About Anisa Expertise I can answer any questions relating to jealousy, envy and self esteem in any relationship (dating, marriage, friendship, etc). I have personal experience with dealing with jealousy and can help you overcome these issues and improve your self esteem.
Experience I can answer any questions relating to jealousy, envy and self esteem in any relationship (dating, marriage, friendship, etc). I have personal experience with dealing with jealousy and can help you get through these issues.
Education/Credentials BS Family Sciences, BA Social Psychology
Question I had a boyfriend that used to cheat on me all the time. He was a complete player. His actions damaged the way I felt about being in a relationship. The boys i dated after him lowered my self esteem extremely and made me feel very bad about myself. I'm with a guy now who makes me feel amazing. There are lots of family issues going on and he has been very supportive for me. These issues have taken up a lot of time and he hasn't been seeing his friends very much. He is starting to hang out with them more, and I can't help but be jealous. I know that he won't cheat on me and he is hanging out with mainly guys, but I just don't know what to do or how to handle this situation. Please help me figure out how not to be jealous.
Answer Hi Ash,
I understand the emotions you are going through. Once a person has been cheated on, it is so much harder for them to gain trust in any future relationship. I have been through the same situation and I know how hard it can be. There are a few things you should tell yourself: 1) there is nothing wrong with you. The man who cheated had a problem and you suffered the grunt end, there was something wrong with him. 2) the guys you dated afterward were (for lack of a better word) selfish jerks who felt better to make you feel bad. 3) You are now with an amazing man who wouldn't hurt you. Keep reminding yourself that your current boyfriend is not the same people as the guys from your past. I know it's hard at first because of your own personal trust issues, but you will get past the jealousy. Also, I venture to guess that you are a pretty amazing person yourself, because your current boyfriend has been so supportive of the family issues you are going through. Just give it time, Ash. Things will get better and your jealousy issues will begin to fade, as long as continue to be in a happy, healthy relationship.
