About Julianna Expertise Jealousy, whether it's your friend, your bf/gf, ex-sweetheart, you or even your own sister, I can help you. I can tell you how to make someone jealous, I can figuire out if a certain person is jealous of you. I can tell you how to stop someone from feeling jealous, I can even tell you how to make everyone around you jealous of you.
Experience I deal with being envyed all the time and I know exactly how to deal with all types of these situations. I know how to take the high road and I know when it's time to get even. I am a fair person too.
Question well to start out me and my bf have been together for 2 1/2 years. were both seniors in high school and he currently lives with me. i love this guy and cant imagine my life without him. we talk about marriage, future kids ....etc. well about october of last year we broke up for 2 months because he said he wants to be with somebody sober and he wants to straighten up his life due to 2 friends that have past away because of drugs/alcohol. well first of all I AM SOBER i smoke ciggarettes and have a drink very so often. so he tells me he wants to break up because he wants to straighten up his life. well this had me like wtf? i am sober and everything was fine between us and he just brings this up out of nowhere. so this completly has me puzzled,heartbroken.. so i start asking him why is he saying these things to me he says he doesnt want to be with me he needs to be with somebody thats sober. so right about now im getting pretty mad because theres nothing about me thats not sober. so my first instinct is just cry but then i get angry after so after he makes me cry he starts saying that he is sorry and he didnt mean it just the deaths and the medication he is taking is making him feel weird. the meds he is talking about is some allergy med. i mean r u kidding me? u know? so i feel like he was a complete jerk to me telling me that he doesnt want to be with me for a completely rediculous reason when he tells me he wants to be with me forever, get married all that stuff. so he starts apologizing trying to get me to forgive him all that stuff. well i was still pretty mad so i go to bed mad and he is right there next to me and i just fell like my heart was thrown down the garbage disposal and im lying next to the person who made me feel like that. its just not me to let someone treat me like that for no reason and just forgive them magicly. so the next day he is gone at work and he calls me asking if hes gonna get to see me before i have to go to work (at that time he just stayed at my place a few nights a week). so im still really angry with him so i tell him no and he is still apologizing..etc.. please baby blah blah blah i ignore him for a couple of days and i guess he gets the hint but then he calls me again so i guess he didnt get the hint asking if hes gonna get to see me and all that stuff i tell him no again and he asks me so r we still together? outof anger i reply no so as the time moves on i start talking to this other guy which we quit talking soon after we started lol he was a weirdo. but anyways so during the time we were broke up he starts hanging out with my best friend lets call her herp. and what really makes me mad about this is that he said he wanted to be with someone sober and starts hanging out with her? she is a druggie/alcoholic/slut. well this really gets to me . me and herp grew up together i lived with her and her family for 3 years and we were inseperable until i moved out then her drug and alcohol problem got worse because i wasnt there to tell her what was right and what was wrong. anyways.. so we broke up and he is hanging over at herps house alot which i didnt think anything of at the time because we were still best friends and we all hung out together but when we were dating the two of them acted as if they hated each other so i kind of started to get suspicious. well during this time i didnt hang out with her much because of him being over there and her drug and alcohol problem. so i ask them both and they swear nothing would ever happen or has happened so being my best friend i trusted her she was the only person i ever fully trusted in my life at one point in time i loved her more than my own mother. in not any way gay at all she was like my sister. so naturally i trusted her. he said she was all he had to hang out with because he didnt have me he was lonely blah blah blah she said he got on her nerves but she didnt have the heart to tell him to leave. yea .... right..! well me and him started talking again and got back together and he moved in with me. so everythings going good but every now and then when herp is around i get this really weird feeling from both of them almost like their hiding something from me and i know deep down that they did but i ignore it for a while thinking im crazy herp wouldnt do that to me. but i keep having the weird feeling so one night i asked him about it and told him about my weird feelings he denied for ever and so did she i kept having this same feeling like something inside of me was like telling me the truth so one night me and him are folding laundry (i remember this night like the back of my hand) and i started asking about it again and every other time he would just get mad at me tell me i was crazy but that night i asked him again expecting him to get mad and deny it but he didnt. there was just a long hesitation from him and he said yes. my heart felt the same feeling it did that one night. i said what???? he said yea we were watching a movie one night and we were drinking and it was about to go further but she stopped him after his hands were down her pants for a while. i wanted to throw up i immediatly called her and she denied it and that made me so mad that she lied to me when i knew the truth so i told her that we werent friends anymore ever again and i was gonna get her. well then i hung up the phone and started on him telling him to leave and all that he wouldnt leave and all he was saying was im sorry im sorry. well yea he is sorry. so i just go to bed after a long night well at school the next day or should i say after school i did get her and i got her good. me and my bf stayed together but me and her are not friends anymore she still tries to be i wont let it happen. i beat her up and she got herpes but i still dont feel better and now im so jealous of everything he does and i cant get OVER it no matter what and i cant trust him at all and i dont know what to do please help me i would like that very much thank you
Answer Dear Lori,
It sounds to me like your not sure of your situation with your bf, the relationship seems very unstable. What you need to do, is to ask yourself, Can you forgive and forget what you bf did and stay with him.
or can't you: if you can't you need to have a serious one on one talk with him. Ask him, "do you still need a sober girl, is your life up to your expectations now?" don't mention the other girl, because she was just a tramp of his past and a foul friend for you. You need to focus on only your relationship with your bf, can you really spend the rest of your life with this guy, or do you need time to think? and sort out your life, find someone new maybe? It takes a long time to rebuild trust, and you need to ask yourself, do you still love him all the same after what he did. If you do, than ignore the past. If it's on your mind all the time, move on girl, it wouldn't be fair to you or to him, if you stayed and still had awkward feelings about what happened.
- Hope I helped, Julianna
