How to Deal with Jealousy/How to Make One Jealous/Girlfriend telling our problems.

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Hi Jennifer, My girlfriend(21) , and I(23), been together for 1 year and 3 months.

The issue I have is her best friend is a guy...and she tells him about the differences in our relationship. She said who else is she suppose to discuss this with, since that's what best friends are for. Am I wrong for wanting to keep things between us? Would it be better if she told her mother?

She lives near college and attends.

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Hi Rj!
It seems like you two have been going out for a long time, which is a great thing! Your girlfriend should be respecting you by keeping some of things you two do or say to each other private. You are not wrong for wanting to keep things between the two of you. She is allowed to have a guy friend, but there should always be a limit between the two of them. They should not be discussing private matters that go on in your relationship. She should not be discussing anything like this to her mother, she should not be discussing it with anyone--period!You have to sit down and talk to her about how you don't feel comfortable about this situation. She should be understanding and thinking of keeping your relationship with her stable and strong. Email me back after you talk with her!~
         Best wishes,
         Jennifer K.

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Jennifer Kang

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I can answer any questions that deal with jealousy. These questions can relate to jealousy towards a lover, friend, and sibling. I can help the client with questions that have to do with getting over jealousy or reasons for it. I can help answer questions about where and how the client can solve his or her own struggles about envy or jealousy. I cannot answer questions that are not relevant to the topic of jealousy.

Experience

I have volunteered at a psychiatric clinic, where I was able to assist in a program that deals with people who have issues such as jealousy. I was a program assistant who helped teens and young adults to overcome their thoughts of jealousy. I have also helped my fellow friends and close ones with dealing with jealousy. I have also worked at a private teen help hotline where I was able to help young teenagers with overcoming their jealousy problems.

Organizations
Teen Hotline 1001, YDT(Youth Development Teens), YMCA Camp(Counselor for teens).

Education/Credentials
Princeton University B.A. degree(Psychology), Yale University M.S. degree(Psychology), Youth development educator.

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