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Question my boyfriend of 3 yrs recently dumped me. he is 37 and im 25. "i dont
think i can get over it," he says. i'm having a hard time wrapping my
brain around the whole thing.
the week eluding up to the breakup:
he was upset at my justification over his friend's wife cheating on
him. we spent the night in separate beds. over the past week i carpooled
with some guy classmates. he didnt call at all that night. it appeared
that he was upset that i didnt tell him where i spent the night one
night. although i told him the following day. i was trying to spare
myself a drinking and driving lecture. he didnt call for a few days.
then the breakup.
his explaination being "I don't think I can get over it."
he called a few days later and we had a casual conversation.
immensely confused, a few days later i ambushed him at his house. he
was unshaven. he hadnt been to work. he started smoking again. i
demanded a better explaination. he simply said, "i just want to be happy
and lately when i look in the mirror im not happy with myself and us."
he insists ill be over it in no time and happily married.
is he insecure? and if so what can i do to get him back? i miss him so
much and would do anything. please unconfuse me!
-broken
Answer Hi, Sarah. Thanks for your question and I am sorry about your situation. It sounds like your boyfriend's break up with you is a result of his personal issues and has nothing or little to do with you. Perhaps he doesn't want to be in a relationship anymore and he was looking for an easy way out or an excuse or... he is just not mentally stable at this point to be in a relationship.
Regardless, there is nothing you can or should do at this point. The worst thing you can do is harboring hope to get him back or reminiscing on all the good times you had together. This will do nothing but cause you more pain and frustration.
Getting over him will take time, but you must be strong.
I strongly suggest that you read my article on break-ups here:
