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| Subject | Date Asked | Expert |
| What to do now | 1/22/2012 | alice bogert |
| Q: So this is a question of guidance and inspiration. I worked with a guy who I had a small crush on. ... A: It would appear that you and this young man had different ideas about the relationship you shared. ... | ||
| so i dont really know what to do now.. | 1/12/2012 | alice bogert |
| Q: i just started a new job a few weeks ago. a job that i somewhat enjoy. also i get along with ... A: As a new employee, it is imperative that you establish a good work record by meeting productivity ... | ||
| giving christmas card | 12/19/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: a christmas card and gift card inside the christmas card now the frist boss I knew him longer ... A: If you are giving other employees Christmas cards, by all means, give one to both bosses. If the ... | ||
| older boss.. | 12/12/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: I have been working for him since I was 18. I'm now 22 and hes 35. He owns a business and has about ... A: I'm not sure what is going on. My best suggestion is that you talk to him and ask him directly why ... | ||
| face to face | 12/10/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: will they listen if your apologizing to them face to face help please. thank you A: I think a face to face apology, in most instances, is the best. Part of being sorry is an ... | ||
| school people | 11/24/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: I been around a few of them and so far some of them seem grumby 1 in partulicar but I havent ... A: I doubt that school custodians have a higher number of grumpy people than other professions. People ... | ||
| I changed my mind about writing to him after the brokeup | 11/24/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: Bogert, I want to thank you for your suggestion about writing what I need to say into a piece of ... A: You know him and yourself much better than I. If you feel it's better to wait a while, go with your ... | ||
| work place help | 11/23/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: and today at work I started to work and saw the replacement walking towords me with a new rag ... A: I don't think the replacement person was being rude. He was being helpful. He switched your old ... | ||
| Should I email him after he broke up with me? | 11/23/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: This guy at my office who has been pursuing me for the last 7 years (since I started my job with ... A: I'm sorry about the breakup; matters of the heart are sometimes difficult and painful. I am not a ... | ||
| if a guy | 11/16/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: but we did have another guy in and this guy I had before . this time when he frist saw me he said ... A: Most bosses avoid personal contact with employees like you've described because of the possibility ... | ||
| i feel bad now | 11/15/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: and when he was bent over the garbage can after taking the garbage out the doors I was standing ... A: I doubt that your co-worker is as stressed over this as you are. There was nothing stupid about ... | ||
| I think I attracted the wrong guy and pushed the right one away | 11/5/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: Ok, I work with these two guys. One of them is amazing and I have had a huge crush on him, and I ... A: I'm not sure I understand correctly what you wrote, but this is how I interpreted what you related. ... | ||
| How do I handle this? Bad sisuation | 10/15/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: Alright there is a female coworker of mine who I work right next too for 3-4 months and I really was ... A: It sounds like you've come to terms with the reality of who this young lady really is. As you ... | ||
| HIPAA violations | 9/14/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: If an employee on maternity leave submits a doctor's note stating limitations and restrictions based ... A: My opinion is that the employer cannot demand to know details related to an employee's medical ... | ||
| fell in love with the devil | 9/9/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: i am 20 years old from ALgeria first of all let me start by saying i absolutely love this website ... A: Matters of the heart are difficult, especially when one's heart is broken by a lover's betrayal. You ... | ||
| Relationship in the Workplace | 9/7/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: work with this girl at work i really like her ive known her a year know and we get along brilliantly ... A: My best advise is life is short. Rather than wonder whether this girl is interested in being more ... | ||
| can't figure out | 8/29/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: affect the co worker & the boss ? it should make them feel good to have to lay some one off ... A: The person being laid off is generally the most upset, but layoffs oftentimes are upsetting to other ... | ||
| help please | 8/28/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: once you lose your job to wanna carry a doll or stuffed animal around I'm over 18 not a teen any ... A: I'm sorry you lost your job. Losses are hard, and how folks handle them differs. Following a loss, ... | ||
| Coworker attraction | 8/21/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: First let me say this female coworker and I have been working together just over two years now, I am ... A: I'm sure you are aware that a relationship with this woman is a slippery slope. Since you are the ... | ||
| what is a work.... | 8/12/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: and what can you do if you don't wanna go to a paty? please help thanks A: A work party is a gathering of employees for social interaction. Sometimes they are held to ... | ||
| what if | 8/5/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: Iknow this has nothing to do with the work place but in a way a dentist office is a work place. I ... A: Most professional business people, doctors, lawyers, dentists, insurance agents, etc., work hard to ... | ||
| help please | 7/27/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: but there is something wrong and I donno how to tell her I donno what to tell her. and seconly I ... A: My heart goes out to you; you sound lonely and like you are hurting. It's ok to envy other people ... | ||
| if some one in the work place | 6/28/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: just caurious is all please help thank you A: Most people in an office try to be cordial to others whether they like the person or not. There's a ... | ||
| work place talking | 6/15/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: hi Alice is it rude if you look at some one at work and they look at you and say hello and you ... A: I am assuming you are rather shy. That being said, it is a simple courtesy to acknowledge a person ... | ||
| UNDERWEAR PROBLEM IN THE OFFICE | 6/12/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: My waist slip has on a number of occasions recently showed below my dress or skirt at work. ... A: No need to report anyone. You already know the right answer. Purchase some shorter slips to wear to ... | ||
| why | 6/8/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: if some one is walking in the hall then they come up to you and say are you so and so ? why do ... A: Generally, the reason a person asks "are you so and so?' is because that person is looking for so ... | ||
| She deleted my number | 6/8/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: I had a 3 month realtionship with this woman at my job ( I am a woman too). We were super close and ... A: I have no idea why she deleted your number and texts. It could be she meant that as a final break ... | ||
| dating at college | 6/2/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: my name is denise and i am 23 years old. i have been in the same nursing program as john for a year ... A: Congratulations on being so close to completing your nursing degree. It's not the age difference ... | ||
| workplace problems | 6/2/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: and when I tell people that they say you can have friends & in my place its very hard to make ... A: The person who told you you can't have friends at work was not correct. We spend a lot of time with ... | ||
| Finding a woman attractive at work, please help? | 5/25/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: Over the past few summers, I've worked as a part-time assistant at the small, rural company where my ... A: My advice is to look elsewhere for romance. Pursuing Wanda has too many negatives. Surely she ... | ||
| why do people at work ask | 5/17/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: if a co worker at work asked you is something wrong? what dose it mean? why are they asking ... A: People often categorize folks in order to decide how to relate to that person. Some people are ... | ||
| my co worker | 5/12/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: I said kinda i was smiling and said but no its for my baby doll but why did she ask me if i was ... A: I don't think your co-worker meant anything negative when she smiled and asked if you were having a ... | ||
| Coworker and My Boyfriend | 4/25/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: This past summer, my boyfriend of four years started at a new location in NYC for the company we ... A: I'm sorry you are hurting. Breakups are rarely easy, especially those due to circumstances not ... | ||
| what happened? | 4/9/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: I'm a doctor and I recently met a man online who was a lawyer. He was very handsome and smart and ... A: I'm confused. Did you know this at the time you submitted your query or did you learn it after the ... | ||
| what happened? | 4/6/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: I'm a doctor and I recently met a man online who was a lawyer. He was very handsome and smart and ... A: I don't think it's odd that a rich, successful man is on a dating site. As you pointed out, you're ... | ||
| I want to date the boss, but how? | 3/12/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: Simply put, I've had a thing for my boss since I started there 8 months ago. We have a good bit in ... A: I'm afraid you're not going to like my answer. Employee-employee workplace relationships, assuming ... | ||
| Crossing a wide gap. | 3/9/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: So here's my problem. I am a 21 year old college student, working for a well known chain of fast ... A: I think the age difference is significant, regardless of how young in body and mind you consider ... | ||
| Should I go ahead with this? | 2/21/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: I am 28 year old female. I met this guy at work who is nice to talk to and nice to be with, of the ... A: This is a situation where you are going to have to do some self analysis and figure out what you ... | ||
| help | 2/15/2011 | alice bogert |
| Q: can girls ask a guy out for a coffee ? how do you ask them out and also how do you start a normal ... A: My dear, this is the year 2011; we women have come a long way. It is just as okay for a girl to ask ... | ||
| Co-workers | 11/30/2010 | Greg Giesen, aka Geese |
| Q: My boyfriend and I work in the same area and some of the people he talks to on a regular basis I ... A: He messed up by telling them things you said. You can either have him talk with them and downplay ... | ||
How to Deal With Relationships in the Workplace
Answers by Expert:
alice bogert
Top Expert on this page
Expertise
I can field questions related to employee-employee relationship issues as well as employee-manager relationship issues.
Experience
I supervised staff at the county and federal level for over 25 years. I have extensive experience dealing with employee disputes, management employee disagreements, morale issues, managing change, etc. I teach a variety of leadership and conflict resolution classes.
Organizations
National Association of Retired Federal Employees, Business Women of America.
Education/Credentials
I have a Masters Degree in Sociology.
Awards and Honors
Three Quality Step Merit Awards for Excellence while employed with the federal government. Numerous awards for training classes I've done.
Past/Present Clients
Private industry, Los Rio Community College District, federal, state and county government
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