Expert: PracticalHappiness.com - 10/8/2007

Question
Hello, I really do love my girlfriend of a year, but I'm constantly bothered by the fact her love for me is a pale version of the love she had for her abusive ex boyfriend I helped her get away from.

I guess I'm very needy, but to me I can't imagine marrying someone that tells me she doesn't love me as much as she loved him. It might be different if she didn't miss him periodically but she does miss him and would like it if they still had contact which they would were it not for him.

I know I am kind of needy, she is my first love and I fell for her real hard. We have other issues but for me it always comes back to this one issue, and I would like to know if I could do anything to help myself deal with it.

I really can't figure out if I'm the problem or if I really should have a problem with the situation. Help...


Answer
Hey, Shawn. Thanks for your question. Before I can answer it, I need to know: how old are you, how old is she?

Also, give me a few specific examples of how you think you come across as needy in the every-day situations with your girlfriend.

Thanks, and I will follow up.

A.I.
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