AboutPete Expertise I am an Australian clinical hypnotherapist and counsellor who can answer all questions to do with male sexuality and questions relating to intimacy.
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Experience Comprehensive experience in hypnotherapy and counselling in Australia over a number of years. I have two very successful clinics that cater for people what to make permanent positive changes in their lives.
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Question Alright, so before I get into anything, I am a 15 year old male, I am in very good shape, I am over average in size(about 7.5 inches, and I'm pretty sure I'm not done yet) and possibly over-average in girth as well(I've never measured but I look pretty big sideways, I'd say maybe 5/5 1/2 inches around? I don't know). Mind you, I always look at myself as "I could be bigger and wider", and this way probably one of my drawbacks from getting hard. I was... (I guess "was", because I still got it in there) a virgin, but because I wasn't as "hard" as I usually am when I am masturbating/alone, I still consider myself a virgin. I actually am very good at oral and manual clitoral/vaginal stimulation. I have given my girlfriend multiple orgasms just through oral and manual stimulation.. She is [or was... I guess?] a virgin but even with my fingers, she still is VERY tight, one finger was all that I could fit into her.
Okay, now to my story..
Okay, so we were having a great day alone at home, we got into the moment/each other and I began eating her out.. She told me to stop because of the intensity, she needed a break. So we just cuddled and kissed, I went back down on her the shortly for the second time and she was loving it, I had to slow down because she was, I guess, you could say "shaking" because it was a pretty intense orgasm. I let her rest again, but eventually she started teasing me and I knew she wanted more, so I went back down on her again and the same thing happened as before, I'm not even sure a female can orgasm this much. Soooo, finally, things got REALLY heated and the next thing I knew I was unwrapping a condom. Now, when I was eating her out, I was ROCK hard, but now I slowly started "fading away" as I was unwrapping the condom. I'm not going to lie, being my first time with sex, I was VERY nervous and became very self-conscious about my size (as I stated earlier)and I for some reason all I could think about was "am I BIG enough?!", when I finally got the thing out, it was like I was a batch of cookies that just came out of an oven, chewy and soft.. Now, I tried to play with her a bit and kinda give my penis a bit of a rub down since that's all he's been prone too for alot of my life, but he barely got any harder/bigger.. I just couldn't stimulate it because by that point I was just way to nervous, I felt so defeated already.. I also am not used to having a condom ontop of my penis, which is probably another reason I was nervous, it was a very "different" feeling. I just kept kissing her and fiddling around with my fingers, I eventually started getting a little harder where I figured I could try to penetrate her. So I began tracing her hole with my penis, (we were in an L position where I am the one on the bottom) so it was difficult for me to find it (more nervousness), when I finally did... Now, my girlfriend is absolutely gorgeous and the love of my life, and I got scared when she said "ow" as I was trying to get into her. Because I am a very caring boyfriend and I never want my girlfriend to ever feel pain.. I got scared, which added to my nervousness. I stayed "decently" hard for a little while but it just didn't feel right... She was still making noises, but they sounded like... half pain, half pleasure.. I can't explain it.. I need help.. I need to know if I'm normal.. I don't even know anymore..
Answer Hi Anon
Thanks for sharing with me.
Firstly let me assure you that your penis size is absolutely fine: 7.5 inches is larger than the so-called standard which is 6". Your girth sounds impressive also.
As a 15 year old, there is a good chance that these figures will increase over the next few years too.
Nerves will kill an erection every time. Regardless how old you are or how much experience you have.
So you need to relax more and feel into the good feeling that you have.
To get used to the idea of sex with a condom (good to hear that you are aware of safe sex) you should practice masturbating with a condom.
Make sure you get one marked larger size etc. Use a good quality water based lube as well.
You must spend a lot of time relaxing your partner before you try having sex again. If she is fully relaxed you can insert your penis in her.
It sounds like she is very orgasmic which is helpful. Take your time and apply lots of lube if need be.
having large towel underneath her is a good idea as there could be a lot of blood from breaking the hymen. This is common.
There can be some pain involved with the breaking of the hymen.
If this is a worry for her, she should consult her doctor or a nurse.
Missionary with you on top is the easiest position for you to penetrate - get her to help out if you can't find the vagina's opening. All that is usually needed is a gentle thrust.
I hope this helps. Let me know if you need more info via a follow up question.
