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Question QUESTION: I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now and the sex has always been good and very pleasing. Recently, however, when we have sex if he goes too fast or too deep it gets WAY too intense for me to the point where I can't handle it and have to make him stop. Is there something wrong with me?
ANSWER: so do you have orgasms with intercourse?..what happens if he doesn't stop?...is it uncomfortable/painful?
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QUESTION: I used to have orgasms but as of recently its been too uncomfortably intense that I have to make him stop. I dont what happens if he doesnt stop b/c i've always made him stop.
ANSWER: have you asked him to make adjustments?
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QUESTION: yes, if we use the missionary position we are fine. It's only during the deep penetrating positions that I get this feeling.
Answer there's no magic answer; the rule of thumb is, do what feels good, eliminate what doesn't; i doubt there's anything wrong physically, but if you want certainty, see a gynecologist; otherwise, suggest he be less aggressive in his approach, see if that helps--sometimes things just change, requiring that adjustments be made..work together to share the pleasurable, eliminate the rest..
