Expert: PracticalHappiness.com - 11/22/2007

Question
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months now and things are really great, but sometimes i can't help but think about his past! I always seem to ask questions i really don't want to know the answers to but i can't help it! I know he gets jealous about my past too. How can we move forward and stop thinking about what can't be changed in the past?

Thanku :)  

Answer
Hi, Kaitlynn. Your issue is typical and the way to overcome it is to just do this:

1. Respect each other's privacy and desire to keep certain things away and behind;
2. Recognize that past is past. It has nothing to do with your present and future, so digging into it is pointless and will even be harmful. As you correctly point out, hearing the answers to the questions that you are so curious about will do more harm than good, so leave it alone for now and with time you both will forget about it.
Accept the fact that both of you had spent time with other people before, that it's quite ok and that you don't need to know the dirty little details of that past.

Thanks, and I hope this helps. If not, please follow up.

A.I.
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