About Jenny Expertise I can answer questions about how to deal with a cheating boyfriend/husband. Questions about the anxiety of always wanting to know what your man is doing. I can give expert advice as to why is your bf/gf acting the way they're acting. Basically I can answer anything that has to deal with Jealousy and Control issues.
Experience I've had many real-life experiences in which I can relate to the writer. I took a few Psychology classes back in 2007 and I'm dealing with the subject.
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Question Hi. Before I begin let me just say this is a long one. My subject is also my answer but I still need direction please.
Please don't judge me I know it's wrong but it feels so right at the same time.
I'm a married person of 20 plus years. I met another person nearly 8 or more years ago. Time passed (a couple of years) and we met up again. Long story short, we took it to another level. We have been intimate now for the past 7 years and a couple months. Hooking up has never been easy for us.
My spouse had been "chatting" and cyber sexing with others online. This went on for a little more than 2 years. I busted my spouse on numerous (more than 10) occasions and I also found out about a legitimate business trip out of state that was also to "meet" with another. Now then my spouse has stopped (or at least I think they have). However, my spouse is not very trusting of me (maybe because they know what they did).
So anyway, me trying to hook up with my "other" has always been tricky to say the least. Well we had set up a time and place to meet after I got off of work. My spouse however showed up at my work unannounced as I was getting off. I obviously couldn't make my rendezvous. I texted my "partner" telling them of what was happening.
Well the next text I got from my "partner" was to lose their number. I can't even communicate with this person now. They won't answer IM, e-mails, phone calls or even texts.
I grant you this situation (me not being able to show due to my spouse) has happened plenty of times but I never put demands on them that would interfere with their family life or family time.
I don't want to lose this person. I know that presently neither one of us could get divorced but I had always thought we'd be together for ?? ever ??
Now my question to you is.... Is it possible to make this person so jealous that they come back to me? Or should I TRY to get through my life and let things end? Personally I don't know just how successful I would be in the latter question. This person was sexually gratifying and showed me things I'd never done before. The sex in my married life has been non-existent now for nearly 10 years and was not gratifying.
So please, I know that we should cut our losses because of the law however, I love this person so much and am so sexually satisfied. What can I do? What should I do?
Thank you for your time and assistance.
Answer Hi MJ,
I know this must be rather an unpleasant situation but as you stated you already know what to do. But I need you to answer a few questions before I can answer yours. Are you happy with your spouse? Do you have kids together? Does your spouse know this "other" person? Does she suspect you have an affair? Has your "other" person and you ever talk about leaving your spouse? Does this other person have a spouse and kids also?
I need you to answer these questions because I cannot grant you the answer if I don't know more about it.
