Expert: Pete - 10/29/2009

Question
Hey Pete, I am 20 yr old female that cannot orgasm to oral sex. I enjoy very much giving my bf head it turns me on, but when it comes to him performing oral on me.. it feels really good and my legs start to twitch in a way(strange?) when he licks my clit directly but after awhile its almost as if i get too sensitive and my clit goes numb. Oral sex is more like oral stimulation or a tease to me. Im also starting to do research on emotional or psychological connections to orgasms because i can only get myself off so any insight on that would be helpful. i am a little self conscience about the way my vagina looks so maybe that could be it? I also have never really been into fingering do you think im just not open minded enough?

Answer
Hi Sarah

Thanks for sharing with me.

Fromn what you say it sounds as if your boyfriend is doing everything right.

What I suggest is that you get him to slow down his foreplay technique and start off by giving you a gentle neck and shoulders massage to release any build up of tension.  

You may like to repay the favour to him.

Then, when you are both ready, slowly guide him to perform oral sex.  Get him to vary his tongue and finger movements.

Relax and enjoy the pleasure.

Rememebr that vaginas come in sorts of shapes, colours and sizes and they are all ok.

Afte all, your boyfriend is ok with it, so should'nt you be?

Let me know how you go.

I wish you well

Pete