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How to Deal with Parents Interfering with Your Relationships/Questions Answered by Expert Erika E.
| Subject | Date Asked |
| Why her mom hates me | 2/22/2009 |
| Q: OK, so this is the first time I have ever done something like this, but I need peace of mind and I ... A: I think you are going to have to give her time to get courage to do so. I think she is genuinely ... | |
| Judgemental mom | 2/4/2009 |
| Q: I've just started dating recently. I have known this guy for about five years, and have been dating ... A: Sadly, there isn't much you can do to make this situation much better. Your mom is trying to protect ... | |
| age and parents | 1/23/2009 |
| Q: im 18 and my gf is 16 we have been together for a year now and as of now we are happy its just this ... A: I think you need to follow your heart. If you don't want to wait for her to get less restrictions, ... | |
| my mother just doesn't like my boyfriend | 1/15/2009 |
| Q: ok hopefully you can help me...iv'e been dating my boyfriend for about a month now (this is my first ... A: I think the reason that she doesn't like him is something that is completely out of your control. It ... | |
| can my dad? | 1/6/2009 |
| Q: can my dad still call the police on my husband and have him arrested for statutory rape even though ... A: i am afraid i do not know the laws of your area, as every area has different ones. But i don't think ... | |
| mom hates boyfriend and it's too much | 10/1/2008 |
| Q: SO....here's the deal my boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 yeas now and have been living ... A: This is a tough situation. I think the best thing you can do is have your boyfriend apologize to her ... | |
| Telling My Parents | 9/23/2008 |
| Q: I'm not entirely sure if you'll be able to help me (hopefully so lol). But my boyfriend and I have ... A: just sit them down and casually bring it up. maybe go out to lunch/dinner with them, or have a meal ... | |
| visiting my gf after she moves | 5/19/2008 |
| Q: In about a month after my graduation and after my 18th birthday, my 17 year old girlfriend will have ... A: then you may just have to. what you could ask of them is for some money to pay for some of the hotel ... | |
| visiting my gf after she moves | 5/19/2008 |
| Q: In about a month after my graduation and after my 18th birthday, my 17 year old girlfriend will have ... A: if i were you, and i really wanted to see my boyfriend, then i'd probably lie to my parents and go. ... | |
| Parents + Boyfriend = Head about to explode | 5/6/2008 |
| Q: This is a bit of a twist on the "my parents hate my boyfriend" theme but here goes; I have been ... A: you're simply jealous that they love him and he is being accepted by them. i think instead of ... | |
| I'm thinking about getting married, but it is scary. | 4/4/2008 |
| Q: I need to rush to work if this seems a little hurried. I know I should not write anything like this ... A: it is good to see that you care for your mom and dad so much, but you cannot miss out on what could ... | |
| Favoritism? | 3/1/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend (Rob) of 9 months has been ranting about something lately, and I was wondering if you ... A: well, you have to realize that Christina and her boyfriend are older then you and Rob. you guys are ... | |
| My Criticizing Mom | 12/14/2007 |
| Q: I'm 12 years old ya I know I'm young. Anyway, I need MAJOR help!!! My problem is that my mom is ... A: this isn't exactly in my expertise, but i will try to answer. i think that you should just sit down ... | |
| Dad wants to meet boyfriend =/ | 12/12/2007 |
| Q: i am 14 and in 8th grade. I have a boyfriend and were really close. I told my mom and i told her not ... A: if your boyfriend breaks up with you because of your dad questioning him, then he isn't really there ... | |
| my mom and dad... | 10/22/2007 |
| Q: Ok, I am a 14 year old boy (in the 9th grade) who has an amazingly huge crush on this 14 year old ... A: well, if you don't know why you're parents wont let you have a gf, why don't you ask? a lot of ... | |
| mother in law | 11/22/2006 |
| Q: Well I am not a teen but a 32 year old married mother of 2. Me and my husband have been married for ... A: maybe you should talk to his mom...ask her if she trusts you and cares for you? she'll probably say ... | |
| Parents | 10/23/2006 |
| Q: my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year. my parents had told me that they really ... A: well if you love him, you need to tell your parents that. tell them that you are now a legal adult, ... | |
| ex-boyfriend | 10/6/2006 |
| Q: I am 24 and my ex-boyfriend Nathan is 23 years old. My question is complicated so please bear with ... A: i think you should give it a shot! what's the worst that could happen? you decide that you don't ... | |
| My mom's too controlling... | 10/4/2006 |
| Q: I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 19. I'm in college and my boyfriend isn't. Because of this, my mom ... A: well, talk to your mom about it again. tell her that you really like him and that you know that ... | |
| strict parents. | 9/28/2006 |
| Q: i'm 15 turning 16 in November and my parents seem to be tightening the reins on me too hard. I made ... A: sorry i took a few days, my computer broke again. but i think that you should just wait it out until ... | |
| boyfriends mom | 9/21/2006 |
| Q: I am in sort of a slump lately and really need some advice. My boyfriend(17) and I(16) are having ... A: im so sorry i took so long, i hope it's not too late, my computer has been broken. i think that you ... | |
| Controlling Grandparents | 9/20/2006 |
| Q: I am 23 years old, and I am dating an 18 year old girl. She is a freshman now at college and she is ... A: im so sorry i took so long my computer has been broken. if you still need help, i think you should ... | |
| Parental Disapproval | 8/30/2006 |
| Q: I'm dealing with an issue here. My mother doesn't approve of my girlfriend. The reason being is ... A: well talk to her about this. tell her that it was your fauly that her dad called to begin with ... | |
| teacher dating, i want them to interfer | 8/21/2006 |
| Q: my sister is 20 and she was been dating her former high school band teacher for 2 years now, since ... A: i don't think it's that weird. i mean if she was like 17 and he 30, then yes i'd say something, but ... | |
| dating older guys | 8/21/2006 |
| Q: i am 17 yrs old. my boyfriend is 22. my parents and a couple of my friends and family are against ... A: they're right, not only is it weird, but it's illegal. he's breaking the law dating you, and could ... | |
| Parents are too judgemental | 8/14/2006 |
| Q: I am 19 years old and I have been dating my boyfriend for about 3 months. He is 23 and a great guy. ... A: well start off by asking if they love and trust you. they'll answer yes of course, and then you just ... | |
| Our mother is controlling. | 8/8/2006 |
| Q: My brother and I need help! I am 25 and my brother is 23 and our mother still tries to control us ... A: just talk to her calmly about it. explain that you are engaged now, and feel that you do not need ... | |
| my dad and boyfriends mom | 8/2/2006 |
| Q: my dad HATES my boyfriend and his mom 10 x worse!!!!! i love Cody (my boyfriend)but his mom hates ... A: well since no one seems to aprove it might not work out, but if you really care then you won't let ... | |
| My parents | 7/31/2006 |
| Q: I’m 15 years old,and have been dating this guy for a while,My problem is I told my parents to give ... A: wow...i'm sorry for the situation. well, just kiss up to them A LOT for a while before you tell ... | |
| age | 7/28/2006 |
| Q: my name is heather and i am 16 years old. i usually have a rule for myself that i only date guys no ... A: well just tell them. explain that you told them because you LOVE them and hope they can support you. ... | |
| mother un-negotiable and blocking | 7/27/2006 |
| Q: my mother is really strict, and i really wanna date someone, the problem is that she doesnt believe ... A: well prove to her that you can be trusted. Help a lot around the house for a while. do chores that ... | |
| My Parents Won't Let Me Travel To See Him | 7/24/2006 |
| Q: ok my name is avery. im 14 and im dating nathan, whos 15. i live in houston. he lives in midland. ... A: well kiss up to your mom a lot, help her with everything for a while to show her that you're ... | |
| My boyfriends mother is the devil! | 7/23/2006 |
| Q: I have started dating this guy who lives in cali. and I live in az. The realtionship is hard to ... A: well you tell me, do you like him enough to stay with him, despite his mother? I can't answer it for ... | |
| Is she too dependant on her parents? | 7/17/2006 |
| Q: Some other things I've been thinking about. Early in the relationship I asked her to give me three ... A: i agree with you, she depends too much on her parents, and it isn't fair to you that she uses her ... | |
| Is she too dependant on her parents? | 7/17/2006 |
| Q: My girlfriend is 27 and going through some life changing situations. Currently we are separated ... A: she is way too dependant on her parents, but unfortunately she seems to have been raised like that. ... | |
| Communist family??? | 7/2/2006 |
| Q: Alright, I'm in highschool and I've never had a really successful relationship yet. This past year, ... A: well, why don't you ask to hang out with them, bring a little something for the mom. then compliment ... | |
| Mother dosnt like my gurl | 6/30/2006 |
| Q: My name is Travis Im 16, my gurl is 16, and for some reason my mother just dosnt like my gurlfriend, ... A: well, ask her why she feels this way, and what did this to make her think it to begin with. then ... | |
| girl's parents too strict | 6/26/2006 |
| Q: i met this girl almost a month ago and we like eachother. i asked her out for last friday and she ... A: well, lying to the parents isn't a way to get what you want. anyway, why not talk to the parents ... | |
| boyfriend and my mom | 6/23/2006 |
| Q: i have a boyfriend and he and i are both 14 we have been going to the same school for 2 years. I ... A: well, why don't you explain to her that now people very young are dating, and you know you are ... | |
| My mom doesn't understand | 6/20/2006 |
| Q: Hey Erika, Im 15 yr old female, im dating my boyfriend thats 2 yrs older. i knew him for 5months ... A: well, why don't you have her and you and your boyfriend and dad all have a talk together. or ask ... | |
| How can i gain my girlfriends moms trust? | 6/20/2006 |
| Q: ------------------------- Followup To Alright that sounds good, but what do you think I should ... A: well, you can ask her things you she thinks you care to get to know her. like where she was born, ... | |
| My boyfriend's mum is evil | 6/19/2006 |
| Q: basically, she's a shit stirrer and everything evolves around money and everything has to go her way ... A: well, you could have a fake lotto ticket and give it 2 her and play an old tape, and then when she ... | |
| Girlfriends mom out of control! | 6/18/2006 |
| Q: Ok, well My girlfriend and I have been dating for 7 months and we are in complete love with each ... A: why don't you have a talk with her. just sit down and talk with her. bring a little something to ... | |
| Fake Rules. | 6/17/2006 |
| Q: Hey. First off, thank you for taking the time to help. Well my parents have always been Extremely ... A: well, if you talked to your parents and they won't listen, what can you do? Tell them how much you ... | |
| I cant take this anymore... | 6/16/2006 |
| Q: Well, I also confessed to my mom about doing marijuna. Thats why she can put me in juvi, and she ... A: wow, you guys really are ahead of your years. i believed you when you said you were in love, but now ... | |
| I cant take this anymore... | 6/16/2006 |
| Q: My girlfriend is 14 and I am 15. We were having problems, because I made a mistake and started ... A: aw, that is the cutest story like ever. well, be glad you can see eachother at all. i know how ... | |
| HELPPPPP | 6/15/2006 |
| Q: I am 20 yrs old, about to be 21 in August. I have moved out several times and been independent and ... A: well, why don't you tell her this. I know you've tried to calmly talk to her, but try one more time. ... | |
| Stuped Parents | 6/14/2006 |
| Q: well i have a girlfrind its kinda getting seriose and whenever my girlfriend is over we usually ... A: well, why don't you talk to her about it. She is probably afraid you are going to do stuff with her ... | |
| My boyfriend's mum is evil | 6/14/2006 |
| Q: When i first started dating my boyfriend Chris he told me what a bitch his mum could be, and that ... A: well, what do you mean a taste of her own medicine? Like you want full on revenge or something? Tell ... | |
| My parents won't let me live my life. | 6/13/2006 |
| Q: I'm 23 years old and I'm currently living with my parents but I'm also 6 months pregnant. My ... A: Well, you are an adult, and you shouldn't be intimidated. You need to stand up for yourself if you ... | |
| Problem with age differance | 6/8/2006 |
| Q: I am 32 years old, but don’t appear to look past 25. I am also a father of three. I have been single ... A: I am so sorry. I would just have a little sit down with the mom and the sister. Bring a gift like ... | |
| parents dont accept dating | 6/3/2006 |
| Q: Well here<s my story i<m a 15 year old boy turning 16 this summer. I<ve recently asked "out" a girl ... A: yes, it is completely and totally normal to date at your age. Parents always feel that 15 is too ... | |
| Girlfriend's parents forcing her to breakup with me because I'm not good enough | 6/2/2006 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I, both 26 years old, have been dating for a year, and her parents would never ... A: Wow, this is a horrible situation, and I am terribly sorry. Well, why don't you have a little sit ... | |
| my step father | 5/31/2006 |
| Q: ok my boyfriend and i have some issues every now and then with his ex girlfriends (becuase he is ... A: say just like you did to me, tell him that he is pushing you away. tell him that you love him, and ... | |
| parents | 5/30/2006 |
| Q: hey erika! im nadine..im 15 years old and going out with a guy that is 17 going on 18 this year. i ... A: wow how sad. I am so sorry. My dad was the same way one time. Anyway, I would talk to him, ask him ... | |
| Parents Destroying Our Relationship | 5/29/2006 |
| Q: I am just looking for some advice on where to go from here. Basicly, I have been seeing this girl ... A: Wow, I'm really sorry about the situation! Well, I would talk to her about it. How much longer ... | |
| my mom and family hate my bf | 5/26/2006 |
| Q: my mom forbids me to see my bf and says if i do she will put a restaring order on him but i allways ... A: why don't you try sitting her down and calmly explaining everything. Tell her that even if he did ... | |
| gf in the internet | 4/22/2006 |
| Q: but the problem is that me and her are in a relationship and my parents would never accept a ... A: Well, if you know your parents aren't going to accept it, then maybe the relationship isn't going to ... | |
| girlfriends dad | 4/1/2006 |
| Q: ok i dunno what to do..ive been with my gf for a little over 6 months now...she is everything i ... A: sorry i've taken SO long to answer, it might be too late, but i think you should ask her dad what he ... | |
How to Deal with Parents Interfering with Your Relationships
Erika E.
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Expertise
I can answer questions about how to try to show your Parents/Guardian that they might be too judgemental about your Relationship. However, I will not help you completely ignore your Parents/Guardian, because no Relationship is worth the loss of trust of your family.
Experience
I have been through a very tough situation with my Mom, Step Mom, and Father, as well as my Grandparents when it comes to this subject. I feel very at home with this area, and I think I could be a great help when it comes to the ups and downs of your Parents and your Relationship
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