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Question My girlfriend of 2 years was contacted by an old flame from high school. My girlfriend and him are 38 years old. She told me the he was getting divorced. She had not heard from him in 20 years. It seems strange to me that he is contacting her now. I been divorced 2 times and I know for a while I wanted intimacy to boost my wounded ego. She says that is not the case. She told me that they were going to meet for drinks. I try to be open minded and trusting but this bothers me. She said she told him that she had a boyfriend and it did not matter to him. He just want to talk about old times.
I know if this were me she would have a fit. However if my old flame wanted to do the same in the same situation I would ask my girlfriend to go just because I love her and want her to know that only one woman is in my life.
What should I do? Ask if I can come? Tell her that I prefer her not to have drinks with him and to meet me at our home? (big argument would happen if I did the last sentence) Or should I let it go and let her do it? I just feel it is disrespectful of my feelings. It makes me feel as though I am not a major thing in her by doing this.
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Jack
Answer Hey, Jack. Thanks for your question. This is an opportunity for you to show your attractive male confidence and maturity. Let them meet and don't worry about it. After all it takes two to do something wrong. Do you trust your girlfriend? Then, don't worry about anything. Be sure in her and her desire to be with you.
And if she goes to far with that guy, then.... it's not your fault and you don't belong together anyway and you might as well find that out sooner than later.
After all, would you really want to keep someone around you against their will?
So let her meet up with him and whatever happens, it will be good thing. I am pretty sure that nothing bad will happen.
Thanks, and I hope this helps. If not, please follow up.
