Expert: Pete - 6/28/2009

Question
Hi, I've Noticed Theres A lot of Question on This Subject But none Really Seem To Answer Me Fully.

I've Been With My Boyfriend For A Year And A Half. I'm Now 17 And He's Nearly 18. We've Been Having Sex For About a Year. And I've Never Once Had An Orgasm. I've Tried Masturbation but Still Cant Seem To Orgasm.

I Have Had sex Once Before Being with my current boyfriend. I Was 13 my boyfriend was 16 and we we're both drunk. I Said No But He Still Carried On. Which Scared Me For Years.

I Am Now With Someone I Love very much, And Feel Horrible. He Feels Like He Cant Pleasure Me. Which He Can Just Not To The Point Of An Orgasm.

He Has Been With Many Other Girls And Was Very Experienced When We Got Together Which Made Me Feel Insecure.

I'm Not Fat But not Skinny, My Boobs Are 32D But To Me They Seem Really Small. I Hate My Body In Everyway And Would Love To Change Everything About It. Everyone Tells Me I'm Pretty And Skinny And Get Alot Of Attention But I Just Cant Stand Looking at Myself.

The Only Time I Think I've Come Close To An Orgasm Is In Oral Sex When He Goes Down On Me, But As Soon As He Starts Frigging Me I Just Feel Like I Want To Wee And That Kinda Turns Me Off. We Have Sex Every other day And Oral Sex Everyday And Yet I Still Haven't had a Orgasm. What Is Wrong With me??

Sorry For The Essay.
xx

Answer
Hi Jane

Thanks for sharing with me.

That time when you think you need to urinate is the brink of an orgasm.

There are tiny muscles that stop urine flowing during an orgasm.  Any liquid you expel is female ejaculate which looks, feels and tastes like precum and is made by similar glands.

If you are worried about ruining the bed, place a towel underneath yourself.  Most guys are very OK about their partners gushing on them, if you are doubtful, ask your partner.

All you need to do is relax more and enjoy the feelings.

If you are still plauged by bad memories from the past, see a counsellor and get assistance before they take over your life.

I wish you well

Pete