Expert: PracticalHappiness.com - 9/13/2007

Question
Me and my boyfriend have been dating a little over a year, I'm 24 and he's 26. What happens is that when we first started dating we use to spend an enormous amount of time together like 4-5 times a week, but generally the entire day. That was when we lived about 20 min. away from each other. Then in August. he moved, and is now 5 mins. away, and initially I was so excited because I thought that would bring us even closer. Yet the thing is he didn't only move closer to me, but all his friends live in that area also. So now it's like he's spending a lot of time with them as well as me, but because I was so use to getting all his attention, I realized I was jealous. So I wrote down everything about how I was feeling, about being jealous, about how he doesn't make as much of an effort with me as he use to, how because I feel so insecure now I feel psycho and obsessive etc. Then yesterday he found the letter and read it, because I had addressed it to him, but after starting to write it I realized that the issues I was bringing up wasn't the real reason I was upset so instead I started really writing down my true feelings, but I didn't plan of giving it to him. So he came up to me and said I knew I was right you just want to take over all my time.  I tried to explain that I'm not really jealous of his friends but after finding that letter it was way more convincing than I was especially because he now knows I didn't even intend for him to read it. What do I do?
I do miss us spending a lot of time together- we went from all day 4-5 times a week. to an hour or a couple more 2-3 times a week. I've had a real hard time transitioning, especially because my close friends went away to grad school, and now I feel like now that I really need a friend is when we are transitioning into seeing each other less. How do I get him to want to spend more time with me, or should I just back away also, but I'm afraid if we both back away, we will grow apart. So please help> what should I do? We haven't been intimate since Sunday and I'm just scared for our relationship to fade away, if we don't make it a priority

Answer
Hi, Jessica. Thanks for your question. I would like for you to watch a relevant video dating tip by me. I beieve it will answer your question.

Please go to my site at: http://www.practicalhappiness.com/page10.html
then go to "dating tips for her" and watch "love and desire for space"   

Thanks, and I hope this helps. If not, please follow up.

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