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My story ,well you probably heard so many stories and mine could be similar.
First ill tell you what I am going through and then ill tell you how did it start.
i have what they call a half way erection and some times I have a full one, but not as strong as it used to be, plus I cum in no time when having sex less then 20 seconds some times.
OK am 29 now ,but when I was 23 I had a perfect erection but I used to cum fast, the good thing that I was able to go on and on for a second and third time and last abet longer.
My story:
Everything was ok till I broke up with my girl this was three years ago, but didn’t know it until one day ,when I got to know this girl and she was living France and visited her ,she was hot and all first time we tried I was hard and good ,but I didn’t last for long ,I said you know maybe I traveled a long distance so maybe I am tired. Following day morning we tried I was taking ages to get it up and when it gets up it wasn’t that hard and didn’t last for long, and I tried and tried for several time, till I started getting all sort of funny faces on that girl.
Then I came back home and after a few months of trying to convince myself(not to mention that at one point I didn’t have a erection), I got to know this other girl she was hot nice ,as we call it the marrying kind, I wanted to settle down with her and all , the first time we had sex, my problem came back again ,came very fast ,as days went by we tried and sex was awful ,we end up never having sex and end of the story we didn’t get married.
Now I found THE ONE girl I wanted ,and am really worried . I have read a lot on websites about going to check my hormones and all,so I went I didn’t have a problem in my hormones considering am just 29.And honestly I don’t want to screw this up with this girl cause I really love her. I always get hard when we kiss and touch,but lose it quickly,we still didn’t get to the sex level yet.I don’t want to take vaiagra and all cause I always felt that these medicine were for old people and I find it silly to stop my girl while we are in action and go have a pill and continue???!!!
WHAT SHOULD I DO? I beg you help
Answer Hi Slick
Have you heard the term "Practice makes perfect"? Well, this doesn't only go for organized sports, my friend. This is a big thing when it comes to sex. The more often you have sex, the longer you will be able to last. The longer you can last, the more confidence you have. The more confidence you have, the stronger your erections will be. You see where I am going with this? I think you do.
Look, it's not uncommon for someone that is out of practice to be a little quick on the draw. Add to that your performance anxiety and there are your problems. You need to get back in the saddle and work these issues out NOW. Just tell this girl that you're seeing that it's been a long time since you've had sex and that you aren't very experienced. I think she will understand if you are a little nervous and cum a too fast the first few times. She might even consider giving you a blow job to get you off before you have sex, then start the foreplay with her until you get hard again. Then you should be able to have a nice session.
It's not the end of the world, Slick. This is normal stuff that happens all the time. Just be confident in yourself and everything else will work out.
