About PracticalHappiness.com Expertise I can answer questions regarding how to deal with one's own jealousy and how to deal with the jealosy of the partner / lover and how you can liberate yourself from this destructive emotion.
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Experience I overcome serious jealousy issues with conscious work and effort, and that was a very liberating experience. I also helped several people to abandon their jealous behavior and line of thinking.
Question QUESTION: Dear Itkin,
I found out, inadvertently, from a friend, about my boyfriend's recent sexual past and his sex life while we were in an open relationship while I was gone for a few months (before we were dating seriously). Once I knew a little bit, I had to know the details, and now I am devastated and repelled by him. I can't handle the fact that he hooked up with some girls that are in our grad school class, I am disgusted by the fact that he took random girls home to (now) our bed, and I can't stop thinking about the other girls. I am having trouble being attracted to him and it is interfering with our sexual relationship. How can I get over this?
Thank you
J
ANSWER: Hi, J. Thanks for your question. First, tell me please - how old are you? How old is he? How is your relationship otherwise - in other words is there anything else you don't like about him or this is pretty much your main and only issue with him at this point?
Let me know, and I will follow up.
A.I.
www.practicalhappiness.com
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QUESTION: Dear AI,
We both 25 and have been dating a year - we are now deeply deeply in love and this is our first fight! I am pretty much over it now but sometimes I imagine him hooking up with the other girls from this summer (he took them both to his home! where we spend a lot of time :( and then i am turned off. it is weird because he has casually mentioned girlffriends and hookups from the past before and it has never phased me at all. I think that it is pretty much that i am so in love with him that i can't handle imagining him with women i know or with women over the summer while i was away (even though it was MY idea to have the open relationship - bad idea - and i hooked up with a guy while i was away too!)
Answer Hey, J. Your question is very important and therefore I wrote an article to respond to it.
You can read it at my blog. Go to www.practicalhappiness.com
click on the bottom left tab "dating blog"
click the link on the page to "dating blog"
and search under "sexual past" to read the article "how to deal with his sexual past" and then follow up if you have additional questions.
