Expert: Pete - 8/27/2009

Question
QUESTION: hi am a 32 year old mom and as far i can remeber i never had an orgasm i,ve tryed and done all what u can think of,but still it dose,nt work so can u plz help me thanks

ANSWER: Hi Ann

Thanks for sharing with me.

A lot of women who say that they have orgasmic problems are stopping themselves from experiencing an orgasm because they are not sure what to expect.

When you feel that you need to urinate keep on going with sex or masturbation...you are about to have an orgasm.

Just remember that it is impossible to urinate and be orgasmic at the same time.  There are timy muscles that stop urine flow.

Any liquid you release during an orgasm is not urine but female ejaculate which lookes, feels and tastes like men's precum.

Two positions that are useful to stimulate orgasms is doggy style because the G spot is stimulated by the penis and Cowgirl because the female does all the thrusting.

See how you go.

Let me know if you need further info.

I wish you well

Pete

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QUESTION: hi i,ve tried what u said and it still dose,nt work i think there,s something wrong with me i do,nt know what to do now so can u plz help

Answer
Hi there

Sorry for the delay in writing back.

The most important thing that you can do is relax and slowly enjoy the special connection that you have with your partner.

The more you worry about orgasms, the less likely you are to have them period.

If you still have issues, seek professional support from a counsellor who specialises in sex therapy.

I wish you well

Pete