Expert: Julianna - 9/24/2008

Question
I am a 26 and and i have a big jealousy prob with in me as far as boyfriends go ...and it has wrecked my life and still is... im a good person but this has a big hold over my life and me ...iv had three relationships in my life my first ended up been gay and broke my heart but im ok with that as jealousy never came in to it as we were young but are best friends to day.. but this is were it goes down hill for me.... the second man i met to years ago fell in love and thats when the jealousy started for me i was always at him lookn for the worst in every thing i put him threw hell in the end he beat me up with drink on him .. people can say that shouldnt have happend but it did .. and i no why cos i was the girlfriend from hell in the end.. its inside me shakeyness all that feeln of jealousy its hard for me to put in in to words... but i need help fpr it or ill be alone for the rest of my life iv had for years of hell straight.. and its because of this .. iv no self worth nutn .. i look at girls my age amd it hurts cos iv wasted my life with this prob and i wish it would just leave me alone .. and its hard because if its with in me and i cant fix it ... how can someone eles help me.. i would give anything in this world to fix this plz help

Answer
Dear Maria,
Don't say you can't fix it, you can. You need to keep moving foward, push the past to the back of your mind and concentrate on your present state rather then dwelling on old relationships. Its not healthy, you need to live for you, not to the standards of other girls your age.