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Question My Husband and I get along well outwardly. We don't have issues outside out bedroom at all. We have 2 kids and we are too busy and our day is full with activities all day long.
I don't feel sexually drawn towards my husband. And more so after the babies I don't feel it at all. My entire day is very busy and I don't get time for myself. I feel I rather have quiet time over sex.
My husband says that if we have no sex then we need to get a divorce. There is no point in our marriage.
Is marriage all about Sex even when everything else is going for us?
Answer it's not ALL about sex, but it's a necessary component, and he has a legitimate concern that it's your responsibility to address; that means you have to honestly convey your feelings, then decide if you want to cooperate on finding a means to recapture lost intimacy/passion (options include seeing an endocrinologist/couples counseling)...there's also a book i'd recommend, "passionate marriage" by schnarch...if you're not sufficiently motivated as to the above, tell him, find a good lawyer...
