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SubjectDate Asked
Why her mom hates me2/22/2009
  Q: OK, so this is the first time I have ever done something like this, but I need peace of mind and I ...
  A: I think you are going to have to give her time to get courage to do so. I think she is genuinely ...
Judgemental mom2/4/2009
  Q: I've just started dating recently. I have known this guy for about five years, and have been dating ...
  A: Sadly, there isn't much you can do to make this situation much better. Your mom is trying to protect ...
age and parents1/23/2009
  Q: im 18 and my gf is 16 we have been together for a year now and as of now we are happy its just this ...
  A: I think you need to follow your heart. If you don't want to wait for her to get less restrictions, ...
my mother just doesn't like my boyfriend1/15/2009
  Q: ok hopefully you can help me...iv'e been dating my boyfriend for about a month now (this is my first ...
  A: I think the reason that she doesn't like him is something that is completely out of your control. It ...
can my dad?1/6/2009
  Q: can my dad still call the police on my husband and have him arrested for statutory rape even though ...
  A: i am afraid i do not know the laws of your area, as every area has different ones. But i don't think ...
mom hates boyfriend and it's too much10/1/2008
  Q: SO....here's the deal my boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 yeas now and have been living ...
  A: This is a tough situation. I think the best thing you can do is have your boyfriend apologize to her ...
Telling My Parents9/23/2008
  Q: I'm not entirely sure if you'll be able to help me (hopefully so lol). But my boyfriend and I have ...
  A: just sit them down and casually bring it up. maybe go out to lunch/dinner with them, or have a meal ...
visiting my gf after she moves5/19/2008
  Q: In about a month after my graduation and after my 18th birthday, my 17 year old girlfriend will have ...
  A: then you may just have to. what you could ask of them is for some money to pay for some of the hotel ...
visiting my gf after she moves5/19/2008
  Q: In about a month after my graduation and after my 18th birthday, my 17 year old girlfriend will have ...
  A: if i were you, and i really wanted to see my boyfriend, then i'd probably lie to my parents and go. ...
Parents + Boyfriend = Head about to explode5/6/2008
  Q: This is a bit of a twist on the "my parents hate my boyfriend" theme but here goes; I have been ...
  A: you're simply jealous that they love him and he is being accepted by them. i think instead of ...
I'm thinking about getting married, but it is scary.4/4/2008
  Q: I need to rush to work if this seems a little hurried. I know I should not write anything like this ...
  A: it is good to see that you care for your mom and dad so much, but you cannot miss out on what could ...
Favoritism?3/1/2008
  Q: My boyfriend (Rob) of 9 months has been ranting about something lately, and I was wondering if you ...
  A: well, you have to realize that Christina and her boyfriend are older then you and Rob. you guys are ...
My Criticizing Mom12/14/2007
  Q: I'm 12 years old ya I know I'm young. Anyway, I need MAJOR help!!! My problem is that my mom is ...
  A: this isn't exactly in my expertise, but i will try to answer. i think that you should just sit down ...
Dad wants to meet boyfriend =/12/12/2007
  Q: i am 14 and in 8th grade. I have a boyfriend and were really close. I told my mom and i told her not ...
  A: if your boyfriend breaks up with you because of your dad questioning him, then he isn't really there ...
my mom and dad...10/22/2007
  Q: Ok, I am a 14 year old boy (in the 9th grade) who has an amazingly huge crush on this 14 year old ...
  A: well, if you don't know why you're parents wont let you have a gf, why don't you ask? a lot of ...
mother in law11/22/2006
  Q: Well I am not a teen but a 32 year old married mother of 2. Me and my husband have been married for ...
  A: maybe you should talk to his mom...ask her if she trusts you and cares for you? she'll probably say ...
Parents10/23/2006
  Q: my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year. my parents had told me that they really ...
  A: well if you love him, you need to tell your parents that. tell them that you are now a legal adult, ...
ex-boyfriend10/6/2006
  Q: I am 24 and my ex-boyfriend Nathan is 23 years old. My question is complicated so please bear with ...
  A: i think you should give it a shot! what's the worst that could happen? you decide that you don't ...
My mom's too controlling...10/4/2006
  Q: I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 19. I'm in college and my boyfriend isn't. Because of this, my mom ...
  A: well, talk to your mom about it again. tell her that you really like him and that you know that ...
strict parents.9/28/2006
  Q: i'm 15 turning 16 in November and my parents seem to be tightening the reins on me too hard. I made ...
  A: sorry i took a few days, my computer broke again. but i think that you should just wait it out until ...
boyfriends mom9/21/2006
  Q: I am in sort of a slump lately and really need some advice. My boyfriend(17) and I(16) are having ...
  A: im so sorry i took so long, i hope it's not too late, my computer has been broken. i think that you ...
Controlling Grandparents9/20/2006
  Q: I am 23 years old, and I am dating an 18 year old girl. She is a freshman now at college and she is ...
  A: im so sorry i took so long my computer has been broken. if you still need help, i think you should ...
Parental Disapproval8/30/2006
  Q: I'm dealing with an issue here. My mother doesn't approve of my girlfriend. The reason being is ...
  A: well talk to her about this. tell her that it was your fauly that her dad called to begin with ...
teacher dating, i want them to interfer8/21/2006
  Q: my sister is 20 and she was been dating her former high school band teacher for 2 years now, since ...
  A: i don't think it's that weird. i mean if she was like 17 and he 30, then yes i'd say something, but ...
dating older guys8/21/2006
  Q: i am 17 yrs old. my boyfriend is 22. my parents and a couple of my friends and family are against ...
  A: they're right, not only is it weird, but it's illegal. he's breaking the law dating you, and could ...
Parents are too judgemental8/14/2006
  Q: I am 19 years old and I have been dating my boyfriend for about 3 months. He is 23 and a great guy. ...
  A: well start off by asking if they love and trust you. they'll answer yes of course, and then you just ...
Our mother is controlling.8/8/2006
  Q: My brother and I need help! I am 25 and my brother is 23 and our mother still tries to control us ...
  A: just talk to her calmly about it. explain that you are engaged now, and feel that you do not need ...
my dad and boyfriends mom8/2/2006
  Q: my dad HATES my boyfriend and his mom 10 x worse!!!!! i love Cody (my boyfriend)but his mom hates ...
  A: well since no one seems to aprove it might not work out, but if you really care then you won't let ...
My parents7/31/2006
  Q: I’m 15 years old,and have been dating this guy for a while,My problem is I told my parents to give ...
  A: wow...i'm sorry for the situation. well, just kiss up to them A LOT for a while before you tell ...
age7/28/2006
  Q: my name is heather and i am 16 years old. i usually have a rule for myself that i only date guys no ...
  A: well just tell them. explain that you told them because you LOVE them and hope they can support you. ...
mother un-negotiable and blocking7/27/2006
  Q: my mother is really strict, and i really wanna date someone, the problem is that she doesnt believe ...
  A: well prove to her that you can be trusted. Help a lot around the house for a while. do chores that ...
My Parents Won't Let Me Travel To See Him7/24/2006
  Q: ok my name is avery. im 14 and im dating nathan, whos 15. i live in houston. he lives in midland. ...
  A: well kiss up to your mom a lot, help her with everything for a while to show her that you're ...
My boyfriends mother is the devil!7/23/2006
  Q: I have started dating this guy who lives in cali. and I live in az. The realtionship is hard to ...
  A: well you tell me, do you like him enough to stay with him, despite his mother? I can't answer it for ...
Is she too dependant on her parents?7/17/2006
  Q: Some other things I've been thinking about. Early in the relationship I asked her to give me three ...
  A: i agree with you, she depends too much on her parents, and it isn't fair to you that she uses her ...
Is she too dependant on her parents?7/17/2006
  Q: My girlfriend is 27 and going through some life changing situations. Currently we are separated ...
  A: she is way too dependant on her parents, but unfortunately she seems to have been raised like that. ...
Communist family???7/2/2006
  Q: Alright, I'm in highschool and I've never had a really successful relationship yet. This past year, ...
  A: well, why don't you ask to hang out with them, bring a little something for the mom. then compliment ...
Mother dosnt like my gurl6/30/2006
  Q: My name is Travis Im 16, my gurl is 16, and for some reason my mother just dosnt like my gurlfriend, ...
  A: well, ask her why she feels this way, and what did this to make her think it to begin with. then ...
girl's parents too strict6/26/2006
  Q: i met this girl almost a month ago and we like eachother. i asked her out for last friday and she ...
  A: well, lying to the parents isn't a way to get what you want. anyway, why not talk to the parents ...
boyfriend and my mom6/23/2006
  Q: i have a boyfriend and he and i are both 14 we have been going to the same school for 2 years. I ...
  A: well, why don't you explain to her that now people very young are dating, and you know you are ...
My mom doesn't understand6/20/2006
  Q: Hey Erika, Im 15 yr old female, im dating my boyfriend thats 2 yrs older. i knew him for 5months ...
  A: well, why don't you have her and you and your boyfriend and dad all have a talk together. or ask ...
How can i gain my girlfriends moms trust?6/20/2006
  Q: ------------------------- Followup To Alright that sounds good, but what do you think I should ...
  A: well, you can ask her things you she thinks you care to get to know her. like where she was born, ...
My boyfriend's mum is evil6/19/2006
  Q: basically, she's a shit stirrer and everything evolves around money and everything has to go her way ...
  A: well, you could have a fake lotto ticket and give it 2 her and play an old tape, and then when she ...
Girlfriends mom out of control!6/18/2006
  Q: Ok, well My girlfriend and I have been dating for 7 months and we are in complete love with each ...
  A: why don't you have a talk with her. just sit down and talk with her. bring a little something to ...
Fake Rules.6/17/2006
  Q: Hey. First off, thank you for taking the time to help. Well my parents have always been Extremely ...
  A: well, if you talked to your parents and they won't listen, what can you do? Tell them how much you ...
I cant take this anymore...6/16/2006
  Q: Well, I also confessed to my mom about doing marijuna. Thats why she can put me in juvi, and she ...
  A: wow, you guys really are ahead of your years. i believed you when you said you were in love, but now ...
I cant take this anymore...6/16/2006
  Q: My girlfriend is 14 and I am 15. We were having problems, because I made a mistake and started ...
  A: aw, that is the cutest story like ever. well, be glad you can see eachother at all. i know how ...
HELPPPPP6/15/2006
  Q: I am 20 yrs old, about to be 21 in August. I have moved out several times and been independent and ...
  A: well, why don't you tell her this. I know you've tried to calmly talk to her, but try one more time. ...
Stuped Parents6/14/2006
  Q: well i have a girlfrind its kinda getting seriose and whenever my girlfriend is over we usually ...
  A: well, why don't you talk to her about it. She is probably afraid you are going to do stuff with her ...
My boyfriend's mum is evil6/14/2006
  Q: When i first started dating my boyfriend Chris he told me what a bitch his mum could be, and that ...
  A: well, what do you mean a taste of her own medicine? Like you want full on revenge or something? Tell ...
My parents won't let me live my life.6/13/2006
  Q: I'm 23 years old and I'm currently living with my parents but I'm also 6 months pregnant. My ...
  A: Well, you are an adult, and you shouldn't be intimidated. You need to stand up for yourself if you ...
Problem with age differance6/8/2006
  Q: I am 32 years old, but don’t appear to look past 25. I am also a father of three. I have been single ...
  A: I am so sorry. I would just have a little sit down with the mom and the sister. Bring a gift like ...
parents dont accept dating6/3/2006
  Q: Well here<s my story i<m a 15 year old boy turning 16 this summer. I<ve recently asked "out" a girl ...
  A: yes, it is completely and totally normal to date at your age. Parents always feel that 15 is too ...
Girlfriend's parents forcing her to breakup with me because I'm not good enough6/2/2006
  Q: My girlfriend and I, both 26 years old, have been dating for a year, and her parents would never ...
  A: Wow, this is a horrible situation, and I am terribly sorry. Well, why don't you have a little sit ...
my step father5/31/2006
  Q: ok my boyfriend and i have some issues every now and then with his ex girlfriends (becuase he is ...
  A: say just like you did to me, tell him that he is pushing you away. tell him that you love him, and ...
parents5/30/2006
  Q: hey erika! im nadine..im 15 years old and going out with a guy that is 17 going on 18 this year. i ...
  A: wow how sad. I am so sorry. My dad was the same way one time. Anyway, I would talk to him, ask him ...
Parents Destroying Our Relationship5/29/2006
  Q: I am just looking for some advice on where to go from here. Basicly, I have been seeing this girl ...
  A: Wow, I'm really sorry about the situation! Well, I would talk to her about it. How much longer ...
my mom and family hate my bf5/26/2006
  Q: my mom forbids me to see my bf and says if i do she will put a restaring order on him but i allways ...
  A: why don't you try sitting her down and calmly explaining everything. Tell her that even if he did ...
gf in the internet4/22/2006
  Q: but the problem is that me and her are in a relationship and my parents would never accept a ...
  A: Well, if you know your parents aren't going to accept it, then maybe the relationship isn't going to ...
girlfriends dad4/1/2006
  Q: ok i dunno what to do..ive been with my gf for a little over 6 months now...she is everything i ...
  A: sorry i've taken SO long to answer, it might be too late, but i think you should ask her dad what he ...

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I can answer questions about how to try to show your Parents/Guardian that they might be too judgemental about your Relationship. However, I will not help you completely ignore your Parents/Guardian, because no Relationship is worth the loss of trust of your family.

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I have been through a very tough situation with my Mom, Step Mom, and Father, as well as my Grandparents when it comes to this subject. I feel very at home with this area, and I think I could be a great help when it comes to the ups and downs of your Parents and your Relationship

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