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Experience I had two very strict and religious parents that hounded my every move. I wasn't allowed to leave my town, control my own money, go to the college I chose, or even date. These things are just the tip of the iceberg.
Question QUESTION: Hello there. I have a problem. A friend i love really much but love more in the way of like a sister, recently got into trouble with her overprotective dad for calling me
Now she got a 5 month punishment, and I don't know what to do anymore..
I'm planning a trip to see her (She lives in a different country), but I'd like some advice on how to talk to her dad, and make him understand I'm "not a fucking perv for talking to his 12 year old daughter" despite being 16 myself.
Any help would be appreciated :)
Kind regards, Woterius
ANSWER: Well, how did you guys meet? internet? Phone Chat? Woterius, if I were her father, I would question a 16 year old( Can he even affirm that you are 16, or does he know that you are really that age?) who wants to come to a different country to see my 12 year old daughter. There are alot of sick people in the world, and a father only wants to protect his daughter, so Dont get upset at him for that. I would say that you should talk to her father, and just tell him of your intentions and that you just want to see her as a friend. Tell him the truth. Tell him that you will expect( this may be difficult to do for you) that you both will be supervised at all times. Give him plenty of reason to trust you, it seems like he has none.
Hope everything goes well. If you would like, you can ask a followup question.
Always here,
Mark
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QUESTION: We met over the internet, and he can affirm that i'm 16, because i told him personally.
He has no idea that i want to come over, as I simply cant talk to him, he won't let me.
And I don't mind anyone supervising me, I just want to give her a hug..I see her as my little sister, and I love her as that.
And he doesn't have a reason to trust me unfortunately, as he doesn't even take the time to try to get to learn me.
Thanks for the advice so far though, it helped me.
Woterius
Answer So youve met her father? Here's what I would do...you may have feelings for this girl but DO NOT mention that you love her to her father...that definitely throws up red flags to her dad there. He doesn't want any guy from the internet telling his 12 year old daughter that he loves her. Regardless of how you love her, her father will only see you as a pervert for loving his daughter. Instead, make sure you let him know that this is only a friends thing. Also, that you aren't coming to their country just to see her, that you just happened to be there. Which I hope is the case. If you are only going to see her, that probably is another strike against you in her dad's eyes. Just be really careful here. Make sure you don't push it here. Her father may try to bring authorities into this if you're not careful. Parents don't react lightly to situations like this. Just be careful and do whats right.
