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Expert: Pete - 10/27/2009
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There's this girl I am interested in that I've hung out with for a few weeks. A couple days ago we spent the day at a park and had a really great time, then we went back to my house. I told her once before that I like her, and based on her body language (things such as backing into me when we're cuddling and wrapping her fingers around my arm) I can tell she likes me as well. That day I finally made a move and gave her a kiss, which led to making out, which led to both of us with our shirts off. We didn't have sex because she told me she was on her period (I know she was lying and just did not want to go that far), but she seemed very into everything else. She never pulled away when we were making out, and she was even the one who pulled my shirt off and was feeling my chest. The next few days though is where the problem lies though. She was still initiating normal conversation and such, but was keeping herself distant when I would try to ask about that night. I asked her if she liked it and she said she didn't know, even though at the time I definitely got the feeling she was as into it as I was. I haven't seen her in person since that night, but we're seeing each other tomorrow. I initiated most of what went on, do you think I went too fast? I think I did. I care about this girl on a deeper level than physicality and lust, but I'm afraid she may have interpreted my moves as just wanting her body, or is she just confused as to what happened? Any advice on what she may be thinking or what I should do would be appreciated.
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Hi Sam
Thanks for sharing with me.
I think that the best thing you can do is have a conversation with this girl and work out what you both really want.
Sex is a big deal - it is the most intimate thing that two humans can do.
If you both decide that you want to do it, make sure that you use a water based lube and a condom.
Do not rush into sex, just because you are horny.
Let me know if you need more info.
I wish you both well
Pete
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