really like this guy at my graduate school. He is very handsome and experienced with many women. ...
A: You are in a tough spot. You don't want to purposefully be a seductress and steal him away and yet ...
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| red flags | 5/3/2008 | Philip Belove, Ed.D. |
Q: Belove, What are some warning signals that could signify a dangerous man? Such as, when a woman ...
A: Ana, there are books on this and you have asked for an encyclopedia. Better is for you to know ...
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| Dating | 5/3/2008 | Leslie Meredith |
Q: I have been on Eharmony since early Dec and have not had much luck until recently. I have ...
A: Robert, She is interested. She said yes to a second date. I like the fact you went to the zoo ... ...
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| profile | 4/29/2008 | Leslie Meredith |
Q: Hey. There's this real gorgeous guy I know, every woman wants him. His Facebook and MySpace ...
A: Steph, I think he's promoting his girlfriend as a way to keep women from thinking he's available ...
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| disinterested or shy? | 4/29/2008 | Leslie Meredith |
Q: There is an exceedingly handsome gentleman that I am interested in. He has a very nice personality ...
A: Ana, You want a confident man who can ask a girl out. The downcast eyes and mumbling are certainly ...
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| dating a widower | 4/29/2008 | Azure |
Q: i met a wonderful man through the personals. he is everything i have ever wanted. he told me he had ...
A: not sure what your question is, so i'll just make some general comments; the daughter, the kid, the ...
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| Superman fetish | 4/28/2008 | Philip Belove, Ed.D. |
Q: Dr. Belove, I am 31. I have recently started dating a 32 year old man. He has an obsession with ...
A: Superman is a powerful metaphor, a powerful archetype. It has captured lots of peoples' ...
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| sex | 4/28/2008 | Leslie Meredith |
Q: Sex is a primary, basic human instinct. Both men and women were designed with sexual desire at the ...
A: Ana, These restrictions have been around far longer than our modern society, and are tied to ...
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| profile | 4/28/2008 | Leslie Meredith |
Q: Hey. There's this real gorgeous guy I know, every woman wants him. His Facebook and MySpace ...
A: Steph, I'm wondering how much of a girlfriend this woman actually is to him. Okay, either you are a ...
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| profiles | 4/28/2008 | Philip Belove, Ed.D. |
Q: Hey. There's this real gorgeous guy I know, every woman wants him. His Facebook and MySpace ...
A: We can only guess. My guess would be that he has the girlfriend to remind the many women he ...
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| disinterested or shy? | 4/28/2008 | Leslie Meredith |
Q: There is an exceedingly handsome gentleman that I am interested in. He has a very nice personality ...
A: Ana, Yes, I'd agree he's sending mixed signals. However, I say forget it. A normal guy will ask you ...
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| Doctor/Patient Question | 4/27/2008 | Valerie |
Q: I would like to ask you a question regarding a doctor/patient situation. I began seeing my ...
A: Kathy, I see no harm in you asking him an open-ended question like you mentioned! I don't think ...
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| Clinical training | 4/24/2008 | Philip Belove, Ed.D. |
Q: This does pertain too much to midlife, but I figured you might be able to address it. I have a ...
A: It was certainly part of my training. But people who want to be psychologists are often people with ...
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| hot men ugly women | 4/23/2008 | Valerie |
Q: I've noticed something. I've seen that very very sexy men, such as those guys that are typically ...
A: Ana, You need to make a list of values that you want in a man. It may sound ridiculous, but even ...
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| You won't remember me | 4/23/2008 | Philip Belove, Ed.D. |
Q: Phil. My name was Mae Sharon Saferstein, and you and I were fixed up when we were 14 or so by ...
A: Wow! What a delightful surprise. I just heard from Sherry Kaufman this year, too. I went to Kansas ...
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| hot men ugly women | 4/22/2008 | Valerie |
Q: I've noticed something. I've seen that very very sexy men, such as those guys that are typically ...
A: Ana, I am not an authority on this subject, but I can give you my honest opinion and see if you ...
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| Hot Men with Ugly Women | 4/22/2008 | Leslie Meredith |
Q: I've noticed something. I've seen that very very sexy men, such as those guys that are typically ...
A: Ana, Why would a smart,hot,fun girl commit herself to this type of guy? There will always be ...
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| virginity | 4/16/2008 | Leslie Meredith |
Q: Do you think it is best to wait until marriage to have sex? I am already 32 years old with a high ...
A: Jessica, The most important consideration is your own beliefs about premarital sex. Hopefully, you ...
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| laughing | 4/16/2008 | Leslie Meredith |
Q: I'm a relatively shy, quiet girl who is very reserved and keeps to myself. So yesterday all these ...
A: Anna, Lesson learned is keep your porn out of sight. Your sexual tastes are private. Hope you ...
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| Is space at this point good or not? | 4/15/2008 | Christopher Pinhey, PhD |
Q: After 5 months of friendship with a girl I met online we began dating. She is 29 and I am 25. She ...
A: It is interesting that you have shared this with a site on "middle-aged dating". Letting your ...
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| dating old friend who's separated feels like the endless conversation | 4/13/2008 | Philip Belove, Ed.D. |
Q: Belove, To keep this simple, have had a good male friend over 15 years. We dated briefly before ...
A: I think the best thing is to really take it slow. You two have a lot going for you. Of course ...
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| passionate | 4/10/2008 | Philip Belove, Ed.D. |
Q: I'm interested in this man. But he has had like a million girls because he used to be a pro athlete ...
A: Yes. The way it's done is the way it's always done. You simply don't have sex with him until you've ...
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| passionate | 4/10/2008 | Leslie Meredith |
Q: I'm interested in this man. But he has had like a million girls because he used to be a pro athlete ...
A: The bad news: he just wants to have sex with you. The good news: Most guys thinks of sex first, so ...
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| passionate | 4/10/2008 | Philip Belove, Ed.D. |
Q: I'm interested in this man. But he has had like a million girls because he used to be a pro athlete ...
A: For starters, make it a habit that when and if you don't understand what "people" (in this case what ...
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| Dating at Mid-life, of course! | 4/8/2008 | Philip Belove, Ed.D. |
Q: I am 53 and twice divorced. I have been single-again, again, for 3 years. I started really dating ...
A: I thought my answer was below my usual standards and I knew there was something I couldn't get at. ...
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| Dating at Mid-life, of course! | 4/8/2008 | Philip Belove, Ed.D. |
Q: I am 53 and twice divorced. I have been single-again, again, for 3 years. I started really dating ...
A: You are not asking for too much, at least, not in general. If you are asking for too much according ...
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| Feedback | 4/4/2008 | Philip Belove, Ed.D. |
Q: To keep this to the point. Met a man, 48, I am 47. Great chemistry, great conversation, similar ...
A: It’s a very personal call. Only you know what you can deal with and what you can’t. That’s really ...
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| birthday very early in relationship | 4/1/2008 | Leslie Meredith |
Q: my name is Charles and I recently had a first date with a girl, and I'm interested in continuing to ...
A: Charles, Have you or will you see one another in the two intervening weeks? If so, bring flowers on ...
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| boyfriend of 11 years is so mean | 3/28/2008 | Philip Belove, Ed.D. |
Q: i am 37 years old with 3 children and am currently 8 months pregnant about a year ago i lost our ...
A: Your story is heartbreaking. And it also feels dangerous. I think you have to find about whether ...
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| guy with girlfriend | 3/25/2008 | Philip Belove, Ed.D. |
Q: hey dr. phil. theres this guy at school i like and im pretty sure he likes me back too. cuz we ...
A: He was grinning because he wanted to have sex with you and he just realized it was possible. ...
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| nearly 2 years now | 3/25/2008 | Philip Belove, Ed.D. |
Q: My book is getting ready to debut. You are mentioned anonymously in the book as I list the tricks I ...
A: Fabulous news. I would prefer to have been named but so be it. It was a great story and I really ...
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| Am I crazy | 3/24/2008 | Philip Belove, Ed.D. |
Q: Is there something wrong with a person who is unhappy alone? Do I need to figure this out before I ...
A: Tough question. It depends. I know some who say that if you are unhappy and home alone on a ...
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| ex | 3/20/2008 | Terri Matheis |
Q: this may not be directly in this category, but you looked like the most qualified my girlfriend ...
A: It does seem that having your family's approval was very important to her and that she may have ...
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| personality, cultural or age issue? | 3/18/2008 | Christopher Pinhey, PhD |
Q: I'm 27 y.o. italian and i've been with my 29 y.o south korean girlfriend for 2 years. Our main ...
A: It strikes me that you and your girlfriend do not trust each other. If you have been dating for two ...
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| ex | 3/12/2008 | Philip Belove, Ed.D. |
Q: one final follow. its ted again. when she told me it wasnt fair to me, like you, i also thought ...
A: Answer to 2: Sounds like, in the end, she just figured out you weren't for her. You are lucky she ...
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