Expert: Maggie - 7/8/2007

Question
*I want to ask you if it is normal to not bleed on your first sexual intercourse??I mean i've used tampons before but is that the reason why i dont bleed when i had my first sexual intercourse?
* also, after i have had my first sexual intercourse, i began to release this smelly fluid that i dont usually have...should i go to the doctor and get it check or is that normal??
* When are the best times of the month to have sex which decreases your chances of getting pregnant????


                                     THANK YOU IN ADVANCE!


Answer
Hi Kim,

Yeah this is totally normal not to bleed on your first time. The thing is NOT all women will bleed on theirs. Some might but not all. So loosing your virginity shouldn't be synonym at all with bleeding. When a women bleeds, this can be due to a lot of things (even women not on their first time might bleed during sex to give you an idea), for example, this can be due to microtearing or your hymen (which is a bit less likely if it hasn't been stretched much before...tampons and everyday activites can contribute to streching of your hymen to a certain extend), microtearing to the vaginal lining, having an uncaring partner, lack of lubrication, etc.

As for the fluid you've noticed, could you describe it a little bit to me ? What kind of smell is it : fishy ? Is it different than your normal discharge you had before (some people just start to notice more their discharge after they become sexually active..could it be the case.. could it be the normal discharge you've always had ?), what color is it, what consistency is it ?. I'm going to give you an article to read. Look at it and if you still think that is NOT normal (for me to tell that I'd have to have those questions above answered at least first), then go see your doc/gyn. http://www.scarleteen.com/article/body/honorably_discharged_a_guide_to_vaginal_s...

As for your last question, this method of contraception isn't recommended for young girls. If you want to use it  as part of your protection against pregnancy, you need to be charting your cycles : you need to be taking your temperature, checking your cervical mucous, and charting it. You need to be able to do it well which is another thing. Also, if it's been less than 5 years you've been having your period, your cycles probably aren't regular yet and you won't be able to predict when you're due to ovulate. So really, the best thing is to couple two hormonal birth control method if one isn't satisfying for you, like the condom and the pill for example which offer a great protection when coupled since the pill protects you at around 99 % and the condom at around 98 %. That's the best thing to do.

Feel free to follow-up,
Take care,
Maggie.