Expert: PracticalHappiness.com - 10/11/2007

Question
My girlfriend and I have been dating for over a year. We have a great relationship. The only issue we have comes up when I play with my band on weekends. I play lead guitar. When performing, I attract lots of attention from young, attractive women. They dance in front of me and try hard to get my attention.

That is a very easy thing to diffuse when I'm not on stage. But when I'm on stage, it poses somewhat of a challenge. The less I pay attention to them, the harder they try to get attention from me.   

My girlfriend tells me I stare and return the attention which makes them think I'm interested. That certainly isn't the case. I certainly have no interest in any of these women and I do no consciously stare at anyone. I'm focused on playing music and entertaining the audience. That's all. I tell her that and she doesn't believe me. She says she knows I wouldn't cheat but I'm being disrespectful of our relationship.

I feel that she is confusing me entertaining the audience with blatant flirting in front of her. That is simply not the case.

Any idea on how to handle this situation?

Answer
Hey, Jay. Thanks for your question. Indeed, jealousy can be a serious problem that can hurt a good relationship and be a cause of many unfounded fights and arguments.  

I wrote an article on jealousy which helped many people get on the road toward abandonding and liberating themselves from jealousy.

You can read it here:
http://datingadviceforsmartwomen.blogspot.com/2007/09/how-to-overcome-and-abando...

Read it and have your girlfriend read it, and let me know if this helps and feel free to follow up.

A.I.
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