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Expert: Azure Date: 5/16/2008 Subject: My girlfriend can't have an orgasm!
Question QUESTION: We have tried everything except any types of "sex". She cannot have an orgasm when she masturbates, and I can't get her to either! It is really frustrating to her, and we can't figure out why she isn't able to. I can work her up to the point where she could easily have one, but it just fades into nothing. PLEASE HELP!! ANY suggestions, thoughts, or reasons would be most helpful!
ANSWER: ages?...has she EVER had one?..does she have a vibrator?...what do you do to help?
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QUESTION: she is 18, I'm 19. She has had maybe three and that was about six months ago. We are thinking of trying a vibrator soon, and I do whatever I can to help.
Answer so she IS capable of them--you didn't say, but hopefully you spend alot of time with oral/manual stimulation, as some women don't come thru intercourse; aside from the vibrator, try not to get too concerned with it--sometimes the more you dwell on something, the more anxiety/pressure that results, making things more difficult..
