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Question this is really long, so i'm apologizing in advance
So this past year I liked a sophomore the entire year, max. I'm only a
freshman though and so I basically never saw him but we finally got together
and started hooking up about a month before the end of school (aka not a
very long time). So it never got further than hooking up. Then, I started
asking if he wanted to hang out, and it was exam week and he said he had a
bunch of stuff to do, and I don't know if that was just his way of avoiding me
or what. Because later on, he walked by me without even saying hi on
multiple occasions. Am I overthinking it? I just feel like I wasn't getting the
proper respect I deserved or is that just a given when you're just hooking up?
is that there are no feelings attached? Because we definitely talked-a lot, and
he was really cute and would do things like kiss me on the forehead and hold
my hand....not JUST sexual stuff...so he was SHOWING that he liked me, did
he mean it? It was also the end of the year so I think he may have seen that
as an easy break. So the point of all this is--what do i do next? Should I e-
mail him asking how his summer is going or is that too clingy? I don't want to
seem to clingy. I think I need to make him jealous in order for me to have
appeal to him again. The thing to understand as well is that the sophomore
boys are all very close and never let their girlfriends get in the way of that, so
maybe the total break of all communication wasn't personal? Is he just
clueless? He didn't even say goodbye to me on the last day of school, when
we clearly hit it off and get along whenever it's just us, one on one. I would
guess that he was just using me, but I don't think getting with a Freshman
would get him that much respect, and plus I know that he did like me. Why
would he just stop talking to me like that though? It really hurt and I think he
got the message that I was mad at him (which is good, right? because i don't
want him to get the idea that i'm always available) ...but that said, now i'm
afraid that he won't talk to me ever again because he'll just assume that i'm
pissed off (which I am, but not enough to stop liking him...he's still an
amazing guy.) The thing with me is that i always date people who like me
more than I like them...it's simply always worked out like that, and then I
would dump them out of lack of respect and "easiness" and now I feel like,
the one time i finally get with someone I actually like, I messed it up by being
to clingy (god, is asking to hang out like, twice really that clingy? It's fair, I
feel like, even though we were just hooking up). It's probably karma, i've
dumped so many guys for loss of appeal due to clinginess, and now I'm the
clingy one who's lost HER appeal. I'm not used to it working like that! Help
me!! And it's all because he's the sophomore and older, and definitely wore
the pants in the relationship. Anyway, if I want to be in a relationship with
him next year, what should I do? Play hard to get? or will he lose interest? I
need to find a way to make him want me...should I just live well? that's always
the best revenge, but at the same time i still like him so I do want to get back
with him...Do i talk to him or no? and i should definitely avoid e-mailing him
this summer, right? and just wait until we get back to school to talk? e-
mailing i feel would be too clingy..what do you think? i guess he needs to
know that i still like him, just that i'm not that easy for him to get. then he'll
want me, probably...all guys seem to function like that. every single one i've
spoken to...ok! thanks for your time! xxjessica
Answer Hi Jessica,
It seems like the fact that you're a freshman and he's a sophomore doesn't have any deal in this problem. Have you ever told him how you really felt? If not then do so in an email as you say.
You shouldn't feel bad at all, things happen. Maybe he's just one of these guys that think that by having hook-ups is the way to be. You both are very young and maybe who knows, probably nest school year there will be a better guy for you to like, and you'll do things better.
Another thing. Stop assuming what he might think. Just let him know how you feel. If he doesn't reply back or if he doesn't seem interested then let that boy go. Believe me, in the end, you'll win much more than what he lost.
