About Antoinette Proffer Expertise I studied Sexology in Venezuela, also have a Masters Degree in Cognitive Behavior Orientation.
I can answer all types of questions about human sexuality.
Couples, Individuals, Children issues are welcome.English or Spanish.
Experience I studied in Venezuela in one of the most important centers for Sexologic Research, together with the Masters in Cognitive Behavior many myths and causes of sexual dysfunction could be solved and treated.We followed Masters and Johnson theories and techniques.
Organizations American Montessori Society
Education/Credentials Ms.Sc. Orientation Behavior, Sexology.C.I.P.P.S. Venezuela 1996.
Bachelors degree Early Childhood Education, UNA, Caracas, Venezuela
Montessori Certfication St.Nicholas Training Centre for Montessori Ed.London, U.K.
Past/Present Clients In Venezuela, i worked with private practice in a clinic: Centro Medico Del Lago, Sexologist and Therapist,using Behavior Cognitive approach.Educator, Early Childhood.
Montessori Educator,owner of Montessori Center in EEUU.
Holistic Practitioner
Internet sessions, On Line Therapist.
Question Hi there, I'm an 18 year old guy from Ireland. I was dating a 17 year old girl for over two months and we were both very interested in sex. We saw each other several times for intimate purpose and we've mutually practiced oral sex. She was sexually attracted to me and I brought her to orgasm at least once through fingering.
The time came for us to actually have sex. She had experience but she knew I was still a virgin. After much foreplay which included her bringing me to orgasm orally, we decided to do it. We got into position, but I could not penetrate her. I tried and tried and just when I thought I was in, she let out a little cry of pain as I had cut her.
So, in short, I wasn't able to enter her and I also slightly injured her.
I was deeply upset by the whole affair. I tried to figure out what the problem was. I was attracted to her but I still couldn't figure it out. I wasn't quite as hard as I would have liked and I couldn't fulfil this basic human function.
I felt a terrible shame about this. I still do. Despite her reassurances that it happened with her other boyfriends, I still have this feeling of sheer uselessness. I ask myself again and again why it happened. Was I not hard enough because of the blow job she had given me earlier? Was the room too cold? She was certainly turned on enough and well lubricated. I keep feeling that it was my fault and I disappointed myself and her.
We are no longer together. It turns out that she only wanted me for sex (we both understood that) and that she was actually seeing a 22 year old guy, which I didn't know about before she left. I feel like I let her down as I think she expected more from me. Perhaps I built it up too much for both of us. I know I appeared more experienced than I was (I considered myself quite authoratative on erotic matters- I have been writing BDSM themed erotic stories for some years now), but it became quite clear to me that I was horribly lacking in real experience.
I was wondering if perhaps you knew how to overcome this situation in future and how I can stop feeling this sense of shame and embarrassment?
Answer You write very well to be just 18!
Ok, you are telling me she had experience but in other line you told me you cut her...Is "cut" for you the same as perforating her hymen?
If so, she was not so experienced.
She could suffer from involuntary muscle control or vaginism, the muscles around her vagina get so tight that make the penetration imposible.It requires sexological treatment.
I am sorry about your broken heart, many times it occurs in life but always is difficult for the one who is in love and cares.
Good luck with your stories...!!!
