About Anisa Expertise I can answer any questions relating to jealousy, envy and self esteem in any relationship (dating, marriage, friendship, etc). I have personal experience with dealing with jealousy and can help you overcome these issues and improve your self esteem.
Experience I can answer any questions relating to jealousy, envy and self esteem in any relationship (dating, marriage, friendship, etc). I have personal experience with dealing with jealousy and can help you get through these issues.
Education/Credentials BS Family Sciences, BA Social Psychology
Question QUESTION: Hello, This question deals with an ex girlfriend of mine and how I am reacting. Okay well to start off, I met her at school, and We became good friends. I found out that she just got out of a horrible break up with a boy. After a while of talking to her we became closer. Then from there I have asked her out because I found out that I actually really liked her. She said yes, and we went out but we broke up and went back out a few times. After a while she broke up with me for about the 3rd or 4th time and Not that I couldn't handle it, It was that all such sorts of bad things started to happen at once. The next morning I missed the bus causing more pain on my side. Then I Got so angry I didn't want to live I popped a few pills trying to kill myself. I went to school after I got picked up from a school counselor and they took me to the hospital immediately. Then 3 days later getting out of the hospital, she called me and I told her the story, she asked me back. I couldn't help it but to say yes. Then one day she got her phone taking away and I didn't no and got sick of her not answering my texts or calls, so i told her I am done as in done texting her. And she took it as I am done with you and breaking up. Ever since then we never got back together. I have dating several girls since and I still think about her. Its like a religion where you get up and think about your idealize. Well I think about her every morning and day. I don't know how to handle it. I talk to her and I told her my feelings. My depression is kicking in. How can I get her back? Or is there a way to remove her from my head? Please. Thank you.
ANSWER: Hi Isaiah,
How old are you?
Also, have you ever spoken with a professional about your emotions?
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QUESTION: Hello Anisa,
I am 15 years old. And yes I have spoken to A school counselor about this and I was in the hospital with teen emotional help programs.
Answer Isaiah,
It is NEVER worth hurting yourself over a girl. You are only 15 years old, I guarantee you will meet TONS more women as you get older. The problem with boys and girls (and men and women) is that we have a hard time communicating to each other. Boys have different styles than girls, therefore we are always fighting with each other! It takes years of being in relationships for you to understand what I mean. This girl must be pretty special if you can't seem to get her out of your head, but there are plenty girls out there who I guarantee are even more special than her. It takes time to forget about a person. I promise you, you will get over her, you just need a little time. Get out there and have fun. At 15 years old you should be dating LOTS of girls and having a great time. And just wait until you get to college.....the choices are endless! =)
I am concerned with your mental health. It is not common for a boy your age to feel so self destructive and depressed. Instead of talking with a school counselor, I suggest you speak with your parents and ask them to let you speak with a psychiatrist or therapist. Speaking with a therapist doesn't mean you are crazy, therapists just have a little more experience with dealing with depression than school counselors do.
You want your ultimate goal in life to be happy and healthy. Depression is an illness that is not easily controlled, especially at your age. Things will get better, and all these crazy feelings and emotions swirling around in your head will eventually go away as well.
Good luck, and please contact me if you have any more questions!
