AboutPete Expertise I am an Australian clinical hypnotherapist and counsellor who can answer all questions to do with male sexuality and questions relating to intimacy.
No problem is too big or too small. You can ask in total confidence.
Experience Comprehensive experience in hypnotherapy and counselling in Australia over a number of years. I have two very successful clinics that cater for people what to make permanent positive changes in their lives.
Organizations Full Member Australian Association of Clinical Hypnotherapy & Psychotherapy
Education/Credentials Bachelor of Arts Degree, Post Graduate Diploma of Education, Diploma of Clinical Hypnotherapy, Graduate Diploma of Psychotherapy & Counselling
Past/Present Clients I do not discuss past or present clients
Question i will get straight to the point. when ever i have sex with my G/friend i cum within 5-10mins and i am reli embarrass about it. what can i do to last longer
Answer Hi Liam
Thank you for sharing with me.
Firstly, it is my understanding that 0-2 minutes is definable as Premature Ejaculation (PE).
Therefore you are doing well at the moment. There is nothing to be embarrassed about.
This means that you just need to spend some more time fine tuning your ability to control ejaculation and keeping your partner happy.
So this is what I suggest:
1. Work on your foreplay skills. Remember that most guys need very little (if any foreplay if they are really honest) to get them ready for sex. Women are very different. Talk with your girlfriend about what she likes, doesn't like and when she has had enough.
You should aim to give her at least 1 orgasm before having penetrative sex.
Make sure that your fingers are clean and the nails are trimmed.
Take your time and enjoy this special time with your partner. Talk to her as you do foreplay. "I love you" can never be said too often.
Positions:
Be aware that it is too easy for a guy to ejaculate early in these positions:
Missionary
Doggy style
there is too much stimulation on the head of the penis; and it is too easy to get carried away with thrusting.
Best positions:
cow girl (female on top) you do not thrust at all
spooning
the next thing is that you need to train yourself to be more aware of the pleasurable feelings that build up as you are getting close to ejaculating, so that you can control them.
My clients find masturbation to be the easiest way of doing this.
Set aside at least 20 minutes.
Use a high quality lube.
Masturbate with an awareness of the head of the penis...not just the shaft (as most males do).
When you are close to ejaculating, stop. Take a deep breath and let the moment pass. When you are ready to continue slowly build up the tempo and stop when you feel that you are about to ejaculate.
Keep doing this and when you have gone for at least 10-15+ minutes you can allow yourself to enjoy the intensity of ejaculating and having a very strong orgasm.
Most clients find that practicing a couple of times a week it really helps them when they are having sex with their partner.
I hope the above helps.
Feel free Liam to ask me a follow up question if you want to.
