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Experience I overcome serious jealousy issues with conscious work and effort, and that was a very liberating experience. I also helped several people to abandon their jealous behavior and line of thinking.
Question Recently my husband started horseback riding and it was a female co-worker who invited him to try the sport because she also rides. Little did I know that she was calling him on his personal cell phone instead of his cell phone that he uses for work. She was calling him all the time, asking him how he was ect. Telling him all her personal problems that she was having with her live in boyfriend all of this threw up some red flags about her intentions. I asked him to tell her to stop calling him, she has on his personal cell phone. This woman does have a shady past for some reasons her ex-husband has her children and she pays child support which to me speaks volumes about her. My husband says that they are only friends but for some reason I smell trouble written all over this woman. To me she crossed over a line that should have not been crossed and my husband did allow it in the beginnig. He has always worked around women but she is the first one who called him on a regular basis. Should this situation give me a reason to be concerned.?
Answer Hi, Tammy. From what you are describing, I don't sense any irrational suspicion or jealousy on your part. If indeed that woman is calling your husband on a regular basis, it's quite likely that she is interested in him romantically or at least has some hope that their relationship will go beyond what it is today.
I believe that a man has a right and a duty in such a situation. His right is having friends of male or female sex. His duty is to let her know that he is committed to you, and to make it unequivocal that their relationship is not going to go anywhere beyond what it is. He should also respect the fact that it makes you feel uncomfortable when she calls him regularly. I don't know exactly what you mean by "regularly" but if they talk more than once a day and for longer periods of time, I could see how it would bother you.
Before I go further, I need to ask you a question - what are you concerned about? Are you concerned about the fact that she will try to seduce your husband as hard as she can or... that he will fall for her if they spend a lot of time together?
Let me know, and I will follow up.
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