About Anisa Expertise I can answer any questions relating to jealousy, envy and self esteem in any relationship (dating, marriage, friendship, etc). I have personal experience with dealing with jealousy and can help you overcome these issues and improve your self esteem.
Experience I can answer any questions relating to jealousy, envy and self esteem in any relationship (dating, marriage, friendship, etc). I have personal experience with dealing with jealousy and can help you get through these issues.
Education/Credentials BS Family Sciences, BA Social Psychology
Question Hey Anisa. Female 13. I have this HUGE crush on one of my good friends. But since I met him, he told me he liked this girl. And my reaction was like.. OMG thats me, because of what he was telling me which directed to me. And he wouldnt tell me the name. Eventually he did, and he was someone else unfortunately.. I would always give him support saying that "if she doesnt like you, she doesnt deserve a great guy like you" and so on. A few months later ( 3 - 4ish ) , he finally gave in. But.. starting liking another girl. I found out last weekend. That was when he told me.
I'm like extremely jealous of them both. Theyre both really gorgeous and I know that theyre better than me because his heart is sent on them. Like.. I cant even describe it.
Sometimes I think he doesnt even care about me because I told him I like him, and said he doesnt want to loose me so its better off we stay friends, * cause like if we date, and if we break-up, he wont be as close as we were before* But yet still, he wanted to date those 2 girls, and wants them more than friends, you know?
And that he likes now, I think hes going to ask her out.. which is breaking my heart )': . I want to talk to him about it, but I dont wanna cause drama between us. I havent talk to him in like .. 4 days :( .
So like.. Anisa, can you help me (':
Sorry for such a long note, by the way!
Answer Hi Lily,
I have to tell you, you definitely have the upper hand here. He wants to date those two other girls. Which means, if it doesn't work out with either of them, he loses them. He does not want to take that chance with you. He does not want to do anything to jeopardize your friendship and communication. He is afraid that if you start dating, you might eventually break up then never speak again. This puts you on a pedestal, WAY above those other girls. So, chin up! You are awesome, way more than they are, and if anything, THEY should be jealous of YOU!
