| Subject | Date Asked |
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| Semi erection | 11/20/2009 |
Q: I'm 37 years old. I've never had a problem getting a full erection before. I recently ...
A: possibly a physical issue, or more likely, performance anxiety, which can occur with attractive ...
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| wife hates sex after mariage | 11/18/2009 |
Q: i have been married for 25 years now. Before marriage wife was very sexually agressive and did all ...
A: you're about 24 years late writing this; at this point, i doubt anything is changing; why you've put ...
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| Can't reach orgasm | 11/16/2009 |
Q: I'm 18 and I've been sexually active since 15. Since then I've only reached orgasm 6 times; twice ...
A: since you've had orgasms, i don't think past issues are the problem; it's more that you're too ...
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| Lack of Sex After 50 | 11/15/2009 |
Q: My wife and I have been married for over 35 years. Two kids who are gone from home now. We had a ...
A: i wouldn't call it a problem, unless YOU view it as such...some guys your age have no interest ...
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| Lack of Sex After 50 | 11/15/2009 |
Q: My wife and I have been married for over 35 years. Two kids who are gone from home now. We had a ...
A: word of encouragement: accept the unchangeable--as to whether her lack of desire for you is one of ...
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| Cunnilingus | 11/14/2009 |
Q: Hey Azure, so I'm 19yrs old and I'm a virgin. I'm in college and all I always hear is guys talking ...
A: every girl is somewhat unique, every guy has his own opinion; hard to describe the general ...
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| Boyfriend can't get off with me | 11/8/2009 |
Q: I am a twenty-something female. I am in the beginning (4-month stage) of my second romantic ...
A: as you inferred, he's probably not gonna admit to anything; i'd inform him that unless/unti there's ...
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| Female Arousal | 11/2/2009 |
Q: I met a girl two years ago. I fell in love with her, but discovered she had a boyfriend which she ...
A: appears to be a contradiction of terms, unless she means something different then the general ...
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| My husband has low sex drive | 10/30/2009 |
Q: I am a 41 year old and my husband is 58 9 will turn 59 in Dec) When we first met 4 years ago we ...
A: not a question of a mind change; the guy either has a physical issue, is seeing someone else, is ...
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| A few questions about sex | 10/30/2009 |
Q: I am 18 years old. I have never had sex. I have done a lot of research on having sex, more ...
A: not worrying about the pain will make you more relaxed and make it less painful--childbirth is ...
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| sex | 10/29/2009 |
Q: Lately i have been having trouble getting horny. Not only with my girlfriend, but even with myself. ...
A: yeast infections and periods aren't very sexy things to think about; you have to change your ...
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| hey | 10/29/2009 |
Q: I've been in a sexual relationship with my boyfriend for a year and 9 months now and i'm starting to ...
A: since you just had an orgasm, i'd say your sexual enjoyment problem is lessening on its own; as for ...
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| Love my man, but hate his sex | 10/24/2009 |
Q: I am in my mid-twenties and have been seeing a man in his early 40's for about 8 months now. I love ...
A: some parts might be changeable, some not; for example, his hang up as to the oral probably isn't ...
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| low libido | 10/20/2009 |
Q: I am male, 40, with low sex drive. Are there any over-the counter meds or herbs that will get me ...
A: life extension (LEF.org) has a product called "prelox" that might help; you can also see an ...
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| Sex too intense... | 10/10/2009 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now and the sex has always been good and very ...
A: there's no magic answer; the rule of thumb is, do what feels good, eliminate what doesn't; i doubt ...
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| Fallow-up | 10/6/2009 |
Q: Although you might think that its a waste of time/energy. It's not. I know what you might be ...
A: .i don't recall the original question however; generally, my opinion of long distance arrangements ...
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| Loss of respect | 10/3/2009 |
Q: Some of my partner's behaviors have caused me to lose a bit of respect for him, which in turn has ...
A: i don't blame you...we could debate using the term "addicted", but no matter; he could easily ...
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| hymen-follow up | 9/28/2009 |
Q: thnx for ur quick answer azure..no, we solve the problem of my vagina wetness as we added more ...
A: certainly, the hymen, if you're sure it's still there, would prevent any deep penetration...the ...
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| follow- up | 9/28/2009 |
Q: U gotta get over these hang ups.. How is respecting a woman so she doesn't have to swallow semen a ...
A: first you said it was "disgusting and wrong", then later, "if she wants to swallow, then ok"..you're ...
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| follow- up | 9/28/2009 |
Q: U gotta get over these hang ups.. How is respecting a woman so she doesn't have to swallow semen a ...
A: listen, when you've had oral sex with 100 women, then you can talk about what women want or ...
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| follow- up | 9/28/2009 |
Q: U gotta get over these hang ups.. How is respecting a woman so she doesn't have to swallow semen a ...
A: that's not respect---women aren't obligated to swallow--they WANT to, either because they like it ...
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| no orgasm, hymen still there.. | 9/27/2009 |
Q: me and my boyfriend are both 16 and decided to begin our sexual lives about 2 weeks ago..our 1st ...
A: be patient...u need to break the hymen, either with a finger or dildo; some women don't ever come ...
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| Intimacy with boyfriend | 9/22/2009 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend exclusively for about a year and before that we were friends for about ...
A: i don't buy his response--increased emotions don't lead to less sex or "weirdness", lessening ...
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| My partner wants to swing , I need to understand | 9/19/2009 |
Q: Me and my man have the greatest ex life ever he does things to me i never thought possible. He has ...
A: there's no general rule that fits all men; though many men can have a sexual interest based on sheer ...
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| My Partner's Porn Subscriptions | 9/18/2009 |
Q: ..have changed how I feel about him and our relationship. In the beginning, I was okay with it. But ...
A: figure out what your REQUIREMENTS are for continuing, (including banning all porn), inform him, ...
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| faking ejaculation | 9/15/2009 |
Q: i am 18 years old and male. I have a slight problem, the girl i am with seems to finish before me, ...
A: considerate lovers can learn to slow down in an effort to come together--talk to her about stopping ...
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| I hate kissing | 9/8/2009 |
Q: I am 30 yo man. I am happy with my life, looks and life general. I like sex and intimacy but hate ...
A: very rare--it will be difficult to find women willing to accept such a restriction..you speak of ...
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| no sex or intamacy in my relationship | 9/6/2009 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 4 and half years i have 2 children from a pervoisly relationship ...
A: u should see a doctor because you have health issues--"before" doesn't count--see a different ...
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| Sex/More Experienced Boyfriend | 9/5/2009 |
Q: I would like to ask you three questions if its not a bother. Well me and my boyfriend have talked ...
A: 1. it's his business, and guys generally don't like to talk about past experiences--plus, he could ...
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| Sex | 9/4/2009 |
Q: I just started having sex a while a go and I've only been with one person. I'm still with this ...
A: female orgasm can be tricky, unless the guy knows what he's doing--communicate better with him about ...
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| wake up call | 9/1/2009 |
Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years. We have been living together for one of the 2. I am ...
A: it appears your reluctance to let this go is causing some denial...your believing in a dream isn't ...
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| lack of sex | 9/1/2009 |
Q: About two years ago, I met this lady and we started dating. She was 57 and I was 61 at the time. She ...
A: time to re-evaluate; you're with a lady in dire need of counseling, but won't even consider same, ...
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| My wife and I | 9/1/2009 |
Q: My wife has lost interest in SEX - I dont know what to do. We love each other so much but she has ...
A: why are you putting up with this?..INFORM her that the situation is no longer acceptable and that ...
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| Boyfriend of 2 years and no intimacy/sex | 8/31/2009 |
Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years. We have been living together for one of the 2. I am ...
A: i'm amazed you've put up with this for so long; this guy is in dire need of counseling; indeed, ...
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| husband's lack of sex drive | 8/25/2009 |
Q: My husband and I are both 20, and have been married for nearly a year, together for three. Lately ...
A: this won't change until you kick it up the priority ladder; that means you INFORM him that the ...
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| lack of sex drive | 8/23/2009 |
Q: my girl friend and i have been dating for around 16 month had a few hard times but our love life has ...
A: complicated issue--could be she's losing interest in the relationship, or her desire for YOU has ...
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| A very high sex drive and me | 8/13/2009 |
Q: I am 23 and my partner is 26 we have been together for 4 years and been friends for 12 years and i ...
A: first, you need to INFORM him that the situation is no longer acceptable and needs to change or ...
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| boyfriend too 'tired' | 8/8/2009 |
Q: I am in a relationship with a fantastic, loving, caring man. We knew each other many years ago, ...
A: differences in sexual frequency needs is a common trouble spot in many relationships; i assume ...
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| boyfriend can't have sex. | 7/31/2009 |
Q: me and my boyfriend of 3yrs have had a just fine sexual relationship until now. we broke up for 3 ...
A: nothing to do on your end, except trying to get him to give you an HONEST answer about it, which i ...
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| anal sex | 7/27/2009 |
Q: i wana ask Q about anal sex i decide that i wana try it but im concern about the anus if i gona ...
A: thst's because there ARE no side effects--i've never heard of "hole" changes caused by anal sex--i ...
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| anal sex | 7/26/2009 |
Q: i wana ask Q about anal sex i decide that i wana try it but im concern about the anus if i gona ...
A: it won't change the opening---you need to be relaxed, have the guy go slowly, and use plenty of ...
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| My girlfriend doesnt enjoy sexual activity. | 7/19/2009 |
Q: Me and my girlfriend have just recently began to experiment with sexual activity. I was not a ...
A: there's no magic answer--you should encourage her to masturbate with a vibrator--she needs to ...
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| Not interesting in sex with boyfriend. | 7/17/2009 |
Q: I just moved in with my boyfriend, we have been together for almost 2 years. I have always wanted ...
A: unfortunately, this will never improve unless/until you're ready/willing to kick it up a few notches ...
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| Not interesting in sex with boyfriend. | 7/17/2009 |
Q: I just moved in with my boyfriend, we have been together for almost 2 years. I have always wanted ...
A: so most or all the time he initiates sex, you don't really want to do it?...and you still have ...
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| My Boyfriend Seems Uninterested In Me | 7/7/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost six years and for about four of those six years ...
A: not good; this won't change unless/until you make it a much bigger priority; the means you need to ...
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| Ejaculation Problem | 6/23/2009 |
Q: I have a real problem ejaculating when I'm having sex with my wife. When I make love I regularly ...
A: the problem is either physical or emotional---first, rule out the physical by seeing a urologist; ...
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| female orgasm | 6/18/2009 |
Q: I'm sure this question has been brought up several times but I have to ask for myself... I spent 2.5 ...
A: first, you need to get rid of all this pressure--anxiety and orgasm don't work well together; the ...
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| No drive for sex | 6/13/2009 |
Q: My Husband and I get along well outwardly. We don't have issues outside out bedroom at all. We have ...
A: it's not ALL about sex, but it's a necessary component, and he has a legitimate concern that it's ...
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| My girlfriend and clothes | 6/12/2009 |
Q: Hey, i'm in a relationship with my girlfriend, shes 18 and I'm 17. We've been together for 4 months, ...
A: she's just self-conscious about her breasts, which are probably on the small side; in time, when she ...
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| replies | 6/9/2009 |
Q: so you asked me to stop masturbating, i should stop forever? or once in a few days? will this make ...
A: as i said, try stopping for a week and see what happens;..you ought to know when you come, it's an ...
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| my boyfriend isn't sexually interested in me | 6/9/2009 |
Q: I have been dating a guy for about 4 months now, and in the beginning, our sex life was pretty ...
A: first you have understand that his sexual hang-ups re the oral/positions, won't be changing, and be ...
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| i'v wrecked my family. | 6/8/2009 |
Q: i'v just broken up my family and im heart broke. Its all my fault i know, but i just cant help ...
A: you're being too hard on yourself---the problem is loss of passion/intimacy in the bedroom, ...
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| good or bad? | 5/13/2009 |
Q: me and my gf (im a guy, just clearin that up i guess...idk) are sexually active (but still virgins ...
A: sometimes g spot stimulation will produce the urge to pee...hopefully next time she'll be able to ...
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| Unable to Orgasm during sex | 5/5/2009 |
Q: I am 24 and my husband is 24. I cannot seem to have an orgasm. It is not that I am not aroused ...
A: the issue is of sufficient importance to seek couples counseling; on your end, negative past ...
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| Should I sleep with him? | 5/1/2009 |
Q: I've been going out with this guy for almost 3 months. We get on brilliantly; the only thing that ...
A: if you're an adult, and currently engaging in oral sex, you're ready to have vaginal sex--regardless ...
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| sexual frustrations | 4/25/2009 |
Q: I have been married to a wonderful person for the past five years. My only frustration is that the ...
A: not alot of choices, and none very good--they are a)affairs, b) ending the marriage, c)quiet ...
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| no feeling during sex | 4/24/2009 |
Q: I need some help i have been sexually active for around 18months now and have been with about 4 guys ...
A: the abuse would be the obvious culprit here; there are many relaxation techniques (u can search ...
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| Clueless | 4/23/2009 |
Q: I'm a 22 year old woman who is dating my 29 year old boyfriend for almost 7 month's now. We've been ...
A: when someone says jerking off is just as good as sex with their partner, the relationship is in ...
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| no feeling during sex | 4/22/2009 |
Q: I need some help i have been sexually active for around 18months now and have been with about 4 guys ...
A: not uncommon; your body seems to be telling you you're not emotionally ready; the guys you've been ...
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| faking orgasms | 4/13/2009 |
Q: i have no idea why but no man has ever been able to make me orgasm.. but i'm in love with this man ...
A: short-sighted thinking; is the goal to justify deceit just to keep his ego intact?...not exactly the ...
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| Issue with orgasm | 4/11/2009 |
Q: Hey there. I'm 19 and i recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend of a few months. We've been ...
A: does he sufficiently attempt to stimulate you manually/orally to orgasm? (as some females can't come ...
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| a man with no interest in sex?! | 4/10/2009 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for a little over two years. We get along really well and have a ...
A: time to leave--the guy is either gay, addicted to porn, seeing someone else, has a serious medical ...
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| no Orgasm during sex | 4/10/2009 |
Q: I have been a sexual relationship with my husband for 7 years and I have only had an orgasm once. I ...
A: after 7 years, why be concerned now?..what made the difference that 1 time?have you discussed with ...
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| Problems with Fiance' | 4/4/2009 |
Q: First, I want to appoligise because this is going to be a long one. I have a series of problems and ...
A: for all intents and purposes, this relationship is ALREADY back to a friendship, as there's zero ...
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| wake up call | 4/4/2009 |
Q: My BF and I have been dating for a year. For the last 4 months our sex life has had highs and lows ...
A: you're being far too kind--he's prefering masturbation to being with you--if this issue isn't a ...
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| No intimacy or affection | 3/30/2009 |
Q: This is sort of a complicated and multi-faceted question but I'm desperate for some advice. I'm ...
A: consider this your wake up call---your insecurities, dependence, low self esteem, are allowing him ...
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| Female orgasim/cumming | 3/28/2009 |
Q: first off, i hope you can help me. I'm 21 and I'm very confused about orgasms and female cumming. My ...
A: usually with an orgasm there's some climactic sensation, a feeling of satisfaction, then u want ...
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| Marraige | 3/21/2009 |
Q: We have been married for 12 years. Sex was always an issue from day one. I have high sex drive she ...
A: usually, preferable sexual arrangements stem from generally healthy relationships, where there is ...
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| sexual anxiety | 3/20/2009 |
Q: I am a 52 year old male and have been married for 29 years. I have a happy life in general but have ...
A: regardless of past counseling re molestation, the anxiety reaction is not a healthy one and should ...
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| sexual anxiety | 3/19/2009 |
Q: I am a 52 year old male and have been married for 29 years. I have a happy life in general but have ...
A: some different issues at hand here, both which would indicate the need for counseling; regardless of ...
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| sex | 3/9/2009 |
Q: Im 17 and basically, i've been with this guy for 4 months (dealing/talking for 7 months before ...
A: 1...usually sex enhances the arrangement, as a strong bond leads to the desire to want to show ...
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| Masterbation | 3/6/2009 |
Q: A few days ago I left my fiancee alone in my house while I was at work. during this time she went on ...
A: if you've already told her the truth, that's all you need to do; actually, YOU'RE the one who should ...
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| Fiancé's low sex drive | 3/6/2009 |
Q: My fiancé and I have been together for a year. We live together and everything about the ...
A: "compromise"?...lack of mutual passion, intimacy, sexual desire, is a major issue that threatens the ...
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| sexual frustration | 2/17/2009 |
Q: i came to this site looking to ask a question a little deeper than just a dating or relationship ...
A: many women don't come thru intercourse, but with manual/oral stimulation, he should be able to make ...
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| Gaining confidence, oral sex and vagina | 2/16/2009 |
Q: Hey there, I have two questions...i hope you don't mind. I'll get the less major one out of the way. ...
A: 1) period shouldn't make much difference--try some k-y warming oil (drug store)..2. no more ...
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| Troubles in my marriage | 2/16/2009 |
Q: : My husband and I rarely have sex, like once every couple of months. I don't know why, well ...
A: your problems go beyond the bedroom--this guy is rude, disrespectful, inconsiderate, uncaring, and ...
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| relationship issues--far greater than masturbation | 2/15/2009 |
Q: i am a 21 year old mother of 2 kids the youngest is one year old .i used to love having sex but now ...
A: the main issue is within the relationship; there's no honesty, intimacy, communication; you're ...
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| having problem with masturbation | 2/15/2009 |
Q: i am a 21 year old mother of 2 kids the youngest is one year old .i used to love having sex but now ...
A: how often do you masturbate?..vibrator?..how often do you have sex with your husband?..what's "too ...
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| how to deal with sex problems | 2/13/2009 |
Q: I am a 40 yr old male. I work in construction where the work has basically stopped due to the ...
A: nothing will change until you INFORM her that the situation is no longer acceptable and needs to ...
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| Sex life dwindling away.... | 2/13/2009 |
Q: I am a husband of 36 y.o and have been married to my wife 34 y.o for over 10 years. We have a 2 and ...
A: okay, so you don't want to bring it up again and leaving is out of the question--seems you're pretty ...
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| Possible sexual incompatibility with girlfriend | 2/12/2009 |
Q: Azure, I have been in a committed relationship with a wonderful young woman for the past 4 months. ...
A: her reasons for "not" are pretty reasonable, probably more than yours; unless you're prepared to ...
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| My sexuality is causing a problem in my reletionship | 2/10/2009 |
Q: I'm BI, I've been very open with the guy I am with about this. He WAS ok with it. Now lately I've ...
A: so you're wasting time arguing about sexual frequency when you're miles apart??..2/3 times a day way ...
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| My sexuality is causing a problem in my reletionship | 2/10/2009 |
Q: I'm BI, I've been very open with the guy I am with about this. He WAS ok with it. Now lately I've ...
A: pretty confusing stuff--you say u argue "constantly" about sex, but can't specifically tell me what ...
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| Sex | 2/8/2009 |
Q: I was 17 when i loss my virginity to my girlfriend who was 19. now i'm 18 and she's not 20 yet. She ...
A: always choices--i doubt she'll be the only person you have sex with; the great majority of teen ...
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| Intimacy Issues with my boyfriend, I'm pregnant but he's having the issues with sex not me? | 2/5/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend and I are expecting our first child together. I am now 5 months pregnant, prior to my ...
A: sometimes you don't REALLY learn about someone until stuff like this happens--what you have posing ...
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| Intimacy Issues with my boyfriend, I'm pregnant but he's having the issues with sex not me? | 2/5/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend and I are expecting our first child together. I am now 5 months pregnant, prior to my ...
A: you have a MAJOR issue that needs attention; that means you need to INFORM him that the situation is ...
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| molestation | 2/1/2009 |
Q: When I was ten or eleven, about five years ago, my older brother (13 at the time) asked me to do ...
A: you have some choices--you could DEMAND your parents attention and your strong request that they ...
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| frustration during sex | 1/31/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been having sex for about two months now. He was my first. For the first ...
A: stuff you need to discuss wih HIM--takes 2 to have good sex; could be relationship stuff--he may not ...
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| Teenage erection problems | 1/31/2009 |
Q: i am 17 and recently got a girlfriend and we have started having sex. however it has been difficult. ...
A: a common problem called performance anxiety, and it's all about being anxious, nervous as to how ...
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| boyfriend having intimacy problems | 1/29/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend is not wanting to have sex more than once a week if that. I tried talking to him about ...
A: time to INFORM him that the current situation is one-sided and unacceptable, and that his ...
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| My girlfriend and I have different libido's, what do we do? | 1/29/2009 |
Q: I need to find an answer to a question that has been puzzling me for sometime now. My girlfriend has ...
A: this won't change unless you make it a bigger priority; that means you would need to INFORM her that ...
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| anal sex | 1/28/2009 |
Q: my boyfriend asked me to have anal sex with him, but i am very scared of it a female friend of mine ...
A: depends on the girl/her partner--some enjoy with no pain, some don't; the only way to know is to ...
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| Tips for orgasms during sex? | 1/27/2009 |
Q: Greetings! I am your average 20 year old female, average weight, somewhat short on the height scale. ...
A: don't know percentages, but the fact is some women don't come thru intercourse; i assume you've ...
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| Trouble | 1/26/2009 |
Q: I am an 18 year old female and pretty much for as long as I can remember I've had a problem. When I ...
A: first, find a different phrase besides horny--how bout "sexually aroused"?...have u tried ...
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| male low sex drive | 1/23/2009 |
Q: My husband hardly ever wants it & never cares or tries to get me off. The 4x a year he does it's a ...
A: you're right, you can't make someone want you, but you CAN conclude that your reasonable ...
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| sexuality | 1/22/2009 |
Q: I asked my husband of 6 mos. if my vagina was as tight as one of his old girlfriend's. He said, "I ...
A: what are you crying about?.that was a question you shouldn't have asked, especially knowing you ...
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| "Frozen in Vermont" | 1/20/2009 |
Q: I have been married for 5 years to my husband. My love for him is stronger than anything I have ...
A: this is continuing without recourse because you're allowing it to; why are you settling for a ...
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| Trust issues | 1/19/2009 |
Q: My girlfriend recently brought up how much it bothers her when I forward dirty emails with my ...
A: since she's not about to understand that it's pretty natural/instinctive, the next best thing is ...
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| Tips to seduce my boyfriend | 1/18/2009 |
Q: thanx...that was really helpful...except that its most of what I've already done to him...could you ...
A: how am i supposed to know you've done all that?...thought u said you've no place to have sex?...sure ...
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| Tips to seduce my boyfriend | 1/18/2009 |
Q: I'm not actually having problems in my sex life, it so happened that my boyfriend was off for quite ...
A: at your ages, finding a "place" shouldn't be that big of a problem; guys like nice perfume, ...
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| Oral Sex Problems | 1/13/2009 |
Q: My girlfriend and I have been together for about 7 months now. We started experimenting with oral ...
A: she must realize that you're not having orgasms--unless she's utterly insecure, you need to just say ...
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| Female Sex Addict | 1/12/2009 |
Q: I'm a 32 year old woman and I think that I might be a female sex addict. Is this possible? I started ...
A: certainly your behavior is outside the norm, and you're not making good decisions when they're based ...
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| help with husbands sexual problems | 1/8/2009 |
Q: My husband and I used to cuddle at night, we used to have sex all the time. Slowly, over the course ...
A: there's only so many possibilities, and you appeared to rule out porn and seeing someone else; that ...
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| Serious problem in the bedroom.. | 1/6/2009 |
Q: My husband and I have been together for 5 years now. We have a 3 year old and before our son our sex ...
A: you a) stop having any sex with him, and b)INFORM him that the situation is no longer acceptable and ...
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| Sex | 1/4/2009 |
Q: I'm a 21 year old very slim, very attractive girl. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a lil ...
A: you have to inform him that his cooperation is no longer optional, but a necessary REQUIREMENT in ...
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| un-horney girlfriend | 1/2/2009 |
Q: Well my girlfriend and I have been together almost 3 years now. There is just one problem I have. ...
A: without sex you have essentially a friendship; nothing can possibly change until you INFORM her that ...
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| my fiance and I...... | 12/28/2008 |
Q: Well my fiance and I have been together almost 3 years now. He is very faithful and loves me just as ...
A: simple---time to INFORM him that the current situation is no longer acceptable, and that his ...
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| Threesome? | 12/27/2008 |
Q: Hey I'll give you some background first. I am 18 years old, and so is my boyfriend. We have been in ...
A: you're playing with fire here--all of you are too emotionally immature to be screwing around like ...
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| Pains after sex and other questions | 12/27/2008 |
Q: I am an 18 year-old girl, I will be 19 in a few months, and I have recently started having sex for ...
A: as to the first 2, you really should consult a gynecologist; as to the 3d, have you orgasmed through ...
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| I cant cum during sex | 12/14/2008 |
Q: I am almost 19 and have been dating my boyfriend for about 10 months now. I dont get anything out of ...
A: that's probably the problem...you need to have a talk with him where you tell him you're ...
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| What to do when husband has low testosterone , can not get treated & has lost sex drive? | 12/13/2008 |
Q: I am married to the most wonderful man, but he is struggling with low normal testosterone (344)-so ...
A: the level isn't that low to account for that much of the problem; the thyroid needs to be looked at ...
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| lack of desire | 11/28/2008 |
Q: I have been married for ten years and together with my husband for a total of 12. We have three ...
A: considering your original reply and rating, i'd say the displeasure expressed was rather justified; ...
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| Losing sensation | 11/28/2008 |
Q: I am married and have not been having regular sex with my husband since we have had two kids ...
A: as you infer, using this approach, while solving one problem, is getting you too conditioned to the ...
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| lack of desire | 11/27/2008 |
Q: I have been married for ten years and together with my husband for a total of 12. We have three ...
A: it is no sexual desire, period, including no masturbation, thoughts, fantasies, or just no desire ...
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| Sexual disconnect with my partner | 11/27/2008 |
Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half, and everything is wonderful except for the ...
A: it's not your responsiblity to cater to his somewhat self-centered, offputting fetishes; time for an ...
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| Orgasam | 11/26/2008 |
Q: This is a bit embarrassing but didn't know where else to ask! Any advice would be greatly ...
A: difficult to pinpoint the actual reason, but there's only so many possibilities: could be a physical ...
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| my boyfriend cant satisfy me! help | 11/21/2008 |
Q: I am dating the love of my life (9 months), the absolute most wonderful guy I could have ever hoped ...
A: first off, there's no reason he shouldn't at least be able to satisfy you manually/orally, then the ...
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| i need help ! | 11/19/2008 |
Q: MY husband and I are having trouble sexually. Every time I am aroused and I want to have sex, he ...
A: you're not getting the attention to this subject that it deserves; hence, you need to INFORM him ...
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| How to help my boyfriend reach orgasm? | 11/18/2008 |
Q: I know this is very common problem, due to different type of men.. However, we've been having sex ...
A: don't buy into those bogus excuses, especially that a healthy sexual relationship isn't necessary; ...
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| Problems with sex in general | 11/16/2008 |
Q: My fiance' and I are getting married next year, but I can't help but wonder if I will be happy when ...
A: first off, unless you're looking for a life of quiet desperation, you don't get married under these ...
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| My girlfriend wont have "sex" with me. | 11/15/2008 |
Q: My girlfriend and I have been together for A year and nine months. I'm a lesbian, and sex just has ...
A: this continues because your dependence on the relationship is ALLOWING it to; the advice: INFORM her ...
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| Mutual Masturbation | 11/12/2008 |
Q: I'm a 13 year old girl and my brother is 14 years old. Me and my brother are very comfortable with ...
A: whatever you call it, it's not healthy--u say there's nothing sexual about it, but in reality it's ...
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| Girlfriend Can't Cum | 11/11/2008 |
Q: Hey, I'm sure you've had many questions like this but after much research I haven't really found ...
A: there's not alot more to do; female orgasm, especially for young, inexperienced girls, isn't ...
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| All kinds od problems!!!!! | 11/10/2008 |
Q: I am 23 years old and I have some major issues with sex. I am married have been now for 2 months ...
A: if he's unwilling to cooperate and this is a REQUIREMENT for you, then it's either finding someone ...
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| All kinds od problems!!!!! | 11/10/2008 |
Q: I am 23 years old and I have some major issues with sex. I am married have been now for 2 months ...
A: first, nothing will improve unless/until you have an open, honest conversation with him as to your ...
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| Sex | 11/10/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been living together off and on for about a year and a half. At first, he ...
A: obviously he'll now promise anything to keep you around; the ONLY way you should consider giving ...
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| No Sex Drive | 11/6/2008 |
Q: I'm a 19 year old female, I've been with my partner for 5 years now, but for the past 3 years or so ...
A: there's no magic answer here, just possibilities to consider--without any spaces in your ...
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| Sex | 11/6/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been living together off and on for about a year and a half. At first, he ...
A: leave...your insecurities/fear of loss have blinded you to the realities: the guy is TOTALLY ...
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| Dissatisfied Husband | 11/3/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for only a year and two months now. He is the only sexual partner ...
A: if it's important to you, you need to make an open/honest dialog with him a priority; he could ...
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| Boyfriends sexual thoughts, eventually wants | 11/2/2008 |
Q: Background on US: We met 5 years ago through a website and met a little more than a year and a half ...
A: where has your self-esteem disappeared to?..you're spending all this energy trying to "please" him ...
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| Fiance Has Been Viewing Gay Porn | 10/30/2008 |
Q: I accidentally ran across some bookmarked gay porn sites on my fiance's laptop. They were all ...
A: the bigger question is, this is the guy you're planning to marry?..first off, why would you ever ...
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| 5 year olds sexual activity | 10/29/2008 |
Q: I was giving my children a bath. Normally I DO NOT allow them to bath together but my 5 year old boy ...
A: one approach would be to take the lead, tell the mother what happened,and all parties agree to ...
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| Sex question | 10/28/2008 |
Q: I have been marry for 4 months and I am twenty years old. My husband is the first one I had have ...
A: for sure--some women don't come thru intercourse, even when with foreplay; you need to INFORM him ...
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| Sex is held above my head | 10/25/2008 |
Q: I have been in my relationship for 5 years. We have a 14 month old daughter. Our sex life has come ...
A: only 2 choices--1. time to INFORM her that the current situation is no longer acceptable, that in ...
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| Too inexpereinced for him. | 10/24/2008 |
Q: I've been with my guy for over a month and we've talked about having sex. The thing is i feel I'm ...
A: if you keep thinking you're too inexperienced, then you'll NEVER have sex, as you can't get the ...
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| Inability to cum. | 10/22/2008 |
Q: I'll just get straight to the point. I'm 17 years old and and I can't cum with my girlfriend. I ...
A: you may have gotten too used to your own hand/techniques--cut way back on the masturbation, no more ...
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| No foreplay | 10/21/2008 |
Q: After my husband watched me give birth to our first child together he has a problem doing any ...
A: so he's refused to openly, honestly discuss it, and has refused counseling...such a considerate ...
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| oral sex | 10/21/2008 |
Q: I'm not sure if you can answer this, but can you tell me how important swallowing is to a guy when a ...
A: haven't conducted a poll, but in order of preference, 1. oral sex with swallowing, 2 oral sex, no ...
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| Sexual Differences | 10/21/2008 |
Q: I am dating a 49 year old man, and I am 38. I know that the age difference is an issue that I have ...
A: only 3 choices; the first is INFORMING him of your unhappiness, that the situation is no longer ...
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| Problems pleasing | 10/21/2008 |
Q: I have some issues in bed that I don't know what to do about. My girlfriend has said before that ...
A: your issue is more psychological in nature, probably due to anxiety created from not knowing where ...
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| Takes extremely long to reach climax during sex | 10/20/2008 |
Q: I'm a 22 year old straight male, and since this year have been struggling to climax during sex ...
A: sounds like you've gotten too used to our own hand with this porn/masturbation addiction...i'd ...
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| Feeling gross durning sex with husband | 10/17/2008 |
Q: I have known my husband for 14 years and have been intimate with him for 8 years. Recently I started ...
A: you used the word "cheated", thus i had no way of knowing he's condoned the behavior due to fear of ...
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| Feeling gross durning sex with husband | 10/17/2008 |
Q: I have known my husband for 14 years and have been intimate with him for 8 years. Recently I started ...
A: there's a beginning to EVERY problem; there's no quick fix; the only possible remedy would be ...
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| Loss of interest in sex | 10/16/2008 |
Q: I have had this problem for a few months, with it getting steadily worse to the point where I am now ...
A: it's not that you've lost interest in sex, (hence the masturbation), it's more that you've lost ...
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| Sex Issues | 10/15/2008 |
Q: Background: I am 33 and my wife is 36. Been married for 8 years with 1 child and we were recently ...
A: i'd recommend the counseling, first you alone, then as a couple; most marriage/family counselors ...
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| caught husband viewing porn pictures | 10/14/2008 |
Q: My husband has never shown great interest in me physically..we've been having sex just for the sake ...
A: these are all questions you should be asking HIM; it appears he's more interested in his porn ...
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| Orgasms | 10/13/2008 |
Q: My girlfriend gets an orgasm every so often when we have sex. most girls i know say they never had ...
A: the mom bein around may have something to do with it, or it could be alot of different psychological ...
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| Orgasms | 10/13/2008 |
Q: My girlfriend gets an orgasm every so often when we have sex. most girls i know say they never had ...
A: your mindset needs adjustment; it's not a contest--the reality is every female is capable of ...
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| my wife has no desire for sex | 10/8/2008 |
Q: We have been married for 26 years and this problem has been off and on for the entirety of our ...
A: a) after 26 years, she's not changing; b) you're with her as it's comfortable, convenient, makes ...
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| he wants it, I dont | 10/8/2008 |
Q: My fiance wants sex all the time..I did too until I got pregant. My constant saying no turned into ...
A: he's out of control, addicted to porn/masturbation, totally disrespectful, and you're allowing it; ...
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| boyfriend's reluctance | 10/8/2008 |
Q: we're both nearly 48 & going through divorces, only seeing eachother on alternate weeks when my ex ...
A: you need to revisit the issue, outside of the bedroom, by initiating an open, honest dialog as to ...
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| a few questions | 10/5/2008 |
Q: I can't seem to orgasm. Me and my boyfriend haven't had intercourse yet but he does thrust inside me ...
A: hence the problem...the clitoris is the most sensitive part of the female body; most women need ...
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| Masturbation phobia/ Painful sex | 10/2/2008 |
Q: If we were to talk over the phone how much would it cost?
A: i'll leave that up to you...totally unfair rating--1st, you incorrectly assumed i was a female; ...
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| Emotional/Sex Issues | 10/2/2008 |
Q: I have been with my fiance for 8 years, affection & sex was never a problem at first, however 6 ...
A: time to face reality--this has been over for awhile; without passion, intimacy, consideration, ...
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| My girlfriend doesn't like sex | 10/2/2008 |
Q: I've been dating a girl for quite a few years now and we've been sexually active since the ...
A: she appears addicted to the masturbation, and most likely has some psychological/emotional issues; ...
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| loss of desire | 9/30/2008 |
Q: What do I do now? My husband hasnt made love to me in 8 months. He takes meds for cholesterol and ...
A: you INFORM him that the current situation is no longer acceptable, and that his understanding and ...
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| sexual gf meets comfortable bf | 9/28/2008 |
Q: me and my boyfriend have been together for about 2 years now and have an amazing relationship, we ...
A: he's beyond comfortable--"inconsiderate, complacent, uncaring" come to mind; for a guy under 50 to ...
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| Sexual Attraction | 9/28/2008 |
Q: I have some questions that I thought you may be able to help me navigate through. I have been ...
A: it all sounds fairly natural; men are more inclined to put greater emphasis on the visual as a major ...
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| troubled relationship and sex | 9/26/2008 |
Q: my boyfriend and i have been together for over 4 years. we're 19 and fell madly in love very young. ...
A: you're hanging on to pieces of april when it's a morning in may; in other words, the "boy" you were ...
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| unsatisfying sex life | 9/22/2008 |
Q: I really love my boyfriend and we fit together so well, except for our sex life. Th two problems is ...
A: sure...you basically tell him you're not happy, why, and that something needs to be done; reject any ...
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| unsatisfying sex life | 9/22/2008 |
Q: I really love my boyfriend and we fit together so well, except for our sex life. Th two problems is ...
A: sure, by leaving; ps.. requiring a satisfactory sexual relationship from a sensitive, considerate ...
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| unsatisfying sex life | 9/22/2008 |
Q: I really love my boyfriend and we fit together so well, except for our sex life. Th two problems is ...
A: there's only 3 choices--solving the problem, leaving, or quiet desperation..time to INFORM inform ...
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| Is it him or me? | 9/20/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been together for 10 Years, but married for 2. We are both 27 and have two ...
A: that's a question you need to REQUIRE that he answer, or REQUIRE that he take steps to finding a ...
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| sex | 9/17/2008 |
Q: Hey, i was about to have sex with my girlfried (i'm a vigin she's had sex about 6 times) and we're ...
A: a common problem..you might want to get some k-y warming oil if you feel she's drying up; as for ...
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| Clueless | 9/11/2008 |
Q: firstly, thanks for taking the time to read this. I have pondered as to whether this is something ...
A: it's an important issue, and one that should be discussed/resolved before any marriage; time to ...
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| My girlfriend doesn't enjoy sex! | 9/7/2008 |
Q: I am seriously not knowing what the hell to do at the moment and thought you might help. Me and my ...
A: the fact is some women don't climax thru intercourse--she's young, so it's possible this could ...
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| sex in marriage | 9/4/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for 4 months now. Before and shortly into the marriage our sex ...
A: it certainly doesn't happen after 4 months--he's either gay, seeing someone else, addicted to porn, ...
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| Sex after having a child? | 9/3/2008 |
Q: My husband and I are having some issues when it comes to our sex life. This is how thing usually ...
A: it's close to abuse as he's aware you're not into it, doesn't respect your feelings, and still ...
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| Counsel needed?? | 9/3/2008 |
Q: I am very responsive to stimulation and my boyfriend considers me too much that way. I am 58, he is ...
A: 1. it appears to be a reasonable expectation as long as you provide the same for him; however some ...
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| Sex after having a child? | 9/3/2008 |
Q: My husband and I are having some issues when it comes to our sex life. This is how thing usually ...
A: sounds like it might be related to post partum depression; you might want to search the net for more ...
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| Am I too sensitive? | 9/1/2008 |
Q: Married for 17 yrs to wonderful man. Problem is sex is not an intimate experience for me anymore. ...
A: you have yet to get is attention; try this; INFORM him, outside the bedroom, that the situation is ...
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| My girlfriend is fed up of sex | 8/31/2008 |
Q: before i met her i would get aroused by the slightest stimulation thankfully this is now calmed down ...
A: if you're seeing her 3 times/wk and having sex most of those times, you don't have alot to complain ...
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| Why no sex? | 8/29/2008 |
Q: I'm glad you're here to help. In a nutshell, my fiance won't make love with me. It's been almost a ...
A: "sad" is a legitimate response; but the valid needs of intimacy/affection you have aren't really ...
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| Why no sex? | 8/29/2008 |
Q: I'm glad you're here to help. In a nutshell, my fiance won't make love with me. It's been almost a ...
A: this will only get resolved when you make it a bigger priority; that means you need to INFORM hm, ...
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| I am bipolar and I don't have a sex drive | 8/18/2008 |
Q: I guess I should start with why I came to asking this question. I found your site because my ...
A: in that case, we know the sex drive is healthy, thus the issue appears be more ...
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| Vaginal Lubrication | 8/13/2008 |
Q: I have noticed that there is a large variation in the natural lubrication that the partners I have ...
A: this variation could have many reasons--essentially, it's individual make-up, just like some guys ...
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| How to get him to loose control sexually? | 8/12/2008 |
Q: My BF is 37 and we have been together for about 1.5 years, since day one he has had issues with ...
A: i doubt there's anything you can do--his intimacy issues are deep-rooted, and he probably would need ...
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| No S in S-E-X! | 8/12/2008 |
Q: I am a 36 year old female, I have been with my 33 year old bf for 1 1/2 years. When we first met I ...
A: bottom line, time to move on--actually, i'm amazed you've stayed this long; there are only so many ...
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| What Makes A Guy Dislike Intimacy? | 8/11/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend and I of 2 1/2 years have been living together for roughly 2 years. He is a very kind ...
A: it's amazing you've stayed THIS long, and haven't realized you deserve WAY MORE than this; i don't ...
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| sex life | 8/9/2008 |
Q: I am 45, female, happily married for 10 years, and we have, overall, a good sex life, however, in ...
A: i'm not sure it's quite as complex as you've portrayed, but nonetheless these are very valid ...
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| 15 & 21 | 8/7/2008 |
Q: My best friend (Female age 15) who was basically tricked into fucking a guy(Male 21). Who was ...
A: i assume she's not seeing him now; depends on the "age of consent" law in your state..could be ...
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| lack of sexual activity in relationship | 8/6/2008 |
Q: we have been together for 7 years and married for 4 years. We have had a ups and downs which is ...
A: "failure" can also mean staying in an unsatisfying relationship; as i said, you have to INFORM him ...
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| No sexual drive | 8/6/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend and I are 22 and 21, respectively, and have been dating for two years. We recently ...
A: time to face reality--as you said, it's basically a friendship; the guy has severe emotional/sexual ...
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| lack of sexual activity in relationship | 8/5/2008 |
Q: we have been together for 7 years and married for 4 years. We have had a ups and downs which is ...
A: time to face reality and deal with this as the very important issue that it is; that means you have ...
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| orgasm | 8/5/2008 |
Q: I am hoping you can answer some questions for me! I am a 44 year old woman and take atenolol, just ...
A: 1..certainly possible, but not that common; most women don't "ejaculate"--if by fluid you mean just ...
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| Help Needed! | 7/31/2008 |
Q: I am 22, and i got married a month ago to my partner of 4 years known him for 8, When we first got ...
A: you don't seem to be getting his attention as to the fact that this problem is as much HIS as yours; ...
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| Help me! | 7/30/2008 |
Q: Me and my fiance have been engaged for about 2 years now and we have been together for a total of 6 ...
A: BOTH parties are responsible for a good sexual relationship, or a bad one; for someone to all of a ...
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| help me | 7/29/2008 |
Q: hey, i'm a 17 year old girl, in a relationship with an 18 year old - fine. i lost my virginity to ...
A: at 17, i wouldn't recommend getting into any big counseling deal over it; i've explained what i ...
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| help me | 7/29/2008 |
Q: hey, i'm a 17 year old girl, in a relationship with an 18 year old - fine. i lost my virginity to ...
A: you should consider getting a vibrator to learn about your body and what the experience of orgasm is ...
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| PLEASE HELP ME!! | 7/25/2008 |
Q: So, I am dating a 31 year old thats still a virgin. I'm 18 and im not a virgin. The problem i am ...
A: sounds like he has some major emotional issues, with erectile dysfunction being at least one of ...
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| Sexless relationship | 7/24/2008 |
Q: I'd like to thank you for taking the time to view my question - it means a lot. First off, I'm a 23 ...
A: you need to make this a bigger priority; that means, INFORMING him that the current situation is no ...
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| why no sex | 7/20/2008 |
Q: my girlfriend and i haven't had sex in about 3 weeks, and before that it was at least a couple times ...
A: the possibilities aren't good--they include physical issues, a loss of sexual desire for YOU, or a ...
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| relationship without sex | 7/20/2008 |
Q: When I get in a relationship, I find myself pleasing and getting pleased sexually but after a few ...
A: you BOTH should consider counseling; underneath it all, there's a REASON you are turned off by ...
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| can't orgasm from outside stimulation | 7/19/2008 |
Q: i'm a 29 year old straight male. i've only ever had intercourse with four women my whole life, since ...
A: most probably it's the masturbation addiction--you've gotten too used to the manual stimulation; i'd ...
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| 2 options | 7/12/2008 |
Q: I'm absolutely in love with my boyfriend, and he is great in bed. He's well endowed and has great ...
A: simple honesty--you explain why you've been hesitant, that it has nothing to do with his abilities, ...
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| just lost virginity | 7/12/2008 |
Q: we did the whole foreplay part and kind of took our time but after i performed oral sex on her for ...
A: that wasn't bad for the first time; the relaxing comes first, then the good erection; the more you ...
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| Inabilty | 7/11/2008 |
Q: I'm absolutely in love with my boyfriend, and he is great in bed. He's well endowed and has great ...
A: faking it--never a good idea, as in order to remedy the issue, it's easier if both parties ...
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| Different sex drives driving me crazy | 7/9/2008 |
Q: About 6 months into our now 6 year old marriage I noticed a growing difference in my wife's libido ...
A: if that's the case, you need to decide if you're willing to make her cooperation a REQUIREMENT in ...
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| Sex | 6/30/2008 |
Q: I asked you about my "performance anxiety" problem that you told me i have and i talked told my Girl ...
A: you're welcome...telling her was a good idea, as it should make you more relaxed knowing she's ...
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| son-in-law low sperm count | 6/29/2008 |
Q: Good morning Azure, I know this is kind of strange, having a mother-in-law address this ...
A: you can't diagnose low sperm count without testing for it; the problem here is with the husband; ...
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| I can hardly, and he won't because of it | 6/22/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together about 7 months now. We've been sexually active from the ...
A: "mood" is an understatement--he's developed an emotional block regarding sexual intimacy, and it ...
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| Girlfriend unable to come | 6/18/2008 |
Q: I've recently started going out with a girl and find that she is unable to have an orgasm, and has ...
A: actually i was asking if SHE ever masturbated with a vibrator--it usually works for most, and ...
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| I cant make her cum... | 6/17/2008 |
Q: ive read some of your other Q's and A's on this.. and it still doesn't seem like i should be having ...
A: that's because you're a guy, and guys place more emphasis on the orgasm than women; plus, it's an ...
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| I cant make her cum... | 6/15/2008 |
Q: ive read some of your other Q's and A's on this.. and it still doesn't seem like i should be having ...
A: could be you're trying too hard; female orgasm isn't as "automatic" as a guy's, and it's not ...
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| no interest from partner | 6/10/2008 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 4.5 years and he has never had a high sex drive, maybe once a ...
A: this will continue as long as you allow it to; there are only so many explanations: he either has a ...
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| lesbian drama | 6/8/2008 |
Q: Azure, I am currently in a lesbian relationship, and we are having some problems. I have a very ...
A: it depends on how willing she is to put time/energy into finding a solution; you first need to ...
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| Paraphilia | 6/2/2008 |
Q: Azure-- I'm a 42 year old woman with a paraphilia for long haired males. Ever since sex feelings ...
A: at least you've kept a sense of humor about it..you've pretty much laid out the "either/or" choices, ...
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| sexless relationship | 5/29/2008 |
Q: after 15 years alone my mother of 64 me a wonderful man whos called phillip,who is 12 years younger ...
A: the choices aren't optimal; she needs to INFORM him that the situation is no longer acceptable, and ...
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| my bf won't do what I want him to do in bed | 5/29/2008 |
Q: I've been with my bf for 4 months now and our relationship is fantastic except for the sex. Every ...
A: "rhythm.."?...that's bogus..the guy has a hang up about going down on pussy, but doesn't want to ...
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| Why cant he cum ? | 5/29/2008 |
Q: This is not a problem that bothers me but I am curious as to why my boyfriend cannot cum. He can go ...
A: it doesn't appear a physical issue--the grass could be part of it; also, if he masturbates, that ...
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| orgasm too quickly-unusual for girl | 5/28/2008 |
Q: whenever i have sex with my boyfriend i always tend to orgasm very quickly, a couple of times even ...
A: your boyfriend can help by decreasing the stimulation, slowing down, even stopping for a few ...
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| My girlfriend can't have an orgasm! | 5/16/2008 |
Q: We have tried everything except any types of "sex". She cannot have an orgasm when she masturbates, ...
A: so she IS capable of them--you didn't say, but hopefully you spend alot of time with oral/manual ...
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| no sex | 5/13/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been only married one year and he has no desire to have sex with me... we ...
A: could be alot of things, but my feeling is his "don't know" response is bogus; you're looking at a ...
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| men/porn/long distance | 5/13/2008 |
Q: I realise this is probably a very common problem, but its upsetting me so much. I am 24 in a great ...
A: a) some, not "all" men look at porn; the problem arises if someone becomes "addicted" to it and/or ...
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| Lack of interest | 5/10/2008 |
Q: I am 23 and my gf is 26. We both have be together for about 3 years now. We went to the same college ...
A: she's essentially told you her primary, perhaps ONLY interest in you is as a friend; if you're ...
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| New partner New Sex | 4/30/2008 |
Q: " she says have an orgasm by sex. I had heard of girls like this and am wondering how true/what I ...
A: some women don't come thru intercourse; that means, as she implied, she needs you to provide the ...
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| My husband doesnt want to make love to me .. | 4/30/2008 |
Q: . we have been married for less than 1 year .. and ever since I started asking him for what would ...
A: time to INFORM him that you're very unhappy, and that the current situation needs to change, or ...
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| girlfriends lack of sex drive or problem with me? | 4/29/2008 |
Q: I have been with my girlfriend now for at least 7 months. I can safely say I love her, and that I ...
A: sounds like normal relationship stuff; silly arguments many times are caused by hidden bigger things ...
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| is this performance anxiety? | 4/29/2008 |
Q: Im really sorry if this test will be long but i want you to have the full picture. I am almost ...
A: yes it's considered performance anxiety..i'd suggest that you repeat whatever worked with the first ...
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| Aggressive behavior in boyfriend | 4/28/2008 |
Q: I am a 41-yr-old single mom who has been dating a 47-yr-old man for 6 months now. He was/is always ...
A: not really a question of right or wrong; certainly, your feelings, and doubts, are understandable; ...
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| sex life sux, don't know what to do anymore... | 4/27/2008 |
Q: i'm having big issues with my live in boyfriend of about 1.5 years. when we first started out, like ...
A: the sexual problem is a symptom of a bigger issue..the whole arrangement suffers from complacency, ...
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| Is he just a friend, do I love him like a brother | 4/26/2008 |
Q: I just got married 2 weeks ago and already I do not want to have sex with my new husband. I think I ...
A: i don't see things as right or wrong; certainly this as a mistake as i doubt you are really in love ...
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| 49 y/o male with a 43 y/o female that has changed. | 4/25/2008 |
Q: First of all I love my girlfriend. I believe that she does love me also. We are as described by her ...
A: i don't buy the stress theory; to me, it's a smokescreen used to camoflauge the real reasons; the ...
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| No sex | 4/20/2008 |
Q: Ive been married to my husband for 6 years, recently he's been staying away from me in the attic and ...
A: why are you living like this?...INFORM him that the situation is no longer acceptable or you're out; ...
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| No Sex For very long time | 4/19/2008 |
Q: I have been married for 40 years and for the last 10 years my husband has not been interested in sex ...
A: not sure why you've waited so long to make this more of a priority; he probably loses his erection ...
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| Problems in the bedroom. | 4/17/2008 |
Q: We have been married for 9 years this April. We found out my husband has major depression about 4 ...
A: sure, but you have to be willing to follow through; the first thing is to tell him that the behavior ...
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| Have never had an orgasm II | 4/16/2008 |
Q: *I couldn't send another follow-up* The problem with manual stimulation is that I’m not very ...
A: you have a few issues here--not sure if you've had counseling for past bad experiences, but i'd ...
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| My boyfriend???or not?? | 4/15/2008 |
Q: Ok, I have been "seeing" this guy for a year now.He made me feel like a million bucks when we first ...
A: i'm sure you already know the answer--let's review--he breaks up, goes to someone else, admits he's ...
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| Why won't he touch me! | 4/11/2008 |
Q: My question is perplexing. I have been involved with a man for 2 yrs. it's been very sexually ...
A: obviously there's something very wrong here--he's either gay, seeing other women, addicted to porn, ...
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| wife not in the mood | 4/4/2008 |
Q: Im jerry, 29 male i been married for 3 years, i love my wife, we have great chemistry, other than ...
A: someone needs to stop ignoring these issues, and make addressing them a REQUIREMENT: thusly, you ...
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| Frustratedd | 3/25/2008 |
Q: I'm 19 and I can't cum. I've been with 6 people most of whom were older and more experienced. I ...
A: female orgasm can be complex; i doubt the problem is physical--could be the relationships with these ...
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| Disinterested and distracted from sex | 3/17/2008 |
Q: I find it funny your name is Azure. Tis what my bf goes by as well... Well.. this actually came up ...
A: this sounds like little more than bad communication; some like it in the morning, others don't; the ...
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| My relationship lacks intamacey on his end. | 3/12/2008 |
Q: I have been dating a guy for 1.5 years. He and I are both age 33 with no children. I have never been ...
A: simple..the only reason relationships should continue is because important needs are being mutually ...
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| It wasnt how I expected it... | 3/10/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating a while... When him and I were hanging out one night things got ...
A: most virgins still have hymens intact, which is a thin covering over the vaginal opening that ...
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| My Husband wants sex all the time | 3/9/2008 |
Q: I have been with my husband for almost 11 years and married for almost 4 years, he wants sex all the ...
A: i'd say it's about time to INFORM him the abusive behavior is no longer acceptable and that there ...
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| marriage | 3/7/2008 |
Q: Whenever i dont feel like having sex with my husband, he gets angry at me, and he'll fight with ...
A: of course not; and there's no need to choose between being a sex slave or being subjected to his ...
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| i cant cum | 2/25/2008 |
Q: I cant from oral sex or intercourse...its like it feels great and i get right to the point and i can ...
A: there's no magic pill/answer...a more understanding boyfriend might help; female orgasm with a guy ...
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| sex | 2/24/2008 |
Q: ""well I've been dating a guy for about 8 months and have had sex with him well alot. the thing is ...
A: some females never orgasm thru actual intercourse..since you're only 16, no one can say if you're in ...
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| why is sex happing less and less with the girl who couldnt get enough of me before | 2/22/2008 |
Q: i am with the girl whom i truly love I'm 22 she is 21...but when i met her she was in a failing ...
A: i think at this point you have to play it "cool"; drop the topic, let HER be the one to initiate any ...
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| why is sex happing less and less with the girl who couldnt get enough of me before | 2/21/2008 |
Q: i am with the girl whom i truly love I'm 22 she is 21...but when i met her she was in a failing ...
A: alot of possibilities--it comes down to a process of elimination, dependent on her willingness to ...
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| unable to orgasm during sex | 2/18/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend and i have been having sex for about 11 months now and i am still unable to have an ...
A: some females don't orgasm with intercourse, but at your age, it's a little early to conclude you're ...
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| im a bit worried... | 2/17/2008 |
Q: I am 17 years old and i just recently had trouble keeping an erection.. it just happened recently i ...
A: sounds like "performance anxiety", common when you're young and with nice looking girls--just as it ...
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| lack of sex, co communication and physical abuse | 2/16/2008 |
Q: my husband i have been married for 7 years now. I met when i was 19 and married him a the age of 21. ...
A: listen to the friend/sister; sure he needs help, but you've had 7 years to help, and haven't; in ...
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| she won't have sex with me | 2/16/2008 |
Q: I've been with my girlfriend for almost 5 years now. In the beginning of our relationship our sex ...
A: you're not getting her attention, as she views you as "all bark, no bite.."..something is seriously ...
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| sex | 2/15/2008 |
Q: how do you know if you suffer from pre mature ejaculation? thank you. ANSWER: premature ejaculation ...
A: actually it IS a form of erectile dysfunction; viagra might help, but if you're under 30, i wouldn't ...
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| Viagra/Cialis | 2/14/2008 |
Q: Hey I happen to have performance anxiety. I spoke with my doctor and he gave me samples of both ...
A: it's okay as a stop-gap measure, but you really want to get to the bottom of the issue, which is ...
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| Porn and trust issues | 2/7/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend of 11 months looks at other women every day. He says he stopped looking at porn because ...
A: your insecurities are coming from a deficiency in self-esteem..i would suggest reading some of the ...
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| sex | 2/2/2008 |
Q: "well I've been dating a guy for about 7 months and have had sex with him at least 25 times. the ...
A: i wouldn't worry too much about it; could be the guy, the technique, the lack of real ...
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| My sex life | 1/30/2008 |
Q: I have a question regarding my 2+ year relationship with my boyfriend and our sexual life. Our ...
A: "STARTING to feel like he doesn't want/need me"??...seems like the intimacy has been lacking here ...
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| never orgasm and dry up easily | 1/29/2008 |
Q: I have never had a g-spot orgasm, and I can't stand it. It bothers me a lot as well as makes my ...
A: never had a g-spot orgasm, or never had ANY orgasm?..have these guys attempted sufficient ...
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| small penis and premature ejaculation | 1/26/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half now on and off. We have been having ...
A: perhaps love, or your insecurities that keep you in it; without good sex, you essentially have a ...
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| Performance Anxiety | 1/25/2008 |
Q: Hey I am curious, what are methods to prevent and stop performance anxiety for sex from happening? I ...
A: P.A. is just as it sounds, happening especially with new girls where one is prone to feel pressure ...
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| boring sex life | 1/24/2008 |
Q: I've been with my partner for around 16 months now. When we first started dating we had heaps of sex ...
A: next time, start your conversation with him with your last sentence here; hopefully that will lead ...
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| Acceptance | 1/22/2008 |
Q: I'm a 30 year old male who started dating a 23 year old female 10 months ago. She is a hometown ...
A: the feelings don't seem abnormal--people are like tape recorders--inherently worthy of great ...
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| Acceptance | 1/22/2008 |
Q: I'm a 30 year old male who started dating a 23 year old female 10 months ago. She is a hometown ...
A: once boiled down, as you've done, the choice is not that complex..as to the past, how bout "let he ...
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| Too much drive and husband's very low | 1/22/2008 |
Q: I copied and pasted the question and answer below that looked similar to my situation. I am 50, ...
A: you didn't say as to the outcome of the dr's visit, but chances are he has a low testosterone level ...
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| Too much drive and husband's very low | 1/22/2008 |
Q: I copied and pasted the question and answer below that looked similar to my situation. I am 50, ...
A: the answer you attached is useless- and poorly written--sounds like an ill-conceived advertisement; ...
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| not sure what it is | 1/16/2008 |
Q: I'm writing this on behalf of my boyfriend; he happens to be a bit embarrassed. On nights when we ...
A: "ejaculates...no orgasm"?..aren't they the same?..could you have been a bigger jerk about it?..first ...
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| finding a counselor | 1/7/2008 |
Q: I'm sure I would benefit from counseling; I'm a 45-y.o. woman who has basically lost her libido ...
A: i'd start by ruling out physical causes--consult an endocrinologist to check hormone levls, effects ...
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| Sex Problem | 12/31/2007 |
Q: I need help. I have been married for 2 years. Before we got married we had sex just about every ...
A: your inquiry leads us to the grim reality--he's more interested in masturbating to porn than having ...
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| Everything is WRONG!!! | 12/30/2007 |
Q: I'm a 27 yrs old female who has been in a relationship on and off for 2 yrs. The problem is my male ...
A: the choices: INFORM him that the situation is no longer acceptable and that his interest, ...
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| LACKING SEX IN MARRIAGE | 12/27/2007 |
Q: I HAVE LIVED WITH MY HUSBAND FOR OVER SIX YEARS, HOWEVER WE HAVE ONLY BEEN MARRIED FOR 5 MONTHS. WE ...
A: unless he cooperates, there are no solutions; since you've already expressed your dismay, and all ...
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| elusive orgasm | 12/21/2007 |
Q: I never have a problem achieving orgasm when I masturbate (it rarely takes over 10 minutes) but I ...
A: some women don't come thru orgasm; but if you want to give yourself a real chance, plus take deceit ...
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| Why does my boyfriend not want to have sex? | 12/15/2007 |
Q: Please help! In a nut shell... I have come to a point in a two year relationship where I need to ...
A: you need intimacy and a healthy sexual relationship--he needs counseling; he could be he nicest guy ...
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| very confused | 12/3/2007 |
Q: i am a 32 year old women and I've been married to my husband for a year and i do not receive any ...
A: not experiencing sexual pleasure isn't exactly "normal"; the causes can be physical (see an ...
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| girlfriends does not want sex anymore | 12/2/2007 |
Q: I have been dating my girl for 3 years, however about a year ago I moved in to her house, and as ...
A: no need to apologize for a natural sexual interest, unless you were asking for it almost daily, ...
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| No interest in sex, boyfriend obsessed | 12/1/2007 |
Q: I am a 52 year old women. I had recently (well, over the past 6 years) have gone through divorce, ...
A: ideally, he should see a copy of this and be asked to respond, but i'm assuming you've pretty much ...
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| I need help | 11/30/2007 |
Q: To start off with I am a 44 year old male and she is a 39 year old woman we have both been married ...
A: all ramifications of the topic that you've detailed need to be discussed openly and honestly with ...
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| i have seen this many times but i need to ask! | 11/22/2007 |
Q: i am 20 years old and i have been with my boyfriend for about a year,i really like him he makes me ...
A: 1. tell him not to try ths hard--it only creates undue pressure to "perform" on both your parts; no ...
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| No sex = bad thing | 11/13/2007 |
Q: I am a 20 year old female, and I am currently dating a 21 year old man. We have had a past sexual ...
A: unless you were referring to his insensitivity, inconsideration, and general uncaring; your not ...
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| libido | 11/12/2007 |
Q: My girldfriend and i are together for 2 years now. I have to say that we have a good sexual life. We ...
A: with sex, what USED to happen doesn't necessarily stay that way forever; sexual appetites vary from ...
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| help | 11/11/2007 |
Q: "hi, with the same partner for 2 years but the problem is that nearly everytime we have sex i get ...
A: it may not necessarily be YOUR issue; you're spoiling him with the blow jobs, which he may find ...
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| Help sex life is slow | 11/7/2007 |
Q: I have been with my girlfriend for over three years and we have been active since the first year. My ...
A: some women just don't come thru intercourse, but considering the various means that couples can ...
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| I have no idea what to do | 11/5/2007 |
Q: My situation caused the worlds most awkward position. I am a virgin, and my girlfriend is a virgin. ...
A: there's no magic answer--it could be, she's just not ready, emotionally, to have sex, and her body ...
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| 3 1/2 years and the never ending desert | 11/5/2007 |
Q: im hoping you can help me as this is probably an issue you have heard a million times before. i have ...
A: have you discussed your unhappiness with him?..the issues go beyond sexual--you have here a loss of ...
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| Sex Problem: I can't get it in | 11/5/2007 |
Q: I am a 17 year old boy, and i have a sweet girlfriend. It is that time in the relationship where we ...
A: well if she's a virgin she probably has a hymen, which is a thin covering, like plastic wrap, over ...
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| sister pregnant | 11/3/2007 |
Q: can you tell me what i should do.my sister and my self.have ben having sex for the last 2 years now ...
A: what on earth were you thinking?...she needs to get an abortion, you need counseling...call the dept ...
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| My husband hardly wants sex with me | 10/31/2007 |
Q: I'm writing to ask your advise I have been married for 2 years and we have been together for 4 ...
A: you're not getting his attention; time to INFORM him, outside of the bedroom, that the situation is ...
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| Relationship Balance | 10/31/2007 |
Q: my name is Sara. I'm 18 years old and my boyfriend is 19. We plan to be moving in together late ...
A: no experience with other males (i'm a guy)..i think PLAYFULNESS is really important, as well as ...
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| Husband into voyeurism and I'm not | 10/26/2007 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for 6 and a half years and we have 4 children. Last year before I ...
A: you have some decisions to make; his drinking, temper, sexual addictions, inconsiderations, are ...
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| help please | 10/25/2007 |
Q: I don't know if it is just me. I can make myself orgasm in the shower a couple of times a week. Me & ...
A: these are issues that need to be discussed with HIM; you need to INFORM him of your ...
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| sex | 10/23/2007 |
Q: My husband wants me to give him oral once a week but i find it boring and asked him to leave it to ...
A: have you considered birth control pills?..his dislike of condoms is understandable, but that doesn't ...
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| easy... | 10/21/2007 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for 3 years. It seems the longer we are toghther, the more ...
A: that's not an acceptable response--if that's the inconsiderate "best" he can do, it's time to INFORM ...
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| Only on weekends | 10/20/2007 |
Q: Is it unusual for a newly wed husband to inform his new wife that they will only be having sex on ...
A: after all this time, i doubt much is changing; he obviously has other sexual outlets and has no ...
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| your wake up call | 10/20/2007 |
Q: I used to be able to give good BJs to my boyfriend of one and a half years, but lately I've had ...
A: no, it's ALL about his selfishness; unless this is a slave/master arrangement (outlawed some years ...
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| relationship problems | 10/20/2007 |
Q: 10 months of it was long distance..way long distance between the U.S. and Europe. He has been back ...
A: differences in sexual appetites have led to the dissolution of many relationships; nothing is ...
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| Men and sex | 10/20/2007 |
Q: ok. here's the deal. I grew up thinking that "men are sex machines" and "the purpose of a man is to ...
A: unless you're willing to INFORM him that the situation is unacceptable, prepare for a lonely life of ...
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| I need help | 10/14/2007 |
Q: I have a problem. My bf and I have been having sex for over a month now and no matter how much he ...
A: "doesn't like giving oral.."??...he's supposed to be focusing on pleasing YOU..alot of girls aren't ...
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| No orgasm | 10/11/2007 |
Q: I am 23 years old, have been with many guys and I have never been able to orgasm. In fact I have ...
A: too soon to say something is wrong with you; some women don't orgasm til later, for various reasons; ...
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| stopping orgasms | 10/10/2007 |
Q: I don't think I have any thoughts... it''s more like a reflex
A: not sure what else to tell you..i doubt it's just a physical reflex, without any ...
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| Finishing | 10/10/2007 |
Q: I've never finished, or at least have never been able to tell when i have finished. Me and my ...
A: hard to say from here, but usually a female KNOWS, so chances are you haven't had one yet; some ...
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| No orgasm | 10/9/2007 |
Q: Okay I have only been able to have an orgasm from intercourse from only one partner. I've tried ...
A: female orgasm, especially thru intercourse, can be an elusive thing; some women never come that way; ...
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| Aesthetics and the First Time... | 9/17/2007 |
Q: im a lad, 17 years old and im seeing a girl at the moment and have been for the past few months. I ...
A: a) most guys are circumsized b)no need to cut hair..c)stop worryin--that only makes things worse; ...
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| weight gain | 9/16/2007 |
Q: my fiance gained some weight and does not want to talk about..it is very sensitive issue for him, ...
A: i've been, with a girl--my feeling was, still is, that we accept the "unchangeable" only; to me ...
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| Erection issues | 9/4/2007 |
Q: My boyfriend and I just started sleeping together. I am madly in love with him, and that is a first ...
A: it's not you--sounds like a form of impotence called "performance anxiety", which is has it sounds, ...
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| Lacking intimacy and sensuality in our marriage | 9/4/2007 |
Q: I am 32 and my husband is 34. We have been married for 3 years. I knew before we got married that ...
A: this is essentially what you signed up for; it's difficult to negotiate passion/intimacy, plus, if ...
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| Sex with wife is a 1 out of 10 | 8/30/2007 |
Q: My wife and I love each other very much. We go out and do things and stay in and do things. The only ...
A: your only chance is to make it a critical priority; that means INFORMING her that the current ...
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| Frequency Discrepancies: How can my partner and I find a middle ground without the guilt trips? | 8/30/2007 |
Q: For several months now I have been dating and sharing a living space with a man whom I love very ...
A: well let's take a look; there could be some correlation as to the seasons, but not sure it would be ...
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| no erection | 8/16/2007 |
Q: My best friend and I have started "seeing" each other. We have been friends for years and have been ...
A: sounds like performance anxiety, which is as it sounds--he SAYS it's just with you, but i don't buy ...
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| Can't seem to orgasm nor feel like before.. | 8/15/2007 |
Q: I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 months. The sex used to be amazing, even though I didn't ...
A: many women don't come thru intercourse, instead needing direct clitoral stimulation; no harm in ...
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| She used to orgasm during intercourse, but not anymore...? | 8/13/2007 |
Q: My wife and I got married a few months ago. Since our honeymoon, she's been unable to have an orgasm ...
A: not sure why it worked before but not now; i'm sure you've tried different positions; all i can ...
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| My Husbands Masterbation addiction | 8/7/2007 |
Q: I have ben married for 3 years. My sex life is almost gone. I am lucky to feel the touch of my ...
A: daily masturbation when married is far from "healthy", especially when it is preferred over the ...
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| Never Orgasmed During Sex | 8/4/2007 |
Q: I'm 18 female & Been With My Boyfriend for about a year. We've been having sex for about 11 months & ...
A: many women don't orgasm thru intercourse; that leaves manual/ oral clitoral stimulation, and as of ...
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| undesirable/low sex drive? | 7/30/2007 |
Q: I have had several unhealthy relationships and have been listening to selfhelp tapes for the past ...
A: do you know, for sure, he's not into porn/masturbation?..do you know, for sure, he's not seeing ...
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| sexual malfunction | 7/16/2007 |
Q: i hope you can help me, my problem is possibly physical possibly psychological. I have recently ...
A: you wouldn't be the first guy to "hide" it--most do, plus, it's no one's business; as to the ...
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| Sex problems | 7/8/2007 |
Q: I'm a 22 year-old male and have had some problems with ejaculation. Until about 2 months ago, my ...
A: appears to be "premature ejaculation", usually caused by anxiety, but can have physical causes; to ...
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| Relationship without sex | 6/20/2007 |
Q: I am a 25 year old female and have been going out with my boyfriend who is 23, for three years now. ...
A: it's continuing because you're allowing it to; without physical intimacy and sharing affection, you ...
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| intimacy | 6/15/2007 |
Q: I was a virgin when I was married to him. And the hymn was also not removed. We tried for sex many ...
A: you have one final talk with him where you essentially explain to him your feelings as you did ...
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| Not orgasming... | 5/29/2007 |
Q: I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years and we used to have a great sex life. However, in ...
A: "normal"??..are you both really happy with each other? sexually, can you orgasm masturbating?..as to ...
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| sex in my relationship | 5/27/2007 |
Q: Me and my boyfriend are both in our late twenties. We've been together for almost a year. Sex is the ...
A: if that's the case, he must have ALOT about you that bothers him; i assume you have ALREADY tried ...
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| sex in my relationship | 5/25/2007 |
Q: Me and my boyfriend are both in our late twenties. We've been together for almost a year. Sex is the ...
A: after almost a year, it's amazing you've put up with this; only HE may possibly know the reasons, or ...
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| My byfriend wont have sex with me | 5/21/2007 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 6 years. We have NEVER had a. "active" sex life. ...
A: time to be more assertive; he's obviously too sure of you, too complacent, and see's no need to ...
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| MY boyfriend wont have sex with me | 5/13/2007 |
Q: Me and my boyfriend are dating for about a year. We are both in our early twenties. Since the ...
A: only one way to find out; INFORM him that the current situation is no longer acceptable, and that ...
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| Question about my erection. | 5/9/2007 |
Q: To the point. Sex is great with my girlfriend, but I'm having a slight problem. During sex we start ...
A: after climaxing, most guys are done for at least an hour, some til the next day--you can't expect ...
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| Girlfriend seems to have lost interest in sex. | 5/2/2007 |
Q: I have been dating my girlfriend for almost four and a half years now. The majority of our ...
A: "seemingly simple.."??..not sure many would agree with that characterization, including me; without ...
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| Concerning orgams and a lack thereof | 4/26/2007 |
Q: I've pretty much decided that I can't have an orgasm, ever. I don't masturbate because I seriously ...
A: try it..you need to learn about your own body, what works, what doesn't..once you realize you CAN ...
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| I Never Had An Orgasm :( | 4/20/2007 |
Q: Azure, I need to ask you something that's been on my mind for a very long time.. me & my boyfriend ...
A: possible you've gotten too used to the vibrator--hard for a guy to compete with that; you might want ...
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| I can't cum | 4/17/2007 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for 8 1/2 months and I haven't cum since we've been married. I ...
A: why would you ever marry under such conditions?; seems that talking to him about it doesn't help; ...
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| over sexed | 4/17/2007 |
Q: My wife's sex drive seems to be out of control, I can't seem to satisfy her,I do satisfy her giving ...
A: partially a matter of perception--what other guys DREAM about, you call a problem..i guess you're ...
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| Extremely worried and need help | 4/17/2007 |
Q: I'm 26 years old and I'm having problems keeping an erection during sex. I'm recently divorced and ...
A: it's pretty common; the obvious first step, cut way back on the masturbation; i doubt there's ...
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| HVP and in LOVE ! | 4/15/2007 |
Q: i've been talking (phone only) to a past ...
A: some of your question as to what's allowable are medical in nature and should be directed to a ...
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| First Time Sex | 4/15/2007 |
Q: Im 26 and got married 1 month back. I am still a virgin as we are having problems having ...
A: the erection could be part of it (performance anxiety), but that's a whole other, and complex, ...
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| He wont stay hard......why? | 4/14/2007 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months and everyonce and a while more than I want it to ...
A: either he's seeing other women, is masturbating too much, or has erectile dysfunction; i can only ...
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| masterbation | 4/13/2007 |
Q: Okay, My boyfrined and I are newly engaged. We have a pretty good sex life. I have like an over ...
A: your feelings are understandable; to me, it seems excessive, plus, guys get too used to their own ...
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| Girlfriend will no longer let me perform oral on her | 4/12/2007 |
Q: My girlfriend has recently stopped allowing me to perform oral on her. We used to perform at least ...
A: for some reason, she's not being honest, but the badgering won't help; could be anything, from some ...
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| Can't Orgasm | 4/6/2007 |
Q: Ive been with my boyfriend for over two years weve been having sex for about a year and i have never ...
A: sure, but it's not uncommon..stop masturbating for awhile, see if that helps; female orgasm is more ...
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| Erection's... | 4/3/2007 |
Q: There's been two occasions where I was making out with guys and they couldn't get hard. One guy ...
A: no--it's essentially being with guys who aren't ready for sex suffering from "performance anxiety" ...
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| Girlfriend doesnt want to have sex like we use to. | 4/2/2007 |
Q: My girlfriend and I use to have sex every other day and it was great. I went through a spell where I ...
A: you need to INFORM her that the current situation is no longer acceptable, and needs her attention ...
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| Not able to get hard | 4/2/2007 |
Q: I have tried to have sex with my girlfriend the past two times but have been unable to get hard. I ...
A: you've gotten too used to fingers, yours AND hers--stop both--give her more foreplay, clitoral ...
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| Trouble with Orgasm and more... | 3/31/2007 |
Q: Well, I don't really know where to start. I'm a woman and used to have a very big sexual desire. I ...
A: how often do you now have sex?..do you get him off in some way each time?..do you come every ...
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| orgaziams | 3/30/2007 |
Q: ..me and my boyfriend have been together about a year and although i can get him to "cum" while ...
A: masturbating with a vibrator should be anything but boring, plus it will provide experience in ...
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| attraction problem | 3/29/2007 |
Q: I am a 23 year old male, I have been very sexually active for the past 6 years, but never had a ...
A: it's not hard to understand--the girls that put out are less particular, you're a young male, thus ...
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| Newlywed | 3/25/2007 |
Q: I hope you can help me. I am a 24 y/o married woman who has two children. My husband is 29. I ...
A: you haven't gotten his full attention: time to INFORM him that the current situation is ...
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| She can't cum... | 3/21/2007 |
Q: my girlfriend and i are together for the last 8 months , but i can't make her cum. she had never cum ...
A: it's not that uncommon; unlike a guy, female orgasm is more an EMOTIONAL event than just a physical ...
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| Sexless Marriage | 3/16/2007 |
Q: OK that was pretty harsh and stings. But how do I know I am not the problem? I ask her often for ...
A: you know for sure when you tell her she either cooperates in finding a solution, or your finished, ...
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| Lack of intamcy | 3/15/2007 |
Q: Help!!! My fiancee loves to watch me with other men. He loves watching me have intercourse and ...
A: unfortunately his fetish, fueled by your support, as lead to an unhealthy addiction with negative ...
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| Sexless Marriage | 3/15/2007 |
Q: OK that was pretty harsh and stings. But how do I know I am not the problem? I ask her often for ...
A: i'm not here as a best friend--sometimes reality is "harsh"; i gave my objective opinion, based upon ...
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| Sexless Marriage | 3/14/2007 |
Q: What do I do about my marriage. We have sex maybe once/mo. at best and usually less often than ...
A: if you've ALREADY tried endlessly to get her to cooperate in finding solutions, and every time she's ...
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| the sizzle passion and spark are dying | 3/1/2007 |
Q: My husband has lost interest in our sex life we will be married 3 years this September before we ...
A: only 2 choices; 1. you inform him that the current situation is no longer acceptable, and that in ...
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| Sexual inactiveness with my wife | 1/26/2007 |
Q: Yes but it's not the same as being able to complete the whole thing. I mean, a marriage, in the ...
A: there's 2 distinct issues here--you said you wanted to be able to "provide an enjoyable sexual ...
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| Sex in my marriage becoming less | 1/23/2007 |
Q: I am 26, my husband is 31. Our relationship is pretty good otherwise, it is loving. We used to have ...
A: it's not a question about whether to worry, but about your NEEDS, and whether he's suffiently ...
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| sex | 1/21/2007 |
Q: I'm not the most "experienced" guy around, so I need some insight. Despite what Hollywood portrays, ...
A: the man controls himself and his partner's actions, so he DOESN'T come before the woman; instead, ...
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| I'm loosing the interest in my husband | 1/16/2007 |
Q: I'm 20 years old and I've been married for 2 years.well,i used to have a very HIGH sex drive but ...
A: set a time/place to talk to him; INFORM him that the current situation is no longer acceptable, and ...
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| How to get my girlfriend horny | 1/12/2007 |
Q: Yes she likes me. She had 2 other big relationships. The one in school where she got her first ...
A: anger won't help; it's your issue as well as hers; perhaps if you weren't so pushy about the sex, it ...
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| my wife | 1/11/2007 |
Q: Yes, I've expressed my feelings many times. She seems to be genuinely sorry, and wants to work on ...
A: time to INFORM her that the current situation is no longer acceptable, and that the PROMISE of ...
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| My girlfriend hasnt had an orgasim yet | 1/11/2007 |
Q: She is 17 years old. She had a boyfriend before but she didnt really like him they had sex twice in ...
A: female orgasm is more emotionally "wired" than a guys; sometimes young girls just aren't ready to ...
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| Flaccid Penis | 1/8/2007 |
Q: I have been dating this guy for a couple months and we decided to have sex. Both times he has been ...
A: if he hasn't had the consideration to mention it after these episodes, i doubt he's ready to ...
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| Marriage trouble, wife disinterested in sex | 1/7/2007 |
Q: I did sometime prior to our wedding. Maybe not quite as detailed as I can convey in text, but as ...
A: if you don't kick this up the priority ladder, it will never change, and you'll be looking at a ...
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| no oral sex | 1/6/2007 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been exclusively dating for 4 months now. Everything about our relationship ...
A: sounds like he has a "hang-up" about it; a small percentage of guys perceive that "area" as ...
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| Problems having an orgasm. | 1/6/2007 |
Q: i'm a 21 year old male, and I have problems ejaculating during sex while wearing a condom. I've ...
A: if masturbating, stop; check out the thinner condoms that promise greater sensitivity, don't put it ...
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| how can i make him not cum so fast | 1/4/2007 |
Q: Ok my boyfriend and i have recently started dating. He is 17 and he was a virgin till almost a month ...
A: you may not be able to do much about his excitement, but you can change things around when it comes ...
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| I'm 22 and I have sexual dysfunction issues | 1/3/2007 |
Q: Sorry to write a novel, but help would be greatly appreciated. It is very difficult for me to ...
A: time to shape up; for starters, lose the weight, stop smoking/drinking/eat right--do whatever you ...
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| Open Marriage? | 12/28/2006 |
Q: I have been married for ten years. My wife has lost interest in me sexually and she wants to have an ...
A: the chances of that working are slim to none; you're much better off working on why the desire has ...
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| Husband's sexual fantasies about his sister | 12/27/2006 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for about three years. We have known each other for about 8 ...
A: it really depends it you're ready to draw a "line in the sand" over it; in other words, you would ...
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| no sex marriage | 12/20/2006 |
Q: I'll be brief with this, I am with my wife for about 10 years, married just a year, she has had ...
A: i'm amazed you've been living this way all this time; the only way this has any chance of being ...
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| sexual guilt & the burden of ethics | 12/18/2006 |
Q: Some background is in order, I guess. I have always had more female friends than male friends. I ...
A: you really need to stop ASKING for permission; women like men who are confident, self-assured, can ...
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| sex problem | 12/12/2006 |
Q: I have a very embarassing sex problem that makes me feel like the world is ending. I feel like I ...
A: sounds like "performance anxiety", which is just as it sounds, and the more you worry, the more it ...
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| I HATE SEX! | 12/4/2006 |
Q: I'm a 31 y.o. female, married for 6 years to my second husband who is 15 years older than me. The ...
A: this is little more than some unhealthy arrangement posing as a marriage; what's the point of ...
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| love in trouble 2 | 11/30/2006 |
Q: I recently asked Dale from the experts panel this question and I am in no way doubting the answer I ...
A: don't know the book; i personally wouldn't stay in a living together, "romantic" arrangement with ...
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| Sex/love/ex | 11/26/2006 |
Q: Ok so its a bit complicated. There are allegations of sexual abuse when I was three which may be ...
A: certainly this current arrangement isn't working, so don't even THINK of marriage; actually, until ...
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| From lots of sex to no sex | 11/22/2006 |
Q: Yes, but either she says she doesn't know or she tries avoiding the subject, shes said before that ...
A: could be alot of things, but in order to make it better, she HAS to be willing to a)admit it's a ...
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| elusive orgasm | 11/20/2006 |
Q: no i don't, because i've heard that they can make you temperarily less sensitive, and i already have ...
A: if he's doing exactly the same things to you as you do to youself, it could be some type of ...
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| older boyfriend pressure | 11/17/2006 |
Q: I'm a 19 years-old virgin and I have an older boyfriend (32) who isn't a virgin, he has lots of ...
A: tell him you're a virgin, and tell him you're not ready; he's gonna find out both sooner or later; ...
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| Erection Problem? | 11/4/2006 |
Q: "hi, i posted this question earlier and DID not get a personalised and a moral boosting reply which ...
A: sounds like "performance anxiety", and it IS common; it's basically as it sounds, where one ...
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| sexual dissatifaction | 11/1/2006 |
Q: Okay, I have been with my girlfriend for almost 5 years now, i just turned 19. Our sex life is ...
A: you certainly can't get very far, nevermind move in, under these conditions; don't delude ...
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| no more sex | 10/27/2006 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend since 12-04, we used to be very passionate and expressive in bed...sex ...
A: he's getting away with this totally unloving, uncaring behavior because you're ALLOWING him to; i'd ...
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| No sex for years and it's getting old | 10/26/2006 |
Q: My wife (37) and I (36) married in 1999 and everything was good. Prior to our wedding sex was a ...
A: the real question is why is your self-esteem so low that you've put up with this sorrowful ...
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| sexuality | 10/26/2006 |
Q: I have discovered that my husband of six years is viewing Internet pornography a lot during the day. ...
A: nowadays, it's becoming more of an issue; understandable that he might hide the behavior, being ...
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| addicted to porn | 10/25/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months now. I was a virgin when I met him, even ...
A: just telling him obviously isn't working; your choices are to recommend counseling, make it a ...
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| i don't do it for my wife any more | 10/20/2006 |
Q: she tells me she doesn't want other guys - just this one. also she feels that after 20 yrs her not ...
A: he IS another guy..i believe people should do what they really want, so i wouldn't stop her--but ...
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| Premature Ejaculation | 10/16/2006 |
Q: Goodday Sir, I would like to know how long regular sex should last and how many rounds of sex a ...
A: there's no "should"--everyone is different; ideally you'd like to last until your partner is ...
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| sex drive | 10/10/2006 |
Q: Ok, Im going to make this as short as possible but give you as much detail as i can. I Im 21 years ...
A: you should first see an endocrinologist to evaluate hormone levels and comment on whatever you're ...
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| Penis Growth | 10/9/2006 |
Q: i am 17 year's old and from the information i have seen i wont be able to satisfy my girlfriend. I ...
A: relax--you numbers fall into the average range; plus, size isn't that big a deal unless you're REAL ...
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| 24 NO sex drive | 10/5/2006 |
Q: Help! I've always had a strong libido since 17 when i started having sex. Im 24 now and my sex ...
A: start by seeing an endocrinologist to evaluate/adjust hormone levels, ask about the affects of any ...
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| loss of libido/erection | 10/4/2006 |
Q: i'm 27. i was a virgin until last November (2005) it was a one night stand and during sex i lost my ...
A: it's a process of elimination to find the cause; i'd start by seeing an endocrinologist to evaluate ...
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| Wife's New Habit | 10/2/2006 |
Q: We have a hot tub on our deck in a very private setting & last night I went outside & found my wife ...
A: the hot tub thing isn't relevant; the best approach is to get to the bottom of her indifference ...
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| its hard for me to stay hard the first time i have sex with a girl | 9/29/2006 |
Q: so i've had several partners in the past decade, however recently i've noticed that the first time ...
A: it's called "performance anxiety", essentially a pretty common occurrence where a guy gets nervous ...
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| Intimacy problems with my wife. | 9/24/2006 |
Q: I've been married for a little over a year now. I got married overseas, then my wife moved with me ...
A: no doubt; intimacy starts with open, honest communication of real feelings; don't accept anything ...
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| girlfriend lack of sex drive | 9/21/2006 |
Q: Ive been with my girlfriend for about a year, and as far as i know we're very much in love, we're ...
A: she has to be told that not talking about it is no longer an option; certainly it would be each ...
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| sex | 9/20/2006 |
Q: she says sorry i am just not in the mood right now or we will have sex later tonight or in the ...
A: without an explanation as to why she wanted it more before than now, neither of us will know; (i'm ...
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| I Love her, but i cant be pleased by her | 9/20/2006 |
Q: well yes, iv tried to coach her and all on how to and she does we try and try, i usually have ...
A: at your age the erection should be solid; could be you're masturbating too much, making for less ...
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| Medication and sex with dryness | 9/19/2006 |
Q: While making love I experience multiple orgasms each time my boyfriend and I make love, I'm just ...
A: if it's taking him that long, and eventually you're "done", it's not surprising you're no longer ...
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| Several Questions about Health | 9/18/2006 |
Q: Ok, First I know that you might not have 100% of the answers that I want, but I figured that this ...
A: 1. not sure that's the answer, if it's even being used; 2. not unless your 85; you could start by ...
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| second question | 9/15/2006 |
Q: Okay, got your first response and thank you. I think I'm going to set it up like this tonight: We go ...
A: your approach perhaps too playful, but i suppose you could try it before resorting to the more ...
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| sexual problem | 8/28/2006 |
Q: , if my boyfriend have a foot fetish what should i do and how ill deal with that
A: you can tell him you find it unacceptable, but whether he is ready/willing/able to change, is ...
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| low sex drive | 8/22/2006 |
Q: Im a 24 year old woman. Ive been with my boyfriend for 9 months now and we are having problems ...
A: not sure if you use a vibrator, but it can be difficult for a guy to compete with someone so used to ...
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| Psychological block about physical intercourse | 8/14/2006 |
Q: Since you have a degree in Psychology, I guess I should start with what I believe my psychological ...
A: age doesn't affect virginity issues, which would be the same as if you were 17; physically, there ...
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| Trouble reaching orgasm with new bf | 7/31/2006 |
Q: In my past relationship I would achieve orgasm almost every time we had sex. I'm now involved with a ...
A: to have any hope of satisfying sex, you're gonna have to be more assertive as to what you want and ...
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| Going limp before or during intercourse | 7/27/2006 |
Q: During the sex with my wife lately I have had a problem keeping it up during intercourse, and once I ...
A: the "why" could be physical, psychological, or both; start by seeing an endocrinologist to evaluate ...
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| Decreased love making | 7/26/2006 |
Q: We were fist loves at 14 yrs old. Have been in touch (friends and sexually) through most of our ...
A: what excites him is the LEAST of your problems; a once good arrangement has been turned into a ...
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| Sex with husband | 7/25/2006 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for over 4 years now. I am 24 years old and he is 28 years old. ...
A: for many reasons, i'd inform him that the anal addiction has to go; one main one is that it takes ...
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| husband showing less interest in making love | 7/24/2006 |
Q: i have told him several times but he always give me an excuse that he is very much tired and will do ...
A: nothing will change until you make it a bigger deal; that means INFORMING him that the current ...
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| lack of libido | 7/20/2006 |
Q: My husband and I have been together for almost 9 years. we have 2 children. My youngest is 2. ...
A: he's completely inconsiderate, but you're at fault for not making this a real priority; nothing will ...
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| Problems with Intercourse. | 7/10/2006 |
Q: No she is not a virgin, but she is not very experienced at all. She has only had sex twice.I have a ...
A: "horny at the same time" is the idea; why try it until then?..you should focus on spending more time ...
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| sexual positin | 7/10/2006 |
Q: my wife and i have been married for about 2years and alothough doggy style has always been my ...
A: whatever the reason, it's still premature ejaculation; try slowing way down until the feeling to ...
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| How could he lose all sexual desire? | 7/9/2006 |
Q: I have been in a relationship with a wonderful, caring and sweet man for about 7 years now. He was a ...
A: step 1; make it a PRIORITY; that means, informing him that the status quo is no longer acceptable, ...
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| Girlfriend's disinterest | 7/8/2006 |
Q: My girlfriend and I have been together for over two years. For the first year and a half, we ...
A: time to begin a process of of elimination, as this could be physical, psychological, emotional or ...
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| My Husband seems to have little sexual interest in me | 7/4/2006 |
Q: Where do I start? Well I have been married almost a year and have been with my husband for 3.5 ...
A: i don't buy the "low sex drive" line when the guy is masturbating to fantasies more than you'll ever ...
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| power trip-frequency | 7/3/2006 |
Q: My wife and I have a disagreement over how often we should have sex. I contend a healthy male needs ...
A: there's no magic answer..you say 3, she says 2...not a stretch to compromise at 2.5; tell her how it ...
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| i didn't feel | 7/1/2006 |
Q: Followup To Question - my long time boyfriend and i recently had sex, and we have been serious ...
A: he needs to manually and/or orally stimulate your clitorus for as long as necessary; don't be afraid ...
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| No pleasure down there for her | 6/28/2006 |
Q: Let me start by introducing myself. I am an asian male, 21, I've had 4 sexual partners in the past 6 ...
A: certainly those are two possibilities; start by her seeing an endocrinologist to evaluate hormone ...
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| Low sex drive | 6/28/2006 |
Q: I am a 26 year old woman with virtually no sex drive. I have been involved with my boyfriend for ...
A: well we pretty much know it's either physical or psychological; i'd start by seeing an ...
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| frustrated | 6/27/2006 |
Q: i have been married to my wife for going on 7 yrs , just recently sex has become worse, meaning we ...
A: her attitude is unacceptable; even without desire, she should be willing to satisfy YOU; as for her ...
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| Sexually Frustrated with wife | 6/27/2006 |
Q: My wife and I have been married going on 7 yrs next month. Before we got married the sex was ...
A: first, the thyroid condition can be fixed; have her see an endocrinologist; then, inform her that ...
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| sexual positions with a heavy spouse. | 6/25/2006 |
Q: I am a 27 year old female that is 5ft&1/2 inches tall. I weigh 108 pounds.The problem I have is; my ...
A: ever woman's dream guy..why did you even marry under these conditions?..he's geeting away with this ...
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| He cums too quickly. | 6/24/2006 |
Q: I'm 20, and have only had sex 3 other times in my life before I had sex with the guy I'm currently ...
A: com--or "net") has little to do with the size of your vagina; some guys can control it better than ...
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| No kids = No sex | 6/24/2006 |
Q: I've been with my fiance for 2.5+ years now. We used to have sex every day non-stop. But, recently ...
A: i think he has a legitimate concern, but dumping him isn't gonna solve your problem; you have to be ...
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| Why does he go limp!? | 6/24/2006 |
Q: No. That's the thing, we have sex alot so he doesnt need too. What do you think the problem is?My ...
A: you didn't answer the 1st part of the question, but if you're havng good sex 3-4 times a week, it ...
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| orgasm | 6/23/2006 |
Q: But honestly my husband really tries he is a great lover, alot younger than me but really ...
A: faking it for 15 yrs?..why?..isn't a great deal of intimacy lost when the whole thing is based on ...
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| Oral Sex | 6/22/2006 |
Q: As for telling him that it is important to me, I have, and one time I even got about a minute of it ...
A: okay, time for plan B; the only way this can possibly change is if you make it a REQUIREMENT (set up ...
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| Oral Sex | 6/21/2006 |
Q: We've been together for 4 years, and I can count on one hand how many times my man has given me oral ...
A: some guys have a thing about it; if it's truly important to you, tell him; if he's a considerate ...
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| can't cum | 6/21/2006 |
Q: i am 19 years old, have been sexually active for a year, my boyfriend is 2 years younger than me ...
A: not really; lots of women don't come with intercourse; but that's no reason he shouldn't make you ...
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| ED | 6/17/2006 |
Q: I am forty three years old and my husband is 57. we have beeen together for four years now and used ...
A: it's inexcusable for a guy to have that kind of masturbatory interest and no interest in his ...
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| clearing doubt | 6/12/2006 |
Q: ..its even a little embarrasing to talk about it and i do feel insecured but i really need to clear ...
A: i'd lean toward to the "wrong/abnormal" because of his age, but your bigger issue is a legal one; if ...
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| organsm | 6/10/2006 |
Q: ...... i jud wanted 2 no one thin , wen ma gal touches ma balls n penis n all i get exicted n it ...
A: it's called "pre-cum" but can contain sperm; i said i doubt it will cause pregnancy, but i wasn't ...
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| too loose??? | 6/3/2006 |
Q: well me and my man have been together for 9 and 1/2 years..we are 24 years old now ...weve had our ...
A: no harm in getting a gynecologist opinion as to the looseness; as to difference in sex drive, you ...
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| Commitment | 6/2/2006 |
Q: So I hooked up with this girl about a month ago (she gave me a blowjob) and since then we've been ...
A: if you like her and want to spend time with her aside from the sex, start asking her to do REAL ...
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| he doesnt quite get it right... | 5/31/2006 |
Q: last night i was with someone. hes 19 and i would think that hed be in his peek. ive heaard from ...
A: it's a common problem, and the tricky part is the more one worries about it, the more it happens, ...
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| unable to 'cum' | 5/27/2006 |
Q: My partner is 47 and I'm 33, we have been living together for a year, we havent had sex now for 2 ...
A: there's alot of issues here, as a partner that prefers masturbation is no longer a REAL partner ; ...
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| No sex or affection in my marriage | 5/21/2006 |
Q: I hope you can help me. I have been married to a man for 25 years. We have only made love about 10 ...
A: i think you should consider counseling to figure out the insecurities within you that made you stay ...
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| No sex drive | 5/19/2006 |
Q: I am a 31 year old woman who does not have an ounce of sex drive. My husband and I have not had ...
A: a start would be seeing an endocrinologist to rule out hormonal issues; but chances are, it's the ...
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| How do you tell your new partner there is a problem with his technique | 5/17/2006 |
Q: I am 50year old woman and I have very a new partner who is perfect in every way but one...Sex. We ...
A: it's not all that difficult, you just tell him as you did me, and outside of the bedroom; as i see ...
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| Wife has no interest in sex! | 5/14/2006 |
Q: I have a problem on my hands and it's typical of married couples nowadays. I love my wife I think ...
A: maybe you're presenting yourself as TOO nice, TOO needy, TOO interested; stop asking for sex, stop ...
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| my bf lacks interest in sex | 5/12/2006 |
Q: I've been with my boyfriend for 6 yrs. Sex was never a problem in the beginning, although I was a ...
A: i agree with all you said, and the WORST part is his refusal to engage in an open, honest discussion ...
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| It won't fit | 5/3/2006 |
Q: Well sometimes he'll fit in me but it hurts at first. I was a virgin three weeks ago. What kind of ...
A: your guy should be spending alot of time touching and licking your clitoral area; you should try ...
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| No Sex in Relationship | 5/1/2006 |
Q: I am 25 years old and my boyfriend of two years, that I live with is 28. I really love my boyfriend ...
A: you've waited 2 years to address this problem?..have you asked him about it?..demonstrated your ...
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| different libidos and views on sex | 4/27/2006 |
Q: I am not too interested in us seeing a couple's counselor. First, I did in a past relationship and ...
A: first, just because you weren't happy with one counselor, doesn't mean a different one would be ...
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| different libidos and views on sex | 4/24/2006 |
Q: My girlfriend (26) and I (32) have been dating for over two years. We have a very good relationship ...
A: first off, nothing is gonna change unless you move this up on your priority list, which means she is ...
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| sexual development | 4/13/2006 |
Q: This may seem weird but I am 19 and have been sexually active since I was 16. I have been with my ...
A: it's not uncommon; usually girls need ALOT of manual or oral foreplay to achieve orgasm, and even ...
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| My husband isn't interested | 4/9/2006 |
Q: The living apart is that I live in North Carolina and he lives in Mexico. He accepted his "dream ...
A: most husbands that mess around tell their wives they're being faithful; just the fact that he left ...
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| My husband isn't interested | 4/9/2006 |
Q: Azure, My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years, 2nd marriage for both. Before we got ...
A: put your money where your mouth is; i doubt if he's sharing the REAL reasons for his disinterest ...
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| Intimacy complications | 4/1/2006 |
Q: Hey Azure, I read all I could find in this Q&A section regarding intimacy problems and although a ...
A: i don't think you want to live like this; time to inform her that the current situation is no longer ...
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| Stretched | 3/22/2006 |
Q: I have a problem. I somehow am not as "tight" as my b/f (of 5 years) says I was. He claims that I am ...
A: the looseness (not sure of cause), is the least of your problems; your weight gain and his ...
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| Inexperience and lack of arousal | 3/12/2006 |
Q: I'm a sixteen year old female, and two months ago, I lost my virginity to my boyfriend, whom I've ...
A: lube and less often can't hurt; but the key is more foreplay, in quality and quantity; your ...
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| sex issues in a relationship | 2/20/2006 |
Q: my boyfriend and i have been together for a little over 5 months now, and everything is great ...
A: it's a difficult problem to solve; i assume he's pretty young, so it's probably psychological; many ...
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| Evaluating sexual health | 2/6/2006 |
Q: I'm a 30 year old virgin male who is about to be married in a short while. How can I evaluate my ...
A: erectile dysfunction is inability to get or maintain an erection sufficient to have mutually ...
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| erection problem | 1/22/2006 |
Q: I'm 17yrs old and my b/f is a year older, we've been together for almost a year and have had sex for ...
A: not sure; the inability to masturbate (if true), is puzzling, along with your apparent previous ...
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| drying out... | 1/20/2006 |
Q: my boyfreind and i have been having sex off and on again for about three weeks. its frustrating to ...
A: "an hour or so?"..c'mon; if he can't come in ten minutes of thrusting, let alone an HOUR, that's HIS ...
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| male labido | 1/18/2006 |
Q: i have been dating the same guy for a year now and i don't think he is interested in sex any more. ...
A: the question, and answer, look the same; if things were great, you wouldn't be writing; it's not a ...
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| Girlfriend not achieving orgasm. | 1/17/2006 |
Q: Followup To Question - My girlfriend and I have a pretty regular sex life. When we first started ...
A: sounds like she's not getting alot out of it; could be different things, including hormonal issues, ...
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| advice for supporting my girlfreind with sexual abuse in her past | 1/14/2006 |
Q: My girlfreind had been a victom of an sexual assult when she was 14 by her father. She has hid ...
A: i think you should suggest that she address the sex/dating question with the counselor; if she seems ...
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| Problem after g/f orgasms | 1/13/2006 |
Q: I have given her an orgasm before actual intercourse, but it doesnt seem to make a difference, its ...
A: she may just get that way because she's much less excited after the orgasm; perhaps you can adjust ...
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| Help Needed... | 1/11/2006 |
Q: I have a very strange problem....Im 24 and have had trouble maintaining an erection with Girlfriends ...
A: frequent masturbating certainly doesn't help, but alot of things could be part of it--underlying ...
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| Relationships and Masturbation | 1/10/2006 |
Q: Yes I have discussed with him only once. I don't feel comfortable talking to him about it again, ...
A: your unwillingness to express your feelings with him in an open, honest dialog, becomes another part ...
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| Wife shows lack of interest in sex. | 12/18/2005 |
Q: I am frustrated. My wife of 10 years doesn't seem interested in having any physical contact with me ...
A: you need to at least get her attention, and make sure she's informed the current situation is ...
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| my sexual life | 12/5/2005 |
Q: I just want to know what can I do to attract my husbant's sexual attention.My english may not be the ...
A: it could be alot of reasons, from physical problems to being addicted to pornography, to not being ...
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| sexless marriage or a wife hding something | 11/5/2005 |
Q: I will try to keep this short, we have been married 30+ years and for the most part we have been ...
A: the only way to affect change in this regard is to stop doing "business as usual"; that means ...
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| Intimacy problems | 10/3/2005 |
Q: I have been dating a woman for 2 and a half years. When we first started dating, we had a vibrant ...
A: after enjoying it for 2 years, it's not a matter of not liking sex, but a matter of not liking sex ...
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| How to Approach the Issue | 9/30/2005 |
Q: I asked for your advice a few days ago concerning a delicate issue with my girlfirend. If you ...
A: let's see--you please HER orally, she wishes she felt differently, she's aware it's important to ...
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| PENIS AND ANAL SEX..! | 9/21/2005 |
Q: ..! First of all let me "Thank You" for giving me such a prompt and appropriate reply."THANKYOU ...
A: not a "discussion; you ask, i perhaps answer; 1. you never mentioned "20 mins" previously; forget ...
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| change of style | 9/14/2005 |
Q: My husband and I used to have great sex. After 3 years together he told me that he was into S&M, ...
A: it depends how important satisfying sex is to you; the choices; a) tell him how you feel in the hope ...
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| premature ejaculation | 9/10/2005 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months now and we can only have sex for about two ...
A: your options then would be to stop worrying about hurting his feelings and talk about it, or live an ...
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| She finds penetration boring. | 8/30/2005 |
Q: My girlfriend has lost interest in penetration. I don't think she ever found penetration ...
A: save your money on the clit stimulator; sex without intimacy is essentially mutual masturbation; ...
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| Azure,
For the past nine... | 8/24/2005 |
Q: Azure, For the past nine months I've been involved with a man that is almose twice my age. I'm 19 ...
A: no moral judgments here, just objective analysis; first, what it is to you may not be what it is to ...
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| Problem with my gf of 3 years close to | 8/22/2005 |
Q: It seems lately that my g/f is not interested in having sex. I have tried asking her what the ...
A: you can't "interest her" until you BOTH try to figure out what the cause is, or until she reveals ...
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| sex with my husband | 8/1/2005 |
Q: I am 25 years old and my husband is 26. We have been married for almost 3 years and we have two ...
A: unfortunately, he's getting away with this boorish, inconsiderate behavior because you're allowing ...
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| withdrawl | 7/5/2005 |
Q: I am writing concerning chances of pregnancy using withdrawal method. I am just curious what the ...
A: true, probably less than 20% chance, but no one can say exactly, as it depends when someone pulls ...
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| A few q's | 7/2/2005 |
Q: I am a male and I have some questions about sex-related issues. Question number 1 is: My Fiance and ...
A: k-y came out with a new warming oil that's interesting; if it's not in the drug store, do a web ...
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| virgin, sex, and everything next | 6/23/2005 |
Q: Heather, my friend, just stopped by and is hookin' me up with her fiance's friend. He's 22, ...
A: you could tell him to wear 2 condoms if it'll ease your anxiety, but i wouldn't be thinking of ...
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| newly wed sex | 5/29/2005 |
Q: Hey, how are you? My wife and I just got married and I've been having trouble dealing w/ her low ...
A: you just made a case for sex before marriage; you can't make anyone have sex more; (you didn't say ...
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| relationship and masturbation | 5/17/2005 |
Q: I am in a relationship with my high school sweetheart. We are engaged to be married next spring and ...
A: to me, your concern is only justified if his behavior is in some way directly harming you or the ...
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| sex | 5/12/2005 |
Q: My fiance and I have been living together for 5 years and no matter how often we have sex he ...
A: you didn't actually ask a question--i'm assuming you'd like advice on what to do; first, don't even ...
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| wants to have sex with another guy? | 5/6/2005 |
Q: Okay .. My girl and I broke up for 1 week she left the house im 22 shes 21 .. I found out she was ...
A: relax; it was nothing to get mad about; the fantasy about someone watching is common; either she was ...
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| How to talk to my husband about sex | 4/22/2005 |
Q: That all sounds good, but how do I talk to him without him getting defensive or hurt? I don't want ...
A: if you keep worrying about his response, how will it ever change?..you could start by telling him ...
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| Me and my girl | 3/28/2005 |
Q: 3 month relationship with my girl now. she gives me oral sex 3-4 times a day . we both want to have ...
A: "oral sex 3-4 times a day..?"...what do you give HER?.."wouldn't care if she got pregnant?"..you ...
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| sex problem | 3/21/2005 |
Q: ok here goes, i am a 20 year old fellow. i have just started dating this really nice girl and damn i ...
A: first, cut way back on the masturbation; next cut back on her orally pleasuring you all that ...
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| Impotence | 3/19/2005 |
Q: I've been seeing my boyfriend for about 2 months. Well the other night we thought we would have sex ...
A: as you realize, it probably is psychological, sometimes called "performance anxiety", which is ...
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| no sex drive | 3/9/2005 |
Q: i caught my partner looking at young porn sites he is 32 im 25 and victim of childhood sexual abuse. ...
A: your feelings are understandable; as to whether your severe reaction is justified, that would depend ...
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| problems with erections | 2/26/2005 |
Q: I have a problem that I am dealing with and I feel that it is causing problems with my wife and my ...
A: if anything, i'd say it has more to do with HER..lots of women don't have orgasms with intercourse; ...
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| orgasm problem | 1/30/2005 |
Q: i recently had sex for the first time about a month ago with a girl a little older than me that i've ...
A: i can offer a couple of ideas--not sure if they'll help..1) trying different positions; 2. have her ...
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| Sex problem | 1/19/2005 |
Q: Well, if he is not the guy for me, i don't know, as we have been married now for 10 years. He has ...
A: no. of years married doesn't a marriage make; my feeling is it's now really just more of a ...
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| Hi. I have couple questions... | 1/14/2005 |
Q: I have couple questions concerning sex. First off, I asked my gf if she could squeeze around me ...
A: some girls may be able to voluntarily move those muscles; some not; if she says she's trying, i'd ...
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| Bf 'low' sex drive | 12/30/2004 |
Q: We used to be together everyday and then we'd do it lets say every other day. Now we see each other ...
A: sex drive is a very individual matter; some people like it every day, others are content with it ...
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| confused and in love | 12/27/2004 |
Q: Sorry I didn't attach the previous Q & A... how often is normal for a healthy 43 year old male? ...
A: sorry; my prev answer WAS for a different question, someone with the opposite problem where the guy ...
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| confused and in love | 12/27/2004 |
Q: ------------------------- sigh...well... what is normal for a healthy 43 year old male? I guess I ...
A: in future, pls attach previous correspondence--i get alot of questions and don't remember all the ...
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| confused and in love | 12/22/2004 |
Q: I've been with a man for over a year. Love at first sight you could say. I was in a terrible ...
A: "trying" to talk to him won't get the attention you're looking for; you need to INFORM him that the ...
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| Lack of lust | 12/12/2004 |
Q: Im in love with this wonderful guy. He loves me too, we have a good, healthy, honest relationship. ...
A: i doubt it's your inexperience; a 25 yr old guy not interested in sex does give cause to wonder; ...
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| sex | 12/10/2004 |
Q: well i am about to make love for the first time, and I am happy, but also nervous, when can i kiss ...
A: it's better not to have a set plan; just let your instincts lead the way; i'm sure, her being older, ...
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| My Relationship | 12/8/2004 |
Q: i am 16 and he is 17, i have gone down on him once, but other than that we havent been doing ...
A: the timing of when 2 people have sex shouldn't be influenced by a third party like me; it's better ...
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| ORAL SEX | 12/6/2004 |
Q: ..! Let me first thank you for replying back.Well getting back to our discussion.....I have had ...
A: "need" the answers?..you appear somewhat obsessed with the issue; i suggest you try to stop thinking ...
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| ORAL SEX | 11/24/2004 |
Q: He Azure...! Well let me again start with a sincere thankful note.Thanks alot for replying so ...
A: you must lead a boring life paul; we're going over the same stuff; the bottom line is you can't make ...
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| ORAL SEX | 11/24/2004 |
Q: ..! Well let me first thank you for ur reply.Anyways getting back to our discussion:- You ...
A: if u say u "love" going down on them, what are u moaning about?..just like your semen, it's not ...
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| ORAL SEX | 11/23/2004 |
Q: ..! Well let me first thank you for ur reply.It was very short though.Anyways getting back to ...
A: well, i suppose the only way to find out would be to have a bunch of guys lick your girl's pussy and ...
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| ORAL SEX | 11/20/2004 |
Q: ..! I have a girl friend.And every time before sex we both have a shower together.Also we both ...
A: every girl tastes in some ways similiar, in some ways different; whether one finds it pleasing or ...
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| Hi. My girlfriend is naturally... | 11/17/2004 |
Q: My girlfriend is naturally a very shy person and even more shy when it comes to sex. She says she ...
A: it's possible her body is reacting positively to what you're doing, but she has some mental block ...
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| Very Confused | 11/7/2004 |
Q: I am 19 years old and Ive been going out with my boyfriend for about 8 months. Ive been with a ...
A: sometimes love isn't enough; one of those times is when you just don't LIKE certain things about ...
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| Over masturbating | 11/7/2004 |
Q: I'm male, 29 years old. When I was in my 15's I used to over masturbate, sometimes like 2 or three ...
A: your previous masturbation isn't making you depressed, anxious, tired; an endocrinologist can ...
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| please help me | 11/2/2004 |
Q: I don't think youd be able to answer this question, but I've asked everywhere and can't find any ...
A: first of all, try to relax; nothing is wrong with you; many women don't get vaginal orgasms; the ...
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| Faster Stoke Rate | 11/2/2004 |
Q: I and my girl friend have been having sex for the last one year. But till now we used to have sex ...
A: perhaps a compromise, where you vary it; some fast, some slow; also, if you have more frequent sex, ...
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| wife not wanting it | 10/28/2004 |
Q: I have been trying to figure out why my wife doesn't want to have sex that much anymore. I ask her ...
A: without her interest or cooperation in seeking a resolution, this won't be easily fixable; first ...
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| What to do if your partner doesn't want sex... | 10/20/2004 |
Q: I'm a 31 year old woman who has been married for 1 and a half years. My first marriage. I've known ...
A: you have to ultimately decide if you're willing to stay married and lead a life of quiet ...
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| Natural lubrication | 10/19/2004 |
Q: My girlfriend (18 yrs old) has been unable to naturally lubricate herself the last 3 times (all in ...
A: nothing to worry about unless it continues for a few weeks; could be alot of things; at the top of ...
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| problems in the bedroom | 10/16/2004 |
Q: My girlfriend and i just broke up. (she cheated). But a month before it happened our sex life ...
A: i don't know if it's the ONLY factor, but it appears she wasn't happy with your approach in the ...
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| Pain after sex | 10/11/2004 |
Q: I have a question. I'm 16 yrs. old and I'm sexually active. Usually I never had any pain during sex ...
A: if you're 16 and you're letting him come inside you, the pain is the least of your problems, as i ...
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| Boyfriend's erectile loss | 10/4/2004 |
Q: i have asked him, and he is baffled. he says it has never happened before. i don't know about ...
A: it's not easily answered; many times, it's due to "performance anxiety", a psychological condition ...
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| date | 10/2/2004 |
Q: For the typical adult woman, how many dates would she want before sex. Give me a "typical" good ...
A: i'm not female so this isn't clearly from a girl's perspective; every girl is unique, so there's no ...
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| sexless marriage | 10/2/2004 |
Q: I've read your responses to other women about how to handle a husband with no sex drive. I've tried ...
A: he needs to become part of the solution, instead of just giving you the usual lip-service responses; ...
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| I think im a lesbian???? | 9/30/2004 |
Q: Dont quite know what to say or ask.. Im 19 and extreamly confused. Ive always been one of the boys, ...
A: as you know, i can't help much, as you really have no question; you might want to consider exploring ...
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| pregnancy | 9/20/2004 |
Q: The other day me and my girlfriend were fooling around together. We both were fully clothed, but ...
A: don't think urinating has much to do with it; any time sperm get into a vagina, your odds are no ...
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| Sex | 8/24/2004 |
Q: The "not turning each other down" sounds stronger than it is.. There are many times that she starts ...
A: good; too much of a good thing can ruin it..and when you ask her, just let her know that it would be ...
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| Sex | 8/24/2004 |
Q: I think it could be the freguincy thing. Never thought about it.. But I guess its possible. We do ...
A: i'm not sure about this "never turning the other down" thing you have going; if one of you really ...
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| suspecting'' | 8/13/2004 |
Q: My friend is in confusion state. He like the girl in his adjacent house. But he is suspecting her ...
A: he needs to determine if he has good reason not to trust her, or if he's just being too controlling; ...
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| Is it erctile dysfunction? | 7/5/2004 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year. We were real good friends at first then we became ...
A: HE should be the one writing, not you; whether it's got something to do with how he sees you, ...
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| Exam Embarrassment | 7/2/2004 |
Q: I hope this is not out of line. I'm having trouble finding a place to post my question, probably ...
A: first of all, i doubt they're going to be exposing your penis, and if they do it wouldn't be for ...
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| Doubt | 7/1/2004 |
Q: My gf and i have 2 years together by now, everything is great in every time. The thing is that i've ...
A: you need to stop unless she somehow agrees to it, which we know she won't; it's a total invasion of ...
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| Too much to ask? | 6/28/2004 |
Q: Ever since we started dating, my girl friend always knew that I like to recieve oral sex on a daily ...
A: "daily blowjob"?..kinda like coffee in the morning, or 1 a day vitamin; nothing like taking the ...
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| Masturbation | 6/22/2004 |
Q: Its complicated. I think I'm a lesbian but I've kind of messed around with guys. Guys bore me ...
A: interesting; well to answer your question, i think you'll overcome your anxieties, especially if you ...
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| Oral Sex | 6/6/2004 |
Q: I have recently become involved with a woman and it looks as if we will be having sex soon. I really ...
A: before; my feeling is the foreplay should really become an effort to get her off once, BEFORE any ...
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| exhibitionism fetish | 6/5/2004 |
Q: Recently I have got in very good shape (lost a lot of weight, gained muscle definition and I have a ...
A: "normal" doesn't have alot of meaning, but certainly it's not common behavior; there's some ...
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| Decrease in Sex Drive | 5/29/2004 |
Q: My wife and I have always had a great sex life. However, her sex drive has decreased as of late. ...
A: decreased sex drive could have alot of causes; the first thing is to check for physical issues; i'd ...
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| Is our sexlife finished | 5/17/2004 |
Q: I've been with my girlfriend for 2 1/2 years and we have had problems with sex since our first time ...
A: it's not just the sexlife, it's the whole relationship that's in trouble; you need to tell her that ...
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| hung like a horse | 5/12/2004 |
Q: I am a man with a very large penis. I am about 10 1/2 inches long and this is a problem. I show ...
A: if you stop displaying it/discussing it as a circus attraction and instead make no mention of it, ...
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| cant orgasm! | 4/30/2004 |
Q: erm.....thats abit private init?
A: the whole topic can be considered "private"; but u wrote me, and i'm trying to figure it out; i'm ...
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| orgasm | 4/16/2004 |
Q: well maybe i have stopped too soon, but it gets SO intense that i have to stop ! and i have never ...
A: the vibrator should do the trick; u can even have your boyfriend use it on you to make it more ...
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| Embarrassing Situation | 4/7/2004 |
Q: This is rather an embarrassing question to ask, I'm not sure whether you are the right person to ...
A: some women have the ability to actually "ejaculate", so to speak, when they have an orgasm; this may ...
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| relationships | 4/6/2004 |
Q: My question is about unmarried people that are in college or recently graduated. I would like to ...
A: right or wrong implies a moral judgment that each person has to make; however if you have sex with ...
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| cheating | 3/30/2004 |
Q: you know what man that does kinda sound a little like me. the whole insecure, jealous b/f part. i do ...
A: realizing you're like that is a real good first step; it usually comes from insecurity based upon ...
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| cheating | 3/29/2004 |
Q: i kind of have a long question. i have been dating my girl for exactly one year from 3/23/03 and we ...
A: the chance to end it doesn't tell you anything; the only way to know is if she tells you or if you ...
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| a problem during sex | 3/16/2004 |
Q: Yes, im talking about just intercourse. She doesn't really touch my penis because shes scared. She ...
A: condoms can be a problem for some guys; unless she gets on the pill, there's not much you can ...
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| a problem during sex | 3/15/2004 |
Q: I can orgasm during masterbation. My girlfriend doesn't like to give oral sex, so we just stick to ...
A: again, are we talking just about intercourse?...does she stimulate you by touching your penis?...can ...
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| pumping longer | 3/1/2004 |
Q: I am newly married. I always make sure I give my wife an orgasm before I do. I do a lot of foreplay ...
A: doing it every day is alot; if you waited longer in between your erection might improve; as to ...
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| Thanks for your reply. I wish... | 3/1/2004 |
Q: I wish you didn't take it so personally though..so I made a mistake and went for the wrong "expert". ...
A: hey there; i was really just mainly teasing you about the "second choice" stuff...as for the ...
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| sex | 2/20/2004 |
Q: I HAve been married for ten years. my husband is 42 and i am 34. my question is:my husband has to ...
A: if i were you, i'd consider it insulting, and i'd have a real problem with it, as it indicates he ...
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| Husband is chronically "tired" | 1/31/2004 |
Q: Last June I married the very affectionate man I had been living with for the past ten years. While ...
A: you say you're not ready to "settle" for this passionless arrangement, but so far you have...unless ...
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| disinterest in sex/how to be interested | 1/18/2004 |
Q: I'm having a lot of trouble being interested in sex. My boyfriend is starting to get worried that ...
A: well it's either a physical or psychological cause...you should first see an endocrinologist to ...
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| sexual dysfunction/where to buy 100mg viagra cheap | 11/4/2003 |
Q: My husband is having trouble keeping an erection and he is only 38. I am 34, attractive and fit and ...
A: don't know; most insurance companies will cover so many a month..before relegating himself to viagra ...
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| abstinence unwilling | 8/2/2003 |
Q: i use to prostitute and do drugs, had three very deep and emotional relationships when i was. i did ...
A: too blunt?..that was tame; you should see some of the questions...i don't think anyone can answer ...
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| Why did I go soft so soon? | 7/7/2003 |
Q: My girlfriend and I were having sex for the 1st time yesterday and I found myself going soft within ...
A: get used to it because it happens occasionally to almost every guy...and the more you dwell on it, ...
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| husband shows no interest | 5/28/2003 |
Q: I am at my wits end. My husband of 10 years doesn't seem interested in having any physical contact ...
A: not sure how you can call a husband that's this insensitive to the needs of the one he loves "the ...
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| Arousal | 5/17/2003 |
Q: I am a 36 year old man. I have been married almost two years (my first marriage) and my wife and I ...
A: it's hard from just the info you provide to give you a definite answer..could be physical, ...
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| lack of sex...relationship problem? | 5/2/2003 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 4 months. I have two problems. First is a sexual ...
A: "know you should probably talk to him.."..that's quite an understatement...he's getting away with ...
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| masturbation | 1/15/2003 |
Q: my question is that my boyfriend masturbates in his sleep is this normal? it somtimes wakes me up ...
A: why not ask him if he's aware of it?...dreaming or not, it's fairly normal male behavior...it could ...
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