Expert: PracticalHappiness.com - 3/11/2008

Question
I am sad, confused en frustrated.

I love my boyfriend very much and feel truly connected to him on many levels.  We've been together for 7 months now.  We talk and dream about our future together.  Despite the warmth and tenderness we share, our relationship is tortured by his frequent bouts of jealousy.  I am deeply committed to my boyfriend and do not entice the attention of other men.  He criticizes my natural openness and friendliness and my clothing, although I always dress professionally.  He's always thinking that I will be leaving him tomorrow, if not then the day after that or maybe then the next day.  If I don't react in a certain way or say something he really wants to hear he gets angry and sad and I get the silent treatment.  Some insignificant situation will completely set him off.  He wants to be told how much I love him all the time, even though I made very clear that I do love him very much.  He don't like if the guys at work talk to me.  I get along with all the people at work, it's my dad's business so I have to.  He doesn't like the one guy Jaco at all, for no reason, we just get along great at work, making jokes and talking, just like I would do with anybody else. He just became a daddy and I love babies so I was just being nice and excited for him by asking questions baby related.  He's accusing me of being to nice to him.  He is putting me under a constant cloud of suspicion and making feel defensive about innocent interactions.  He says he loves me, and I know he does, but he doesn't believe me when I'm saying the same to him otherwise he would have reacted differently, right? How can I deal more effectively with this problem.

Answer
Hey, Wendy. Thanks for your question. I wrote an article that helped thousands of people around the world put themselves on the road toward abandoning jealousy. Have your boyfriend read it carefully and follow up if you have any more questions. And don't forget to rate me.  

http://practicalhappiness.com/how-to-overcome-jealousy

Thanks,

A.I.