Expert: PracticalHappiness.com - 10/1/2007

Question
QUESTION: I have been dating a guy for a year. We have been real serious and are seniors in hs. He always talks to girls on facebook a lot and it bugs me.  He will talk at 1 in the morning and comment on their pics. I feel like he needs more attention from other girls and he doesn't respect that is makes me feel bad.  I could flirt with other guys but I just don't feel right about doin that. He says he loves me and I love him. We will be going to different colleges and I know we will eventually probably break up.  What should I do. I hate being jealous and he doesn't understand why it bugs me. Help!

ANSWER: Hi, Sharri. Thanks for your question. Before I can answer it, I need to clarify - what is it exactly that you would like to know - is it the jealousy that you want to abandon in general and fix that part of your character or... is it this particular relationship that you are not sure about how to handle?

Let me know and I will follow up.

A.I.
www.practicalhappiness.com

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QUESTION: Hi. I would say both. I want to be confident and not jealous, but am I just being accommodating and a fool?  Or should I trust this guy.  He hasn't cheated on me and he treats me very well.

Answer
Hey, Sharri. Thanks for following up.

With regard to this particular guy, the details make a difference. If his chat is just innocent play, then who cares? Let him. If he otherwise treats you well and your relationship is great, then you should trust him and assume the best unless you have real reasons to believe otherwise.

With regard to jealousy, I suggest that you read my article on abandoning jealousy. You can access it by going to my site www.practicalhappiness.com
on my home page, click on "dating blog for women" and then search under jealousy for that article.

Thanks, and I hope this helps. If not, please follow up.
And if you found my answer helpful, please rate me on this site and comment on my work.

A.I.
www.practicalhappiness.com
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