AboutPete Expertise I am an Australian clinical hypnotherapist and counsellor who can answer all questions to do with male sexuality and questions relating to intimacy.
No problem is too big or too small. You can ask in total confidence.
Experience Comprehensive experience in hypnotherapy and counselling in Australia over a number of years. I have two very successful clinics that cater for people what to make permanent positive changes in their lives.
Organizations Full Member Australian Association of Clinical Hypnotherapy & Psychotherapy
Education/Credentials Bachelor of Arts Degree, Post Graduate Diploma of Education, Diploma of Clinical Hypnotherapy, Graduate Diploma of Psychotherapy & Counselling
Past/Present Clients I do not discuss past or present clients
Question My girlfriend and I are both 19 and have been dating gor about a year and a half. Becuase of my religious backgrounds I have had some misgivings about how far we went sexually. however, about the same time we started dating I had begun to question my religious beliefs, so eventually I ended up up letting us go as far as hand jobs. Now I have always liked the idea of a vagina, but when I actually went to pleasure her, it did not feel as I had expected, and I'm not sure that I enjoy it. The feeling has nothing to do with her personally, I'm sure its the same for all girls. I'm not trying to offend anyone, its just how I feel. However, this hurt her feelings when she eventually found out, and quite justly I would say. I just don't know what to do, she still turns me on, its just that one thing. Is our relationship doomed? Are all my own future relationships doomed? Is this uncommon? I don't think I'm gay, could I be and just not know it?
Answer Hi John
Thanks for sharing with me.
I think you are being too hard on yourself.
It is an enormous thing to question your religious beliefs and it is only reasonable that it has caused you angst. All I can suggest is that you consider keeping those parts of your faith that appeal to you as they are part of you.
As for sex, it is best to slow down and remember that for it to be as amazing as you really want it to be, it requires Love, Respect and Intimacy...not just the meeting of genitals.
I doubt that you are gay by the way from what you have said.
I think that you are just getting your head around a lot of information all at once.
It could be a good idea if you still have strong feelings for the girl to talk with her more about what has been happening in your head: you can start the relationship again (slowly).
Let me know if you have any specific questions about sex - nothing is too embarrassing for me.
