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Experience I overcome serious jealousy issues with conscious work and effort, and that was a very liberating experience. I also helped several people to abandon their jealous behavior and line of thinking.
Question Dear Ms. Itkin,
I am 21 and met my boyfriend whom is 31 a year and a half ago. He had been seperated from his wife which whom he has 2 young children with (however not divorced) for a year. We connected well. I wasn't sure if I was comfortable dating him and I wasn't that attracted to him or his age but I loved his personality. From the beginning he was clearly obsessed with me. I'm young, gorgeous and musically talented. I wasn't so interested and I wanted to take things slow. Our connection however grew stronger and we ended up falling in love with eachother. He explicated to me that he had married his wife due to pregnancy within the first month of dating. They got married 1 year later and his wife tricked him into having another child by not taking her birthcontrol pills (his mother verified the story.) He ended up leaving her because he wasn't in love. Anyway it's been a year of dating and the divorce is still not finalized. I'm getting more and more stressed out waiting for it. He claims he loves me and that im the first women he has ever fell in love with. I'm tired of waiting and I'm afraid my lack of patience and his stalling is draining our relationship. I'm not sure why he's taking so long and I try to tell him that his stalling may have a consequence of loosing me. I'm afraid now that he's just using me for his loneliness and that I will end up hurt at the end. I don't know what to do. Should I let this love go and move on or should I continue to wait around for him?
Answer Hi, Kimora. Indeed, divorce is a lengthy, complex process, especially if spouses cannot agree on different separation issues. It's important to know why this process is being going for so long. Did you ever ask him and try to get a specific answer? If so, what was his reponse?
