Expert: Pete - 6/3/2009

Question
hi pete,
my boyfriend and my sex life is amazing, normally. He loves being in control and I love being controlled. Even the girl on top position he manages to stay in control. normally I don't mind but he wanted me to be in contol last night and I felt like I was doing something wrong. he said I was doing fine but it seemed like he was leaning more towards the bad side. this would be our first minor problem in our sex life but it there any way for me to know i'm giving him as much pleasure as he gives me?

Answer
Hi Bree

Thanks for sharing with me.

Sorry it has taken me a while to reply - I have been very busy with work.

It is important in a healthy relationship to keep sex interesting.

Sometimes you should be more dominate (most guys secretly love it when they are dominated).

I don't understand when you say "it seemed like he was leaning more towards the bad side".  Can you explain in a follow-up question?

Keep the communication going and trust that he will tell you if something amiss.

I wish you well

Pete