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Question To anyone who may concern,
i need your opinion about dealing with my emotions.this is what happen.during the beginning of our relationships, he used to talk about his past with his exgirlfriend.and he had told me alot of things about what they had shared together.he told me this when i was in d beginning of our relationship.at first,i just keep it to myself and i just hear whatever he wanted to tell me because i thought he just wanted to tell me stories.but now,when our relationships grows older,the things that he had told me and about his past,hunt me down until i still think that he still remember his ex because sometimes he likes to mention about his ex and compare it with me.until now when he started to mention it or even when we bumped into his ex gf's friend,i feel so jealous and so mad because they started to talk about their sweet memories during when he was with he's ex infront of me.i dont like to feel so jealous but i just dont know what to do.i need your advice on how to control with my jealousy & emotions.
thank you..
Answer Hi, Lzura. Thanks for your question. First, I wish I could tell your partner to ... "shut up" and not aggravate you for no reason. There is absolutely no reason to talk about those things with you or in your presence. We all have memories of our past relationships and other experiences that we cherish. But ... this should stay private and revealing it to our present partner does no good.
Did you try to address this with your guy in a non-dramatic, non-confrontational way. Did you ask him to not share those things with you and tell him that if he misses her he should be free to be with her if she is the one who he wants to be with. Again, you don't have to make a fight out of it, but you should show your strength and pride in this situation call him on that.
Normally, I am very much against jealousy, but in your case, your emotions are at least in large part justified.
So, have a heart-to-heart talk to him and let me know how it goes.
