Expert: Azure - 10/29/2009

Question
Lately i have been having trouble getting horny. Not only with my girlfriend, but even with myself. It all started when my girlfriend had a yeast infection and we couldn't have sex for two weeks. I used to be the type of guy that wanted sex anytime anywhere. when she was all better and wanted to have sex a couldn't get hard. This really shot my confidence down. I got over it and sex was great. Recently she had her period and sex was over for a while again. I feel like i'm back to square one and unable to perform. I am a 19 year old male and i don't understand why i can't get horny.
  This has been stressing me out and the more i think about it the worse it makes the problem. This makes me feel bad because my girlfriend is very attractive but i feel like i'm letting her down. In the end she feels like shes the one doing something wrong.
  How do i turn this whole mess around?

Answer
yeast infections and periods aren't very sexy things to think about; you have to change your mindset, focus on the things about her you like--both those things are now gone, but the period will return; during that time there are other means of pleasuring each other; if you keep worrying about how you'll perform, it will only get worse...just focus on giving her pleasure in various ways, and your arousal will naturally return...