Expert: Jenny - 6/27/2008

Question
I'm a 20 years old Business student,
This has many sides, I dated a depressed angry guy for a few months and I fell in love with him which rarely happens to me, I never fall in love, and I think he felt something of that sort too.

But I always felt like he missed his past relationships, anyways, last October I got angry at him and I said horrible things, being as angry as he is, He refused to talk to me, I've tried to talk to him a million time but nothing, he hangs up, blocks me online and tries to take revenge.

Some weeks I don't think of him much and other days I'm missing him and crying myself to sleep.
It was too amazing and passionate with him.

I tried meeting many guys over the last 6 months and it's just not working out! I don't wanna be single cause I keep thinking of my ex.
Any time I find out he contacted his ex gfs or dating a new girl, I die inside, just their image turns me green with envy!

What do I do? Am I even still in love with him? Am I sick and desperate?

Answer
Hi Lara.
I believe you did the right thing and he helped you along. As you mentioned, you are very young and have a career goal. You should not have anyone holding you back by being angry all the time and you stressing about it.

You deserve better than a man who doesn't know how to face the world and instead blocks you and hangs up the phone on you. You should definitely be the bigger person here.

It's been more than half a year since that happened so I suggest you move on. Stop trying to be in a relationship and just focus on your career, your family and your friends, and believe me, I bet it will leave your mind completely if you just stop talking about the subject to people or crying yourself at night to sleep.

You say you don't want to be single because you keep thinking about your ex, but sweety, isn't it better to be single than to be in a relationship with a random guy and not feel anything for him?...

No, I don't think you're in love with your ex, what I do think is that you feel lonely. Since you feel this way, you want to find comfort in dating other guys and when this doesn't work out, you just reminisce about the past.