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Question Recently I got a girlfriend and any time where involved in any kind of touching, even something as innocent as holding hands or putting my arm on her shoulder, i get a hard-on, when i spend exstended of periods of time with my chick i have an erection the whole time, and when i come home, my johnson and boys are in pain. Since we just started dating we aren't going to be having any kind of sex for a while, and i have this problem regardless of whether i've masterbated or not. Even thoughts of my girlfriend can spark a hard-on. My question is, is this normal ? and is there any techniques i could do to become flaccid again? and do u have any relevant information on this subject that could be helpful ?
Answer Hello Cidioyus
Yes, this is perfectly natural. No offence intended, but it seems like you're fairly young. Being young, you lack the ability to control your erections. This is normal, my friend. I would suggest that you masturbate right before seeing her. If, during the course of your date, you start getting hard again, excuse yourself to the bathroom and relieve yourself (quietly, of course). This should hold you over for a couple of hours again. That, or you could try and concentrate on something that is unattractive and non-sexual (like maybe your grandmother?).
It can take some time before you can have complete control over your erections. Living in Europe, I can go to a co-ed sauna filled with beautiful women and not have an erection unless I want to (but that would get me ejected from the facility!!). Penis control comes with time, Cidioyus.
