About Antoinette Proffer Expertise I studied Sexology in Venezuela, also have a Masters Degree in Cognitive Behavior Orientation.
I can answer all types of questions about human sexuality.
Couples, Individuals, Children issues are welcome.English or Spanish.
Experience I studied in Venezuela in one of the most important centers for Sexologic Research, together with the Masters in Cognitive Behavior many myths and causes of sexual dysfunction could be solved and treated.We followed Masters and Johnson theories and techniques.
Organizations American Montessori Society
Education/Credentials Ms.Sc. Orientation Behavior, Sexology.C.I.P.P.S. Venezuela 1996.
Bachelors degree Early Childhood Education, UNA, Caracas, Venezuela
Montessori Certfication St.Nicholas Training Centre for Montessori Ed.London, U.K.
Past/Present Clients In Venezuela, i worked with private practice in a clinic: Centro Medico Del Lago, Sexologist and Therapist,using Behavior Cognitive approach.Educator, Early Childhood.
Montessori Educator,owner of Montessori Center in EEUU.
Holistic Practitioner
Internet sessions, On Line Therapist.
Question QUESTION: I am wondering how to fix my sex life with my wife. Our sex life was excellent before we got married and a few months after we got married. It kinda just died to once every week or two if im lucky. She gets upset when I bring it up and accused me of cheating when I just ignore it all together. I just found a vibrator hidden in her purse when I was looking for my iPod to go running. She knows I don't like them and don't want them in the house. I know she has lived a lesbian lifestyle and I am wondering how concerned I should be with this new development in our non-existent sex life since I caught her talking to an ex-girlfiend of hers earlier this year? We have a daughter together and I want to be there for the kids but I don't feel like my needs should be ignored when I do everything I have thought to do to make her happy in every way.
ANSWER: Maybe after the passion was over your wife and you didn't get tyhe time to work on things that glue together the relationships, as admiration to each other, enjoying doing things as partners,as well as time for each one of you, of course love and friendship count a lot .too in a marriage!
The homosexual issue could be a factor at this time but I do not have ways to tell for sure about it.It depends of how your wife orientation was developing through several years and how old was she when she decided to marry you.
A child is not a strong bond to keep a couple together(and happy), many times it is more an obstacle.Maybe the routine of being a mother and a wife made her to lose the interest in sex with her husband.
Try to talk to her as you did here and address your questions to her to see how she react, tell her about your feelings in front of the facts you are living.
Good Luck!
Antoinette
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QUESTION: From what she has told me, which she has lied about some things from her past before, is that she start dating women in her early twenties and kinda bounced back and forth from me and women. Another big issue that we have is communication. Neither one of us feel like we can confide in each other because the other person feels like they are being attacked. We usually have to settle fights thought text messaging because we can't talk with out yelling and screaming at each other. So what should I do about the forbidden sex toys?
Answer I do not see the problem are the sex toys or the forbidden things.
You feel attacked by her, if you want to talk, and she lied already in the past to you.
There are some issues to solve in your relationship and they require time and several sessions with an expert.
If you "forget" about these issues there will be a moment of a great explosion because you deep inside are not happy.
Communication is important, both need to start a therapy as soon as possible!
