AboutPete Expertise I am an Australian clinical hypnotherapist and counsellor who can answer all questions to do with male sexuality and questions relating to intimacy.
No problem is too big or too small. You can ask in total confidence.
Experience Comprehensive experience in hypnotherapy and counselling in Australia over a number of years. I have two very successful clinics that cater for people what to make permanent positive changes in their lives.
Organizations Full Member Australian Association of Clinical Hypnotherapy & Psychotherapy
Education/Credentials Bachelor of Arts Degree, Post Graduate Diploma of Education, Diploma of Clinical Hypnotherapy, Graduate Diploma of Psychotherapy & Counselling
Past/Present Clients I do not discuss past or present clients
Question Hi Pete, ive been married to my wife for about a year. before that we dated 3 years. before i keep going with the question i guess it is important to mention that its never been really easy to make my wife orgasm. she claims that she can only orgasm when she is on top in other words cowgirl position. so basically i just lay there while she reaches her climax. So since we've been married we've been pretty stressed out with work and its been a pretty bumpy first year of marriage but we're hanging in there. to make a long story short ....i cant make her orgasm. its been a while since she has. i dont even think she tries anymore. and i guess since i cant make her climax we are not having much sex these days. its to the point were she threw it in my face that im not making her orgasm when she didnt have this problem before. what can i do....what new things can i try? sometimes i beleive shes just not sexually attracted to me. other times i beleive that stress could be the problem. whichever it is it makes you feel terrible as a man. please help!
Answer Hi JJ
Thanks for sharing with me.
A lot of women get the most orgasm from clitoral stimulation rather than penetration.
This is why I always suggest that guys develop their oral sex skills.
Cowgirl and doggy style are very good positions for extra stimulation. However I think that there are some issues outside of the bedroom that also need to be addressed if you are going to heal your relationship.
Remember, that your wife also has a responsibility for her own sexual happiness - not just you.
