Expert: PracticalHappiness.com - 1/2/2008

Question
QUESTION: My name is Cheryl.  I'm 44 years old.  I have had alot of bad experiences in my life.  I've been hurt by just about everyone who was supposed to care about me.  I have a very hard time with trust issues.  I'm extremely jealous!  I'm married to a wonderful man who I"ve been with for 7 years.  He suffers for all of the pain everyone else has caused me.  I want to learn how to deal with my feelings, so I'm not taking out everyone's mistakes on my husband.  Can you please help me?

ANSWER: Hey, Cheryl. Thanks for your question and I am sorry about the challenges you are experience. But hey, you have already made the first, very important step toward solving them - you recognize that you have them!!!

As a first step, I suggest that you read the following two articles that I wrote that helped hundreds of people around the world deal with similar issues.

1. http://www.practicalhappiness.com/better-dating-life

2. http://www.practicalhappiness.com/how-to-deal-with-and-overcome--jealousy

then follow up with more specific questions.

And if you find this information helpful, please rate me on this site and comment on my work.

Thanks,

A.I.
www.practicalhappiness.com

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QUESTION: I agree with alot of the things that are said in theese articals.  They sound like they were written about me.  However, I do believe that love can last forever.  I've always believed that.  I guess that's why when something goes wrong, I'm devistatd.  My husband is a good man.  He also believes love can last forever.  He's a little nieve about things, but he's a good man.  He' willing to put up with my crap, hoping I can find a way to deal with this, for my sanity.

Answer
Well, you owe it to yourself Cheryl to stop worrying for no reason and to start assuming the best about yourself and your partner until and unless you have actual evidence to believe otherwise. As of now, to the best of my understanding, you should enjoy your happy life with him because he gives you no reasons to be unhappy about your partnership with him.

Thanks,

A.I.
PracticalHappiness.com